for asian women

[sbat]

It's really not complicated.

Try telling a Korean person that all Koreans look the same. Or a Japanese person or a Chinese person.*

Then see if they are less offended if you continue making lots of arguments that you are correct that all the people from their nation looks the same.

They will be offended.


* I honestly don't recommend this.

Ah, there it is! That's not at all what I said or what I implied.

I said I could distinguish with high accuracy between people in those three groups - I exaggerated at 90, but based on my quiz average, let's say 70%

Unless you're suggesting that in fact, they ALL look alike regardless of nationality, it's not an unreasonable claim. Why? Well the fact that we have the Caucasoid, Negroid, and Mongoloid groupings, which are defined, among things, by physical features, we already acknowledge that there are broad physical characteristics that are shared by racial groups.

People that identify as Korean do so because they share blood with other people of that social group. People that share blood tend to look alike. For example, you look more like your mother and father than you do anyone else. You probably also look similar to first cousins, grandparents, and nieces and nephews. The further away from your immediate family you move on the human family tree, the less and less resemblance there is (aside from random coincidence), until you get to me, where there is no question that we are not of the same nation or race.

The political, biological, nutritional, and economic history of the region has played a role in the mini-biological drift that has prevented complete miscegenation (and therefore distinguishable physical traits between the groups).

Ultimately, you can choose to see racism or the sentiment of "they all look alike" in what I'm saying. If you do, it's something that you create in my words. I'm not making any value judgement raising or lowering any race, and I've already acknowledged at least a 30% error in my ability. I haven't said that "all Koreans have this" - I simply said that having a look at the face of a Korean, Chinese, or Japanese person, I have a 70% probability of being right at saying where they come from.

 

[abriel]

ok, so i've been curious about this for a while...and i thought it would be enlightening to hear it from you gals straight.

i'm an asian dude and i have an 8x5.5 penis. i'm not that tall, probably just under average height or something, and i've always believed that penis size DOES matter a lot to girls, even to a lot of the asian girls i know who won't readily admit it. now, i've only dated white girls in the past primarily because i went to ritzy white private school and mostly white college, but was interested in dating an asian girl someday.

lot of my asian buddies complain that asian girls go for white guys or maybe even black dudes because they have bigger dicks than asian guys. but i know plenty of asian girls who have seen my dick and know how big i am still choose to go for white guys (mostly they go for white guys...not sure how they feel about black guys...) So, i'm thinking there's gotta be something else they're going for...but i'm just not sure what it is?

Why do you gals go for white guys? I'm sure penis size has something to do with it...but I'm under the impression that's only part of the story...there's definitely something else you don't think you can get with asian guys that them white boyz got.

promise i won't get mad at anything you might say. :newangel: i'm just curious and wondering what it is I would need to successfully pursue you girls!

Penis size has nothing to do with the initial attraction because I usually don't see a guy's penis before meeting the rest of him.
Seriously? I have met several Asian and Asian American guys that I've been attracted to. Problem was, they weren't attracted to me because they were more into tall, blue-eyed blondes.
Chances are, if you grow up in a family with Asian faces, what's different from you is going to be what you're attracted to.
Attraction has never come down to race for me or penis size, really. That's just the icing on the cake.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

I don't go around telling any race they all look the same. I figure races that look differently from my own also think that about mine. I think you are taking out a lot of anger about multiple other stereotypes you've incurred and bringing them under this umbrella as a whole.

While i don't go around telling certain races they all look the same, i also don't hang out with people who are easily offended or wear their emotions on their sleeve.

So, you think if i went to any part of Asia or Africa where there are predominantly non-white looking people that if they saw my fair skin and bright red hair they'd presume i am Irish? Do i get offended when they presume that? I get it all the time. But i'm not Irish.

Even, I, as a redhead wonder if other redheads are Irish. It's just a national trait, even though Scotland i believe thas the highest percentage of redheads of all the world.

 

[petite]

Being a minority means that you carry with you a lifetime of racial insults that began from the time that you understood language. You don't need to understand why something is offensive, just that it is and try to avoid it.

Also, if we're covering all offensive terms, never ever say "yellow fever" because that one hits a nerve with me, so I'm sure it does with other Asian women.

Also, there is one phrase that has haunted my me my entire sexual life and every single person who has ever said has thought they were so clever. It's "love me long time." You would think that people would know that it's offensive to compare any woman with a hungry child prostitute from a movie, especially to her face, but dozens of people have felt completely comfortable saying it in regards to me.

First, my understanding is that things are oriental. People are Asian.
That was explained to me by an Asian American guy that was distinctly offended when I referred to my self as Oriental.
I didn't know because I grew up in a community that had no other Asian families, blended or otherwise, and my mother didn't know.

It really has nothing to do with grammar. It's actually a lot more complicated than that and you'll have to go to an Asian forum and browse that word to really understand. I don't recommend that you ask the question because some people will feel offended that you don't know enough about being Asian to already know that it is offensive, which is ridiculous.

I've made the mistake of saying that I don't consider it offensive if someone calls me "Oriental" on an Asian forum. DO NOT MAKE THAT MISTAKE! Trust me. I've never been so thoroughly reemed online. It was my first time getting flamed and I've never been flamed so badly since then. It is not a good idea! Many Asian people will react like you've used the "N" word to a black person.

It's especially offensive to Asians in California, but you never know if someone might have relatives there or come from there, so I recommend always avoiding the term.

 

[abriel]

It really has nothing to do with grammar. It's actually a lot more complicated than that and you'll have to go to an Asian forum and browse that word to really understand. I don't recommend that you ask the question because some people will feel offended that you don't know enough about being Asian to already know that it is offensive, which is ridiculous.

I'm sure it is and I do seriously just avoid it all together.

Also, if we're covering all offensive terms, never ever say "yellow fever" because that one hits a nerve with me, so I'm sure it does with other Asian women.

I second this. I also know from speaking with my female friends that share the same blended ethnicity that I do that it also offends them.
You can argue all you want that it's okay to say that you have 'yellow fever' or to make broad and sweeping generalizations about Asian women and what they do and don't like - but it stands to reason that if every Asian/ Asian-American woman is saying the same thing, it might be true.

Also, there is one phrase that has haunted my me my entire sexual life and every single person who has ever said has thought they were so clever. It's "love me long time." You would think that people would know that it's offensive to compare any woman with a hungry child prostitute from a movie, especially to her face, but dozens of people have felt completely comfortable saying it in regards to me.

That one thing has been the bane of my life. Dear God, I hate it with a passion that knows no bounds. And yes, a great deal of my earliest sexual experiences are completely and totally marred because some troglodyte thought that I would be flattered.

Another pet peeve though not as badly:
"Exotic". It makes me feel like a parrot or a lizard. Some exotic pet. It annoys me - I wouldn't say it offends me but it does annoy me.

 

[petite]

Mlle. Rouge, I'm glad to hear that you are not easily offended. However, as a person who appears to be Caucasian in a predominantly Caucasian country, the likelihood that you had to endure a lot of racial taunts your entire life are low, so that is probably the reason why you are not offended if someone says something about your racial heritage.

Your lack of emotional response to other people's comments on your racial heritage is just like my lack of emotional response to the word "Oriental." As I stated earlier, since the term "Oriental" has never been used as a racial taunt towards me or any of my family members, it does not hit any nerves. I am unaffected by it emotionally, even though I am Asian, because the use of that word as a weapon is not part of my past experience. It is emotionally meaningless to me, just like these words are emotionally meaningless to you.

However, having experienced what it is like to be taunted by other words, I understand the feelings that the word would arouse in others who have been abused by it, so I am sensitive to not using it.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

Personally i think the whole Asian fascination in porn is offensive. I'm not even Asian, but if i were, i'd be even more pissed. I've seen Asian ladies in the chatroom go on cam and some guy who was totally cool turns into a complete bafoon fumbling about going on and on about "Oh my God, you are Asian, i just love Asian women..."

And i'll say "And she's beautiful, and she's smart too!" and he'll go "And she's Asian!"

All Asian women have their own personality just like we white or black people do, i get tired of this idea that they are all tight, subserviant and the ideal material to fuck just because of their race. It's really embarrassing to even think of how stupid the whole thing is. Go peruse Craigslist therapeutic massage ads and they take one Korean looking girl and plaster her photo in every advertisement under a different so called "therapist" name. It's unfortunate.

BTW Petite, its easy to presume that people havent been raised in a certain anything. We can't possibly know that. The reason why im not easily offended is because i was raised in the black part of the city in a predominantly black and hispanic school until i was in my teens. I have heard it all. I've also been assaulted physically when i was a teenager for being white. So don't presume anything about anyone- ever. We don't know anyones history until they tell us.

It is pretty rough being any race growing up around an entirely different racial group. Ask white people about not being Philipino in Hawaiian schools, they are considered 2nd class citizens. If you are a white person in a black school that isnt a charter school and full of gangs, you will be the ass of every joke in the classroom.

For a long time i hated being a white person. I was reminded everyday that i was horrible for my skin color. And when i got attacked from behind and called all sorts of insults for my whiteness and pulled out the left over strands of hair i had left on my head and wiped up the blood. I just sat and cried not understanding how this could happen when i'd gone out of my way to be so nice and non-offensive.

We moved away shortly thereafter for my safety and i'm so glad we did. I have a lot of black friends today, moreso than white friends, no matter what color the person was who beat me up.

 

[abriel]

Personally i think the whole Asian fascination in porn is offensive. I'm not even Asian, but if i were, i'd be even more pissed. I've seen Asian ladies in the chatroom go on cam and some guy who was totally cool turns into a complete bafoon fumbling about going on and on about "Oh my God, you are Asian, i just love Asian women..."

And i'll say "And she's beautiful, and she's smart too!" and he'll go "And she's Asian!"

All Asian women have their own personality just like we white or black people do, i get tired of this idea that they are all tight, subserviant and the ideal material to fuck just because of their race. It's really embarrassing to even think of how stupid the whole thing is. Go peruse Craigslist therapeutic massage ads and they take one Korean looking girl and plaster her photo in every advertisement under a different so called "therapist" name. It's unfortunate.

It's jack-assery. Seriously.
There's a difference between having a 'type' and doing -this-. I honestly don't even know what to call it.
To me it smacks of racism. Admittedly, I am a little sensitive to it but I can't help but think that if some of these things were applied to any other race; Jews or African-Americans, for instance, that there would be a huge outcry about it.
What I get all of the time instead is, "but it's not racism because it's good, right?"
It isn't good. On any level. And I don't understand why this is such a hugely difficult concept for some people.

 

[petite]

Mlle. Rouge, I'm sorry that you've experienced those things. Racial prejudice certainly isn't isolated to just minorities. That sounds very scary. I also have experience with attending a school wide a wide variety of racial groups and gang problems and lots of racial tensions. I did not survive unscathed.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

Then we can move off of this thread knowing a little more about those around us and what might hurt them so we can be better people out there in the real world i believe.

 

[petite]

That one thing has been the bane of my life. Dear God, I hate it with a passion that knows no bounds. And yes, a great deal of my earliest sexual experiences are completely and totally marred because some troglodyte thought that I would be flattered.

Yes, I've heard it as both an attempt to flirt and as an insult! I just can't believe that anyone would say it to a woman's face. That character was a starving child prostitute begging men to fuck her so she had money. It's disturbing! How is that not incredibly insulting to be compared to her? It honestly astounds me! You wouldn't believe how many people have said it to me over the course of my life.

Another pet peeve though not as badly:
"Exotic". It makes me feel like a parrot or a lizard. Some exotic pet. It annoys me - I wouldn't say it offends me but it does annoy me.

Oh god, I forgot about that one! I also attempted to argue that the word "exotic" wasn't that bad. My reaming on the forum didn't compare to the one I got for accidentally defending the word "Oriental" but it was still pretty bad!

The dual connotations of "slutty" and "Asian woman" is the root of the sensitivity with that one, the way that the same word is used to describe "Exotic Dancers" and women who are Asian, gives it a negative sexual connotation.

That's another dangerous word! Just less dangerous.

What I get all of the time instead is, "but it's not racism because it's good, right?"
It isn't good. On any level. And I don't understand why this is such a hugely difficult concept for some people.

I get annoyed at people who seem to feel that Asian people are the only minority who should never complain about racism or prejudice. I get a lot of that sort of response, that Asian people are too successful and too well thought of culturally to complain about racism.

 

[Epicfailguy]

OFFTOPIC: I love half breed Eurasian women. Great figures, nice pigmentation, exotic looking, big beautiful breasts.

Somebody get me to Hawaii.

sigh, i once met a girl that was just a quater indonesian.
she was so beautiful.
grey eyes dark brown hair, most beautifull smile and a butt that you could crack a wallnut with

too bad she was in a relationship already :redface:

 

[D_Wally Walnuts]

Also, there is one phrase that has haunted my me my entire sexual life and every single person who has ever said has thought they were so clever. It's "love me long time." You would think that people would know that it's offensive to compare any woman with a hungry child prostitute from a movie, especially to her face, but dozens of people have felt completely comfortable saying it in regards to me.

People actually said that? That merits an ass whooping.

 

[petite]

People actually said that? That merits an ass whooping.

And every time I've wanted to "whoop ass."

I've heard it ever since I first grew breasts. That phrase has haunted me since I was 12 years old. You have no idea how it makes me cringe.

Men say it trying to imply that you must be an easy slut and they're interested, and women say it implying that you're a horny easy slut who will do anything for money. And every single person acts like they were the first person on earth to think of saying, "love you long time" to an Asian woman and they're so clever for thinking of it.

Oh, also, Woody Allen/Soon-Yi jokes. And Yoko Ono jokes. So many of those! I didn't get any of those until I got older, though.

Those are the three most common "You're dating an Asian woman" joke sources.

Seriously, if you're dating an Asian woman and someone makes jokes like that within earshot and instead of laughing you shoot a dirty look at him/her or shake your head or make it somehow clear that it wasn't okay with you, then you will probably impress her.

 

[D_Barachiah Bigpickle]

I'm engaged to a Thai woman. She is constantly having to deal with negative perceptions people have of Thai women and girls. I got fired from a job a few years back because some asshole asked me if I met her in a whorehouse.... I knocked his front tooth out, and they fired me on the spot. Fuck it. It was worth it. Some people are fucked up in the head.

 

[B_subgirrl]

Personally i think the whole Asian fascination in porn is offensive. I'm not even Asian, but if i were, i'd be even more pissed. I've seen Asian ladies in the chatroom go on cam and some guy who was totally cool turns into a complete bafoon fumbling about going on and on about "Oh my God, you are Asian, i just love Asian women..."

A lot of women here have an obsession with black guys (probably the same in America). Anyone who's black will do. Some of the poor African guys at uni practically get mobbed sometimes.

 

[sbat]

A lot of women here have an obsession with black guys (probably the same in America). Anyone who's black will do. Some of the poor African guys at uni practically get mobbed sometimes.

Haha, that happened to me in Tokyo. I will never ever complain about someone loving me just for my skin color. It can get really annoying, but having experienced racist love and racist hate, I'll take getting love any day, for any reason.

 

[B_subgirrl]

LOL If you came here you would indeed be very popular.

 

[sbat]

LOL If you came here you would indeed be very popular.

My cousin spent a couple years at Curtin. Girls generally mob him wherever he goes, but his time there turned him into a serious playboy.:frown1:

 

[Boondocksaints]

And then you just jump right into racism, right after I said not to.

Put your ability to distinguish them to the test:

AllLookSame - China, Japan, Korea: What’s the difference?

I don't understand why you are getting so offended, Petite? As an Asian myself, I can usually tell between Chinese, Korean, Japanese, Vietnamese, etc. Of course, you can always find examples of people that are ambiguous in any race- just some of the people in this test.

Isn't Sbat saying the exact opposite of what you are offended by? (that all Asians look the same- which I would be offended too)