For Bottom: How To Enjoy Anal Sex

Lee_asian_091

Admired Member
Joined
Jul 11, 2017
Posts
665
Media
2
Likes
772
Points
138
Location
Indonesia
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
Hey guys!
So where I'm from, being gay isn't accepted at all. So I'm in closet. I used to use Grindr but I never really trusted anyone to do anal sex with there. (Probably because I'm a bit paranoid about STD and especially HIV because my cousin is HIV+)
Long story short, I met a guy from Spain online and we had been communicating for over 2 years. He visited my country and he was the first (and the only one for now) man that has ever fucked me.

I enjoyed having him inside of me emotionally (I'm 100% bottom, knowing that I satisfy my top really turns me on). However, having him inside of me felt a little bit awkward. Fortunately, it didn't hurt but I got that wanting-to-pee and defecate (sorry for the language) sensation and I had to ask him to stop because I had to go to the bathroom.

He was okay with me stopping him halfway and continued once I was sure I wasn't going to defecate. Anyway, I saw on amateur porn videos how guys enjoy being fucked and I want that so badly but I couldn't get pass those feelings. I was so turned on one time that I tried to finger myself and tried to find my prostrate, but once I played with it, those sensations came back and I just got uncomfortable and turned off. Was that normal?
And what can I do to enjoy it?
I'm not top, that's one thing for sure. I have never nor have I wanted to fuck someone.

If you've read this far, thank you so much and I'm looking forward to see your replies.
Thanks! Have a good day!
 

Stingray08

Cherished Member
Joined
Jan 21, 2011
Posts
230
Media
0
Likes
433
Points
218
Location
United States
Sexuality
99% Gay, 1% Straight
Gender
Male
A lot of it, for me, depends on the position. I am most comfortable on top or on my back. I can find I get that same feeling you describe when I’m on my knees or stomach.

Just have to experiment around a bit to see what feels best for the both of you.
 

Brodie888

Worshipped Member
Joined
Dec 10, 2015
Posts
3,056
Media
0
Likes
12,703
Points
233
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
If you use sex toys for a while, your body will learn to differentiate between something going in from something wanting to come out.

If you practice by yourself you can get through the learning phase so it's less stressful with someone you have just met.

Ideally, you should try to find someone with experience who you can play with regularly and give you the reassurance you need.

A lot of your fear is based on the unknown. Remove as many of the unknown variables as possible and you will be much happier.
 
  • Like
Reactions: Jaytt8

Lee_asian_091

Admired Member
Joined
Jul 11, 2017
Posts
665
Media
2
Likes
772
Points
138
Location
Indonesia
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
If you use sex toys for a while, your body will learn to differentiate between something going in from something wanting to come out.

If you practice by yourself you can get through the learning phase so it's less stressful with someone you have just met.

Ideally, you should try to find someone with experience who you can play with regularly and give you the reassurance you need.

A lot of your fear is based on the unknown. Remove as many of the unknown variables as possible and you will be much happier.

thanks man, that really helps