flirting techniques and lines

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  1. ultravires

    ultravires New Member

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    how do you guys flirt and what are the effective lines you ever used?
    i m here to learn, please feel free to preach. :biggrin1:
     
  2. robmass42

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    If I'm horned up and want to meet somebody, I can be pretty gregarious. I go with the old stand-by methods of being courteous, making plenty of eye contact (without leering), genuine smiles, and showing a sincere interest by asking questions and listening to the answer are reliable ways to check for interest.

    If somebody looks really fit, ask them about their workout routine. If they're wearing clothes or an accessory that caught your attention, compliment them and ask a question about it.

    Pro sports are always a good conversation starter... don't assume that all men are interested, and women don't care. Throw out a comment or question to check for interest. If it dies, let it go. If there is a knowledgable response, go with it (I'm bi, so I've figured out how to flirt with both sexes).

    If things are clicking with a new guy, I eventually get around to an invitation to my hot tub. Most horny men who enjoy sex with other men will say yes. In general, women won't respond to that right away.
     
  3. ultravires

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    thats very helpful!
    i actually like the fact that you are a father.
    a fit sexy hot man in their late 30s, early 40s, hot hot hot!
     
  4. Not big, not small

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    I'm not sure if this qualifies as flirting but here it is: if you go to a gym, sometimes it's easy to spot gay/bi men cuz they're always looking around. If you guys are in the showers at the same time, pay attention to catch him looking. If you see him peeking more often than not, feel comfortable to send in your messages cuz you might have a winner. Stare at their tool, then make eye contact, may be while you wash yourself you know where... they'll get the point. Trust me it works, or at least it's worked the two times I've tried it. Of course this only applies to the gym and public showers and if you wanna go straight to the fun stuff without the formalities...
    As for women, that's is an art not many men can fully master. Being bi, I've noticed I connect really well with women and know and understand how they think and how to approach them. Your tactics have to be 'custom made' for the girl you're after: you have to know whether their easy or their one of the few young women left with some sense of marality and descensi, you have to know if they like the bad boys, the geek, the school guy, the sport jock... You can tell some of this by the way they dress and act, and sometimes you just have to guess...
    Good luck...
     
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    Don't worry about stock lines. Think of anything appropriate to the moment and then always respond with something that keeps the conversation moving. "Really, why is that?" Chit chat is the easiest form of flirting.
     
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    For a girl, perhaps:

    That's a nice top. did you get it from (insert UK store here)?
    you didn,t orly? *cue yarly owl&* etc

    Just normal convo, smiling. etc..

    Might be different for gay guys...me no know.
     
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    When I flirt, it was less about the lines and more about the words. Tell them how handsome they are (or pretty). Compliment their style of dress, make jokes...

    People here seem to love it.:rolleyes: :tongue:
     
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    For hitting on women, the golden rule is, "act like you dont need it and you will get it for free." That said, one of my old favorites was just to ask a girl for a smoke in a bar. The kicker is, pick a girl that doesnt smoke. when she says she doesnt have one, or says she doesnt smoke, say "Oh, thats cool. I didnt really want one, I just wanted to talk to you." Always worked well for me.
     
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    I find that talking to a girl and actually being interested in what she is saying helps. If she's not interesting then chances are I can't fake interest and I tend to want to wander off. Just talk to her, the rest comes naturally.
     
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    He: Excuse me, want to dance?
    She: No.
    He: Maybe you didn't hear me ... I said you look really fat in those pants!

    He : Hey Baby ... Wanna dance?
    She : No.
    He : Oh, C'mon! Lower you're standards a little. I did...

    Wow! Are those real?

    Cold out isn't it? (staring at tits)

    Gee, that's a nice set of legs, what time do they open?

    I've had quite a bit to drink, and you're beginning to look pretty good.

    Do you know the difference between a hamburger and a blow job?
    No! Well in that case, D'ya wanna do lunch?

    Excuse me, miss, do you give head to strangers?
    No? Well, then, allow me to introduce myself.

    Hey babe, how about a pizza and a blowjob?
    [Slap] HEY! What's wrong, you don't like pizza?

    Soooo ... What is a slutty girl like you doing in a classy place like this?
     
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    I thought I would comment on this thread because I am so crap at pulling/picking up! Am brilliant at conversation once it has started, but if I go to a bar/club I will without a doubt not be approached all night... Now as a young, good-looking gay male this might seem incredibly strange right? Exactly what I think!! I have a friend who manages to get numbers just walking down the street (absolutely HATE going to clubs with him :rolleyes: )

    Now considering how easy it is to get laid when you are gay, and the fact that I am considered in some circles to be pretty hot stuff :tongue: I couldn't for the life of me figure it all out??? Was I a leper?? Completely delusional about my looks?

    It wasn't until I got my first serious boyfriend that I was enlightened. Apparently I appear very "aloof and intimidating" and give off a vibe that says "don't even try." I had no clue! My (now-ex) was intuitive enough to see through it to the somewhat insecure guy underneath and went for it - I was with him for a year.

    The moral of the story? If you see someone who is good looking and you think you don't have a shot.. TALK TO THEM. They are probably doing what I do...sitting there wondering what is wrong with them waiting for someone to approach them!
     
  12. GoneA

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    Excellent post ... I agree 100%. :wink:
     
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    :sgrin:
     
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    Dude, you are a living dog!
     
  15. WildHoney

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    Quicksilver....insert girl for guy in your sentence and you have me word for word. I hate picking up etc but love talking to men .....I am always told I was way too intimidating to approach...I HATE that.

    HOney
     
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    The old "Can I call you Thanks Giving?" one sometimes works.. (if only for the laugh-factor) If she asks "why", then "You remind me of an American holiday because you look like a bird that needs to be stuffed". (I've ONLY used this one on people I already know, mainly for the joke-factor)

    Can always go for the "how much does a polar bear weigh"... (enough to break the ice).. but, I personally prefer to leave the out... How much does a bi-polarbear weigh? Enough to break the ice... or not...
     
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    rope, you hit the nail on the head, chit chat can go a long long ways, just remember to keep a positive attitude, avoid saying anything negative, that can be a huge turn off, and avoid topics such as politics and religion. start off with something as simple as the weather, but remember no matter how shitty it is outside, keep it positive, and a smile can also go a long ways, just make sure you brush your teeth and take a breath mint if you think that you need one.


     
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    lines are for actors. or coke parties. unless you have a knack for delivery they'll always fall flat.

    flirting seems to me a natural extension of being skilled in the art of conversation, which sounds like an obvious statement, but i don't think many people today consider conversation a practice one can work at improving (if they want to). sure, some folks have innate communication abilities, but much can be learned too.

    like quicksilver, i was told i often came across as aloof (my now best friend is less kind--"stuck up" were his words--bitch). not because i'm shy or lack communication skills--it was just easier (i'm not a bad looking guy--i still got laid and had relationships, but only on my guarded terms. nobody ever hit on me).

    my big learning came when i interned for a local politician. he was a great role model. ivy league lawyer, blueblood family--he genuinely enjoyed understanding all of his constituents and once told me he found all of their stories enriching. pretty cool. it was then that i realized i had been going to the same coffee shop for years, never having a conversation with any of the counter people. or never chatted with a cab driver. i was missing out on their stories. fundraising events demanded polished banter and i got pretty good at working a room. early in my internship i always maintained a mental checklist of dozens of topics i could talk about--the news, a book i read, travel plans, sports, restaurants, stocks, movies, what i was doing in school--whatever, just enough to keep conversation interesting. after awhile expressing my interests or figuring out the 'stories' of others became second nature and the mental lists were no longer required. when you develop that confidence people find you interesting regardless of the topic, but i had to practice.

    so, i guess what i'm saying is, practice extending yourself to the variety of people around you (not just the dude you want to sack;-). and figure out your own stories and how you want to tell them. you'll soon be flirting like a pro and you won't even know it.
     
  19. OmahaBeef

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    I usually entice them with an opportunity to accompany me to the landfill to shoot blackbirds with a .22 rifle and guzzle Old Milwaukee.

    ...OB
     
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