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Do we have any guys on the board who have done
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with another guy? No frat hyjinks when you pledged in college, no strip poker with your pals... I mean you have never seen another hard or semi cock on another adult outside of a locker room... So my question is... why? I would have to think that the older one gets the more unusual it would be that you have had zero contact with another person of the same sex. I’m simply talking about the math here- every year added to your life increases the ratio.
I know that availability to internet pornography along with the male sexualization of western society, and the mainstreaming of GLBTQ rights and issues have continued to shape social norms, and I know that young people are becoming more sexually mature and active at younger ages. Sexual education in schools has told gen XYZ and later that they can do whatever pleases them, as long as they are legal, respectful and not hurting a willing partner. Maybe the odds of finding a guy who hasn’t thought about a bro job, or allowed a buddy fantasy of a threesome to get to a nut, but who is still on the board reading this might become much less common as time goes on.
So my question is, “if you have literally never done anything with a buddy, or a stranger, or anyone- or even thought of that as a possible way to get some joy out of life.. why is that? I’ve heard lots of answers before, ranging from religious influences (“sex is wrong outside of marriage, and/or homosexual behavior is sinful”) to no interest (“I’m attracted to pussy, so I have no interest whatsoever, or repulsed by the idea of interacting with parts that match my own.”). I’ve heard the standard answer- “if eggplant doesn’t interest me, and I’m not looking to try new foods, you can’t force me to try it.” In other words, “lack of experience isn’t a necessary reason to justify trying something I’m inherently not interested in, or maybe naturally repulsed by.” Or perhaps you look at sex as an act of importance and you would never treat it as “recreational” (meaning a one-off with a stranger you will never meet again has no consequence.)
I am always interested when I meet a guy in my age group who is uncircumcised- perhaps they grew up outside of the USA, or in a very rural home, or had a pro-foreskin dad who helped them skip the knife, but it’s something different than myself. (Certainly these rates have dropped so much in America that its no longer a point of common conversation, unlike the tattoos that we can tell each other about in the locker room.) It’s a visual part of ourselves, has no inherent positive or negative meaning, and can be a point of conversation sitting in the sauna to someone who is open and friendly.
By the same token, this is LPSG. We are here to share and talk about interesting topics, and have opportunities to learn from each other. So rather than flaming or scolding, we can either participate in conversation, quietly lurk in the anonymity of internet shadows, or turn and walk away. I’d hope that you would choose to participate, and not complain that this question has been asked and answered thousands of times, or that this dead horse has finally been beaten to death- perhaps it’s a revival of a theme.
If you are a guy that, by your own choice, identifies as pure 100% straight on the absolute spectrum end, no same sex attraction, no sexual appreciation for a naked male body who has a huge cock, etc... totally black and white, no gray area.... : Did your friends help to shape your thoughts and feelings growing up? Did you have a macho role model that you emulated? Did you connect with girls your age (or maybe an older woman) who arrested your attention early on that put you on a “one track mind?” Remember many of these things may have occurred before age 18, so we can’t talk about them specifically in open forums here.
Kinsey studies show that most men range on the sexual spectrum, and if the 90/10 hetero/gay numbers hold true there is more diversity (or at least openness) about where other guys mentally entertain themselves. We know it’s ok that everyone works their own desires differently (no one else controls my mind or fuels my own sexual appetite but me.). We know that attraction, appreciation/affinity and eroticm are all different things and that differrent folks have different rules, triggers, or even “barriers” that they may erect to protect themselves from acting inappropriately. While I believe that we are innately given a unique identity at birth that defines who we are, I think life provides opportunities for us to flesh out what we really like (pun intended) or to course correct, and with some this may mean making different choices, maybe even opposite choices, down the line.
So most guys I know have lived their lives by participation and experience, and can say they have defined the borders of their own lives by figuring out what works, what passions drive them, what they want from life, etc based on what they have done, what they have learned from the peer group they surround themselves with, or by what they are pursuing. That’s the way that most things operate, but when it comes to our biological needs this can get muddled up very quickly, for better or worse. Mother Nature is strong and she will eventually get us to betray ourselves to base instinct lol.
I’m hoping to hear from the guys on the board that are the self-identified 100 straight... I will not try to put words in your mouth or assume anything but I’m sure you would say “I’m just not interested in any sort of homo touch.” That’s AOK! I’m also thinking we’d hear you say “I’m only interested in having a place to show off my self pictures and hear from women.” that’s cool, bro. Maybe you want the status that comes from having a place on a discussion board that is all about having the sexual power from being the biggest and virile. It’s been that same way since caveman days and it doesn’t change here at LPSG, our species has that one hard-coded and you are very normal to want to hang around here for that.
You may not even change 1% because you don’t look at other guys’ profiles (or pictures!) but you like the novelty of the site, and so you stay around. But what I’m trying to understand is, why do you draw the boundary fence of your sexual self where you do? Do you think it’s because of how you think your friends (or family) view you? Is it tied to how you see social roles of men in our society? Do you think that you have become more tolerant to solo or same-sex behavior as you have gotten older and gaiined life experience?
We are all who we are- we are all different, and we are all unique. I would guess we surround ourselves with people that we like (to some extent) and we disassociate from those who we can’t tolerate or take joy from (if possible.). We all are on our own journeys, learning new things, and hopefully being made better by those who we are lucky enough to get to be an life influencer. Knowing this, I’m thinking that most of the guys on the board are always looking to engage with those who don’t have the same life experiences, but can take advantage of the LPSG board as a safe meeting place, albeit accepting that you may get burned by the occasional flame.
To put it another way, what aspects of your male sexuality do you restrict to only yourself, or make available to your spouse/girlfriend, but keep restrictions from your close guy friends? Where is your Iine, and do you see the LPSG as a virtual extension of the line that you would not extend to life outside your computer? If you don’t have a tribe that would back you up if you suddenly lost your health, family, possessions, etc (meaning a life-altering event that would cripple your current self-identity.) Do you think you have changed as a result of reading the posts on the discussion boards, or have they only cemented your view of life?
This long posting isn’t an attempt to convert or coerce. It’s opporunity for understanding each other.
N. O. T. H. I. N. G.
with another guy? No frat hyjinks when you pledged in college, no strip poker with your pals... I mean you have never seen another hard or semi cock on another adult outside of a locker room... So my question is... why? I would have to think that the older one gets the more unusual it would be that you have had zero contact with another person of the same sex. I’m simply talking about the math here- every year added to your life increases the ratio.
I know that availability to internet pornography along with the male sexualization of western society, and the mainstreaming of GLBTQ rights and issues have continued to shape social norms, and I know that young people are becoming more sexually mature and active at younger ages. Sexual education in schools has told gen XYZ and later that they can do whatever pleases them, as long as they are legal, respectful and not hurting a willing partner. Maybe the odds of finding a guy who hasn’t thought about a bro job, or allowed a buddy fantasy of a threesome to get to a nut, but who is still on the board reading this might become much less common as time goes on.
So my question is, “if you have literally never done anything with a buddy, or a stranger, or anyone- or even thought of that as a possible way to get some joy out of life.. why is that? I’ve heard lots of answers before, ranging from religious influences (“sex is wrong outside of marriage, and/or homosexual behavior is sinful”) to no interest (“I’m attracted to pussy, so I have no interest whatsoever, or repulsed by the idea of interacting with parts that match my own.”). I’ve heard the standard answer- “if eggplant doesn’t interest me, and I’m not looking to try new foods, you can’t force me to try it.” In other words, “lack of experience isn’t a necessary reason to justify trying something I’m inherently not interested in, or maybe naturally repulsed by.” Or perhaps you look at sex as an act of importance and you would never treat it as “recreational” (meaning a one-off with a stranger you will never meet again has no consequence.)
I am always interested when I meet a guy in my age group who is uncircumcised- perhaps they grew up outside of the USA, or in a very rural home, or had a pro-foreskin dad who helped them skip the knife, but it’s something different than myself. (Certainly these rates have dropped so much in America that its no longer a point of common conversation, unlike the tattoos that we can tell each other about in the locker room.) It’s a visual part of ourselves, has no inherent positive or negative meaning, and can be a point of conversation sitting in the sauna to someone who is open and friendly.
By the same token, this is LPSG. We are here to share and talk about interesting topics, and have opportunities to learn from each other. So rather than flaming or scolding, we can either participate in conversation, quietly lurk in the anonymity of internet shadows, or turn and walk away. I’d hope that you would choose to participate, and not complain that this question has been asked and answered thousands of times, or that this dead horse has finally been beaten to death- perhaps it’s a revival of a theme.
If you are a guy that, by your own choice, identifies as pure 100% straight on the absolute spectrum end, no same sex attraction, no sexual appreciation for a naked male body who has a huge cock, etc... totally black and white, no gray area.... : Did your friends help to shape your thoughts and feelings growing up? Did you have a macho role model that you emulated? Did you connect with girls your age (or maybe an older woman) who arrested your attention early on that put you on a “one track mind?” Remember many of these things may have occurred before age 18, so we can’t talk about them specifically in open forums here.
Kinsey studies show that most men range on the sexual spectrum, and if the 90/10 hetero/gay numbers hold true there is more diversity (or at least openness) about where other guys mentally entertain themselves. We know it’s ok that everyone works their own desires differently (no one else controls my mind or fuels my own sexual appetite but me.). We know that attraction, appreciation/affinity and eroticm are all different things and that differrent folks have different rules, triggers, or even “barriers” that they may erect to protect themselves from acting inappropriately. While I believe that we are innately given a unique identity at birth that defines who we are, I think life provides opportunities for us to flesh out what we really like (pun intended) or to course correct, and with some this may mean making different choices, maybe even opposite choices, down the line.
So most guys I know have lived their lives by participation and experience, and can say they have defined the borders of their own lives by figuring out what works, what passions drive them, what they want from life, etc based on what they have done, what they have learned from the peer group they surround themselves with, or by what they are pursuing. That’s the way that most things operate, but when it comes to our biological needs this can get muddled up very quickly, for better or worse. Mother Nature is strong and she will eventually get us to betray ourselves to base instinct lol.
I’m hoping to hear from the guys on the board that are the self-identified 100 straight... I will not try to put words in your mouth or assume anything but I’m sure you would say “I’m just not interested in any sort of homo touch.” That’s AOK! I’m also thinking we’d hear you say “I’m only interested in having a place to show off my self pictures and hear from women.” that’s cool, bro. Maybe you want the status that comes from having a place on a discussion board that is all about having the sexual power from being the biggest and virile. It’s been that same way since caveman days and it doesn’t change here at LPSG, our species has that one hard-coded and you are very normal to want to hang around here for that.
You may not even change 1% because you don’t look at other guys’ profiles (or pictures!) but you like the novelty of the site, and so you stay around. But what I’m trying to understand is, why do you draw the boundary fence of your sexual self where you do? Do you think it’s because of how you think your friends (or family) view you? Is it tied to how you see social roles of men in our society? Do you think that you have become more tolerant to solo or same-sex behavior as you have gotten older and gaiined life experience?
We are all who we are- we are all different, and we are all unique. I would guess we surround ourselves with people that we like (to some extent) and we disassociate from those who we can’t tolerate or take joy from (if possible.). We all are on our own journeys, learning new things, and hopefully being made better by those who we are lucky enough to get to be an life influencer. Knowing this, I’m thinking that most of the guys on the board are always looking to engage with those who don’t have the same life experiences, but can take advantage of the LPSG board as a safe meeting place, albeit accepting that you may get burned by the occasional flame.
To put it another way, what aspects of your male sexuality do you restrict to only yourself, or make available to your spouse/girlfriend, but keep restrictions from your close guy friends? Where is your Iine, and do you see the LPSG as a virtual extension of the line that you would not extend to life outside your computer? If you don’t have a tribe that would back you up if you suddenly lost your health, family, possessions, etc (meaning a life-altering event that would cripple your current self-identity.) Do you think you have changed as a result of reading the posts on the discussion boards, or have they only cemented your view of life?
This long posting isn’t an attempt to convert or coerce. It’s opporunity for understanding each other.