My pleasure. It's been my perception of you.
You're very brave to charactize yourself Bronxy. I'll grant you your courage in doing so. I'd never deign to call myself anything akin to 'charasmatic' [sic] since I'll leave that to those who critique me firsthand .. those who can see my face as I articulate rather than simply imagine my intent behind a type-written word or sentence.
Here's my experience with you:
I've never had you be overtly dismissive or snide to me. And I have never been on the receiving end of any unkindness from you Bronxy so I go only on that... If you're kind to me I'll return the serve. 'Nasty' is good I guess. But direct and convicted is better for me. And why you were brought into this specifically as an example by the mod who used you in that frame of reference is unknown to me. Perhaps you're simply more likeable than many because of the way you're perceived. But I maintain perception isn't always
necessarily reality. Maybe you're just a "better person"
... who knows.
Seeing the potential for similar scrutiny to that endured by the late Judith, I'll simply say that
I don't care whether people think I'm "nice" or not. I like who I like in here and those guys know who they are. I'm in pm contact with those people often. I can count roughly 4 people on this board whose opinion I truly value and to whom I always pay strict attention when I read their posts. Beyond that however, I think Judith is no better or worse than anyone else in here. I think she made the fatal mistake of saying precisely how she felt and that's some unpardonable sin I guess. There's an undercurrent of negative reverse snobbery I'm detecting (from some posters) on the board and though Judith was very in your face about her level of education and her overt (false?) sense of self I suspect many are a trifle anti-intellectual truth be known. I know that I can come across as cold and haughty when in truth I've been told
by those who know me personally that I'm not how they'd perceived me from my writing. I was trained differently than many that's all. And I saw in Judith vulnerability that was pretty clear cut. It certainly wouldn't have taken much to acknowledge her. I wish I had when she complimented some post I'd made.
Indeed I think it was you, Bronxy, who once posted that we (we posters) were a largely middle class group (surely I paraphrase) but I think that's the gist of it. Well some aren't bourgeois or middle class and they have as much right on this board as anyone else.
I mentioned, too, that I thought she was a bit condescending. What are you exactly trying to get across that's not already been covered in my commentary regarding Judith?
Many have gone to no small effort to dissect Judith's personality. To me it's futile and a bit like drawing and quartering someone. How many posts did the girl have? Eighty? Wow. I think we can relegate her to the garbage bin post haste. That'll take care of her all right.
We're in agreement here.
Yes I concur. Your explanation of your own experience is interesting but I don't think, of necessity, everyone is to learn from only
your example. I'm learning from Judith's too. I've said that I think we can learn, too, from her presence (and her departure) here. But what we all glean from Judith is as different as each one of us. Here's to the individuality that
is each LPSG member.
I'll repeat this again: I think Judith was too overtly self-aggrandizing upon entry.. and again upon departure from this site. But I think she's been picked apart and vilified unnecessarily. I find it grossly unkind and rather telling by those who've made it their cause célèbre to basically say "don't let the doorknob hit you in the ass..." I thought better of many who've just about said that.
See? Again, we learn.