Flirty note from student. What to do?

[D_Alma Lovin]

I would leave the note on grade the paper and pass them back....actually you can really stir things up if you have one of your TA's or a grad student pass the papers back..

 

[Mule]

ok, you've covered your back.

you're so bloody nice!

I really didn't want to cause a lot of trouble for her just to prevent a remote possibility of problems for me. I think that this is a good "middle way" solution. Hopefully it doesn't become an ongoing issue, but if it does, I would feel okay with telling her face-to-face that a relationship is not on the cards.

 

[dolfette]

I really didn't want to cause a lot of trouble for her just to prevent a remote possibility of problems for me. I think that this is a good "middle way" solution. Hopefully it doesn't become an ongoing issue, but if it does, I would feel okay with telling her face-to-face that a relationship is not on the cards.

as long as you're confident she won't turn bunny boiler.

 

[Trouty]

For those that don't know, I teach college. The new school year has started and I got the first crop of reports from one of my freshman classes. Inside a report was a Post-It note with a handwritten note reading:

"I know you're big. I've been watching."

This report was submitted by a female student. It's too early in the semester for me to recall who is who in this class, but of course next time I'll be looking to see who she is.

Question is, what do I do? I can't think of a way of responding without putting myself in a tenuous professional position. I have no intention of pursuing a professor/student fling, but I feel like I should somehow respond, let her know that I saw the note, or do something about it. Any ideas?

Surely as a teaching professional you know the answer to this one, duh?

What do you teach media studies FFS!

 

[jeffs]

Surely as a teaching professional you know the answer to this one, duh?

What do you teach media studies FFS!

The guy already took care of the situation and people are still giving him suggestions.

 

[D_Hyacinth Harrytwat]

Where I work, a B is quite good. A's are only awarded for exceptional work. This is an institution with extremely high academic standards.

Anywhere with high standards...

Right right... Different systems.

 

[MASSIVEPKGO_CHUCK]

As I said before, I never had any intention of pursuing it. My dilemma was how to handle the situation.

Well, what else do you think applies, blurting out in class, "which one of you ladies sent me this note?"?
Better thing forget the whole thing happen, unless it repeats itself, then try & find out who did it.

 

[Simon9]

Oh my GOD! A NOTE!!!

First contact your supervisor. THEN contact the dean's office. Then make triplicate copies of THE NOTE and file them away in three sealed vaults for future reference. Make sure to contact at least three different attorneys specializing in sexual harrassment. Get a note from the pope (if you're Catholic). Then write your governor and both senators. THEN....


Omygod....toss note...flush incident from mind.

 

[Mule]

As usual, a sincere post asking for input brings out the best and worst that this site has to offer.

So here's another update. I handed the report back to the student, and she gave me a dazzling smile when I did so. Nothing as obvious as a wink, but just a big smile. I couldn't help but watch her eyes but she wasn't checking out the front of my pants... at least not then!

The class progressed without anything worth mentioning. They have another paper due on Tuesday of next week, so I guess we'll see if she decides the note trick again.

 

[justmeincal]

Let us know if she does it again.

 

[blakobra8]

this isn't sexy at all...

 

[Himura]

I should somehow respond, let her know that I saw the note, or do something about it. Any ideas?

Put a post-it in her lab/workbook/whatever and have it say how creepy she is

 

[Mule]

this isn't sexy at all...

Should it be?

 

[D_Jack Hammerschitz]

I really didn't want to cause a lot of trouble for her just to prevent a remote possibility of problems for me. I think that this is a good "middle way" solution. Hopefully it doesn't become an ongoing issue, but if it does, I would feel okay with telling her face-to-face that a relationship is not on the cards.

I agree that this is likely the best solution if she continues to importune you. Only escalate this beyond a simple matter between the two of you if she continues without regard to the consequences of her actions after you have directly told her that this will not go any further.

 

[TheRob]

honestly you should probubly report the incident, if you do not it can look like you are 'leading' her on

 

[blakobra8]

put it in her mouth?

 

[musclemonkey5]

Where I work, a B is quite good. A's are only awarded for exceptional work. This is an institution with extremely high academic standards.

Ok look. Some of us not so lucky kids grow up in poor families and have to acquire a scholarship such as the HOPE by getting a B average or higher in High School. A B Average must be maintained in College to keep this scholarship. Are you telling me that you give your students B's for excellent work??? So if I normally get B's for doing very good work, an A or so for absolutely outstanding, and a handful of C's because family emergency, a couple of bad days, etc., then I am going to lose my scholarship!

I hate clueless teachers like you, I hope the slut does ruin your carear..

 

[B_jeepguy2]

Does your university have a policy against teachers having relationships with students? If not I would wait untul after the end of the semester when she won't be in your class anymore and fuck her silly. LOL

 

[dolfette]

Ok look. Some of us not so lucky kids grow up in poor families and have to acquire a scholarship such as the HOPE by getting a B average or higher in High School. A B Average must be maintained in College to keep this scholarship. Are you telling me that you give your students B's for excellent work??? So if I normally get B's for doing very good work, an A or so for absolutely outstanding, and a handful of C's because family emergency, a couple of bad days, etc., then I am going to lose my scholarship!

I hate clueless teachers like you, I hope the slut does ruin your carear..

so she's a slut just for leaving a note?
and he deserves to be fired for following the grading guidelines?

it's not his fault your education system is unfair.
and you're an arse.

 

[lickme69]

Everyone keeps asking if his school has a policy refraining him from dating students. If it doesn't then it should. In no way should he get involved with a student. It is just asking for trouble. Who cares if she is a slut???? Leaving a note like that does not make her a slut. Maybe she wants a better grade or maybe she is really interested. Who knows or who cares. He did the right thing. Let's end this post.