say if youre gay or bi, but closeted, and had somewhat strong feelings towards masculinity and heterosexuality (meaning if you're not hetro, you're obviously not masculine). and what if your friend said to you "being gay or bi doesn't make you less of a man" would that make you feel better about coming clean to your friend? i said that to my friend today, who by the way is the reason why i'm bi, and he didn't say anything back to it. this isn't the first time i've tried to get him to at least confide in me fantasies that he's had. i've explained my situation many times to him but nothing has come up yet. kind of annoying.