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Hope I am not overstepping as I post in this section.
I have a question, I have many gay friends and my best girlfriend is a lesbian. Gay men are a lot of fun to be around, I love Carson Kressley, He is such a girl!
My question to you gentleman is this. You are at a bar, Restaurant, resort etc. You are alone and a stunning lady comes over to you to chat. The evening goes very well as you both hit it off. Now you are a gay man. Would you make a move on her to be able to bed her.
I have asked a few of my gay friends and they said they wouldn't.
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I don’t think I would make a move unless it was very clear that she’d want to fuck. It’s been quite a while since I fucked a girl and would wanna see if my skills translate so to speak haha.
 

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I can have a terrific evening with either gender (apologies to trans/intersex, etc.) and not want to have sex. However, if it’s a woman there’s absolutely zero chance anything sexual would take place.
I’ve shared a hotel room with my best girlfriend. We slept in the same bed. Shared the shower and saw each other nude. I’m not sexually attracted to women. At all. Period.
Interestingly, there are multiple threads about gay men bedding a straight guy. I think it’s the other side of the same coin.
I can appreciate the female form and think she’s stunning with no sexual attraction.
 
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I can have a terrific evening with either gender (apologies to trans/intersex, etc.) and not want to have sex. However, if it’s a woman there’s absolutely zero chance anything sexual would take place.
I’ve shared a hotel room with my best girlfriend. We slept in the same bed. Shared the shower and saw each other nude. I’m not sexually attracted to women. At all. Period.
Interestingly, there are multiple threads about gay men bedding a straight guy. I think it’s the other side of the same coin.
I can appreciate the female form and think she’s stunning with no sexual attraction.


I'd concur with @OKCLane, love women to bits (and all others too) but am only sexually attracted to and interested in guys.
 

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Make no mistake about it. For all intents and purposes, I’m gay.

But depending on circumstances, I wouldn’t rule out sleeping with a woman. After all, never say never.

When I was young and confused, I slept exclusively with women. And it was good. Or good enough, anyway.

As I grew to acknowledge my attraction to men, I still slept with women from time to time. Impulsiveness, a thirst for erotic adventure, novelty, unwillingness to let sexual opportunity pass, all played a role.

As I grew older, I chose to invest my sexual energy more carefully—some could even say more selfishly. First, there’s a bit less sexual energy to spare. Second, I know myself better, and have a clearer idea of what pleases me. Third, quality over quantity. And for me, quality can be found only with another man.

That’s not to say I would refuse a little sexual snack with a woman, on a lark. But I don’t crave it. We wouldn’t get intimate in any real way. In my heart of hearts, I know I’m not capable of true intimacy with a woman, no matter what other emotional connections we have.

In fact, the better we hit it off as friends, the less likely I would respond to a sexual overture. So, @Candela, the answer to your direct question is no. But I’d never say never.
 

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Highly unlikely. I might be quite interested in sustaining getting to know her, but the chances that I would have any instinct to try to get her in bed would be remote.

There is some chance I would be positively responsive if she propositioned me, though. At the very least flattered.
 
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Thank you for all them answers, I now know my gays friends are for real in what they say.
In all honesty , I have been to gay men bars with my girlfriend and gay men are a lot of fun but what's really nice is that I never feel threatened by unwanted advances by gay men, Like I would in a regular bar!
 
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Hope I am not overstepping as I post in this section.
I have a question, I have many gay friends and my best girlfriend is a lesbian. Gay men are a lot of fun to be around, I love Carson Kressley, He is such a girl!
My question to you gentleman is this. You are at a bar, Restaurant, resort etc. You are alone and a stunning lady comes over to you to chat. The evening goes very well as you both hit it off. Now you are a gay man. Would you make a move on her to be able to bed her.
I have asked a few of my gay friends and they said they wouldn't.
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Probably not. Like, 99.99% not. That still leaves some wiggle room, as there have been 2-3 women in my life that I would have been intimate with.

Also, I would not have made a move on her, if the energy was there. We would have made it mutually. The women that I did meet that I was attracted to..the vibe there was like a hot, gravitational force. Yes, that sounds somewhat dramatic, but that is the closest I can get to a description. It was like we were both being drawn together, and the heat of our close energy was palpable, and barely resistible.

If that happened again with someone, depending on the circumstances, I might pursue it.
 
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Hope I am not overstepping as I post in this section.
I have a question, I have many gay friends and my best girlfriend is a lesbian. Gay men are a lot of fun to be around, I love Carson Kressley, He is such a girl!
My question to you gentleman is this. You are at a bar, Restaurant, resort etc. You are alone and a stunning lady comes over to you to chat. The evening goes very well as you both hit it off. Now you are a gay man. Would you make a move on her to be able to bed her.
I have asked a few of my gay friends and they said they wouldn't.
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Sorry but this question ridiculous.

of course I would t because I’m not attracted to them so why would I want to bed them?!
 
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Hope I am not overstepping as I post in this section.
I have a question, I have many gay friends and my best girlfriend is a lesbian. Gay men are a lot of fun to be around, I love Carson Kressley, He is such a girl!
My question to you gentleman is this. You are at a bar, Restaurant, resort etc. You are alone and a stunning lady comes over to you to chat. The evening goes very well as you both hit it off. Now you are a gay man. Would you make a move on her to be able to bed her.
I have asked a few of my gay friends and they said they wouldn't.
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Not a chance in hell. In my 60's and still a virgin..sex with women wise.