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Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by B_kracker, Apr 25, 2009.

  1. B_kracker

    B_kracker New Member

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    just curious about married men or dads having some guilt about having a sexual relationship, with a guy, how has it effected the sex life with your wife, how has effected your relationship with your son knowing that often the apple doesn't fall far from the tree ( an no I'm not suggesting any kind of incest).. would you want him looking for sex on the down low, knowing the risks evolved? both health an emotional
     
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    My marriage ended. I did have lots of guilt. My oldest son "disliked" me for a long time. He grew up having 6 kids with 4 different women. I think he was trying to prove a point, that he was not gay and never slept with men. Today we get along great. Just took him a long time to forgive or underestand me. my other two kids were younger at the time and was never a problem for them.
     
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    I can relate Flaman, You think you can suppress your sexuallity, but you cant, not for ever it does eventually catch up with you. The consequences can the be many and varied, broken marrage, physical and or mental breakdown, You have to realise, and not always easy with outside peer pressure and morals. I grew up in the fifties Homosexuality and just ceased to be an inprisonal offence age of consent was 21. You were classed as a social out cast and a filthy pervert. Its bad enough discovering your sexuallity but then faced with the moral and social dilema. No wonder there where so many closeted gay guys.

    My ex wife knew I was attracted to men before we were married, she always belived that her love for me would change all that. Many know as well as I do "love does not conqure all.

    Then when everything falls apart when you can no longer contain your inner innate feelings, you are faced with the scurge of societys morals.

    Although it may feel equally as bad for closeted gay guys of this day and age. People and the law are far more tllerrent and acepting making it somewhat easier.
     
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    Wow, great topic...

    I am a widowed father, 3 grown sons (1 grandson). Bi (I prefer the term 'sexual')
    I did have sexual encounters with men while married (safe always) high sex drive here. Did she know? I strongly believe she did, it was never directly address, but I know when pregnant she said 'be sure to take care of yourelf....'.

    now that she is gone- the thought of dating a woman...not there yet, sexual situations- yes, but dating? Survivor guilt? maybe. she was the 'one great one' I believe.

    A few years ago I had a 'bad luck/great luck'- my son walked in on me (the dog had a rawhide and didn't bark), so I was 'busy' watching porn, riding a (large) dildo, happily 'engaged'. Long story short- we wound up having an amazing conversation- seems my middle son (the youngest twin) is also bi. We have really bonded, and it also seemed to relax/open up my relattionships with my other sons. (not in a sexual way but in a 'we are men, with hormones' way.

    I wish my sons to be happy- wife? parter? as long as they are happy.
     
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    i LOVE this topic!!!

    never been married, nor do i have kids. always known i was gay.

    i find your stories fascinating and hope that more of you will share!
     
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    I am a very open and sexual person so that is way I feel I have even gone all the way with a man. I know I am straight but do find males attractive. I love my wife and she is my best friend. She knows and understands me. She is not aware that I have been with other men but she know my feelings for them. If she new about my encounters with a male I think she would just be mad she wasnt asked to join.

    As for my sons...
    They both have girlfriends and show very little evidence of being gay. However I was the exact same way when I was younger and there age. If they did have the same feelings as I did when I was their age I would like to help them and let them know that their feelings are natural and ok.

    But back to the question... if my sons dont have the same feelings toward individuals of their same sex, I feel If they found out they would be very, embarrassed and ashamed of me. They are young and naive and I feel they would be very disappointed in me.
     
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    Born in 1939 I grew up in a small village in Germany without TV and internet,so there was very little we knew about being gay.-I felt that I was different from the other boys who wre interested in girls and got a hard on when we went dancing on the satuday hop.-So got married not knowing any better.Only after six years of marriage I found out what was going on,my wife cpould not live with the fact and we got divorced.I have two daughters who were 3 and 5 at the time,they grew up with their mother and had been brainwashed.But when they got older they could understand and now have no problem with me being gay.-I have made many mistakes in my life,most of them have been fun and I don´t regret,but I shouldn´t have gotten married.That was the biggest mistake of my life.I have lived in an LTR with a man two years younger for 21 years.That made up for it all.Unfortunately he died a few years ago.So I am an old man now watching you sexy guys with those big dicks on sites like this one with great pleasure!! Thanks for sharing all your hard cocks !!
     
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