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i do not purposefully dress provocatively.
i just have a body that would make a burqa look pornographic.
Haha, I can imagine it can be kind of difficult then, a blessing and a curse. I recently found out from a lady friend that she actually tries to board a plane somewhere in the middle-end of the line so that she picks who she sits next to instead of getting there early and having people pick to sit next to her.
 

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This makes me curious, what about when you ladies are alone and you are dressed provocatively? I dont live in NYC so I dont know how common it might be... but when you are dressed that way it draws attention regardless... so do you still carry the same opinion of wanting to punch the guys lights out when dressed that way?

All I know is here in houston it gets hot... and I work in a restaurant and there are some women that you just cant help glance in the least. I never stare or undress, but its pretty much impossible to not peek for a quick half second.

i can promise you i have never dressed to draw attention from heterosexual males.

bare skin is weather related. i hate sweaty boobsehs.
showing skin is all about me.

i said ya can look, respectfully.
is only line crossing what leads to hostility
is just the oily feeling some dudes give off.. is so gross
 
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I was wondering, how do you handle all the guys on the streets and in the subway undressing you with their eyes? I watch it happen all the time and maybe I am a part of it myself but I can't help it! There are some beautiful women in the city! How do you handle all that constant attention though? Do you like it or does it kinda freak you out sometimes?

The tables do get turned and I do get the occasional stare but I'm a guy and I'm starved for attention from the opposite sex. When it does happen it does make the day seem a whole lot better.
Where do you hang out? I have been in and out of Manhattan for 25 years and spend a large amount of time on the subway and have never seen what I would call excessive staring?
 

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The bolded statement seems kinda gay... just sayin' :cool:
Absurd! How is a man wanting attention from women gay?

Maybe, just maybe they are working out in advance whether to knee you in the groin or punch you in the throat if you get too close.:cool:

There are so many possibilities as to why a woman would be looking at you.
Including the possibility that they think he's hot.

while your eyes undress me,
my eyes are disembowelling and setting fire to you.

fantasy is harmless if done with subtlety.
Word! But seriously, unless they are moving things out of the way to get a better look, or rubbing themselves while looking, I tend to ignore excessive ogling. I moved myself to a position where there would be more obstacles between myself and some creepo in the supermarket recently. My nipples were really, really obviously hard in a bright yellow tank top, and he was moving the impulse items near the register out of the way to get a better look at them. He was creepy enough that I'd decided if he got within arms reach at any point between my new register and my apartment, I was going to stun-gun him first, and maybe ask questions later. Sometimes, men, when you stare too hard, you are frightening. I electrocute scary dudes. No lie.

This makes me curious, what about when you ladies are alone and you are dressed provocatively? I dont live in NYC so I dont know how common it might be... but when you are dressed that way it draws attention regardless... so do you still carry the same opinion of wanting to punch the guys lights out when dressed that way?

All I know is here in houston it gets hot... and I work in a restaurant and there are some women that you just cant help glance in the least. I never stare or undress, but its pretty much impossible to not peek for a quick half second.
TASER. Polite looking may bother me a little (or it may not) but I never protest. Rude looking will nearly always prompt me to say something degrading to the perpetrator. Creepy behavior will prompt me to make evasive maneuvers, and if those fail, to deliver some pain.

Where do you hang out? I have been in and out of Manhattan for 25 years and spend a large amount of time on the subway and have never seen what I would call excessive staring?
Where do you hang out? I lived in the Bronx for 28 years, and have seen this behavior in all 4 of the boroughs that count. (Sorry Staten Island. I know you guys pay taxes too, and the rest of us appreciate that, and the fact that you let us turn your island into a dump.)
 

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Where do you hang out? I have been in and out of Manhattan for 25 years and spend a large amount of time on the subway and have never seen what I would call excessive staring?
it's easy for a man not to notice,
because you're not the object.
 

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dressed provocatively

Provocatively? What do you mean? What am I trying to provoke? Fear? Lust? Pity? Anger?

The way someone, anyone, dressed should not provoke anyone else to do or feel anything. The 'provocation', or rather the emotions stirred in the watcher speak WAY more of the watcher than they do of the watched.

One man can look at a woman wearing a short or mid length skirt, walking alone at night, and think she looks attractive and then hope she's OK walking alone - the next man can look at her and think 'slut'. Does the woman change from an attractive human being to a piece of meat in the time it takes for Man A's eyes to leave her and Man B's to find her? Of course she doesn't - Man A is a good person, Man B is not. That's all there is to it.
 

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I am a guy, and I'm guilty of looking. Shoot, even looking too long sometimes. But that's never the woman fault for dressing a certain way. Some may be more apt to garner my attention but that doesn't mean im "obligated" to look. I make a choice. Look, appreciate and move on. Buddies of mine used to stop and stare and whistle and call. I never understood that. What woman "likes" being whistled at like a dog? The other day some guy whistled at my wife and said "Hey Mami". Wtf. So she looks good. Why does that mean you have to call across the street WHILE she's on my arm. Are you retarded? Its offensive. I understand yet I don't. Its like there are two different species of men. Those who are a slave to their emotions and imbecilic tendencies and those who have grown the fuck up and can look, still appreciate a beautiful figure, be it a man or a woman, and move on. Why is this so godamned hard?
 

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Provocatively? What do you mean? What am I trying to provoke? Fear? Lust? Pity? Anger?

The way someone, anyone, dressed should not provoke anyone else to do or feel anything. The 'provocation', or rather the emotions stirred in the watcher speak WAY more of the watcher than they do of the watched.

One man can look at a woman wearing a short or mid length skirt, walking alone at night, and think she looks attractive and then hope she's OK walking alone - the next man can look at her and think 'slut'. Does the woman change from an attractive human being to a piece of meat in the time it takes for Man A's eyes to leave her and Man B's to find her? Of course she doesn't - Man A is a good person, Man B is not. That's all there is to it.
I kinda figured that dressing provocatively would be taken as dressing in a sexual fashion. How about I rephrase, as there are women that dress in such a way... if you were to be dressing such that there is very little left to the imagination, would you have the same opinion? When does a quick stare turn into a stare that lasts too long? What about repeated quick glances? This question does not really apply to women that dont dress in such a way, I am just curious.

I mean, if I am going on a date with a girl I have been going out with for a while, and shes in a super sexy small black dress you can bet that I would be undressing her with my eyes. If its a stranger I wouldnt, but a girlfriend I definitely would.
 

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a woman showing a little cleavage is provocative. a man with his shirt entirely open, or even topless, barely raises a brow.
 

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Boys don't have boobies!
there are girls with almost no chest.
flat as pancakes.
god bless their AAs.
there are lardyarse blokes,
blokes with bigger moobs than my Es.
tarzan had a good DDs worth of pec.

size isn't the deciding factor.
gender is.
 

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I kinda figured that dressing provocatively would be taken as dressing in a sexual fashion. How about I rephrase, as there are women that dress in such a way... if you were to be dressing such that there is very little left to the imagination, would you have the same opinion? When does a quick stare turn into a stare that lasts too long? What about repeated quick glances? This question does not really apply to women that dont dress in such a way, I am just curious.

I mean, if I am going on a date with a girl I have been going out with for a while, and shes in a super sexy small black dress you can bet that I would be undressing her with my eyes. If its a stranger I wouldnt, but a girlfriend I definitely would.
Nobody I know gets mad at their date for ogling them. Strangers who ogle are tasteless assholes.
 

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I sigh a lot. Sometimes I get angry. I mean, really? I was out running a couple of months ago, and my husband passes me in the car. I go up to his window and he's laughing his ass off. He tells me that there was a group of roofers who stopped everything to watch me run pass. Come on! I am in the rattiest, baggiest sweatshirt with jogging pants. The only thing they could have possibly seen was my ponytail sticking out from my Braves cap and maybe my calves. Did the pink trainers give me away?

I just don't freaking get it!!! I understand the LBD and heels turning heads. That's why I wear them, but sweating like a sow and looking absolutely stomach-turning, well, you got to be somewhere on the other side of sick to find that sexy.
 

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Ellie, men can find a sweaty, athletic, beautiful woman very interesting.
 

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I sigh a lot. Sometimes I get angry. I mean, really? I was out running a couple of months ago, and my husband passes me in the car. I go up to his window and he's laughing his ass off. He tells me that there was a group of roofers who stopped everything to watch me run pass. Come on! I am in the rattiest, baggiest sweatshirt with jogging pants. The only thing they could have possibly seen was my ponytail sticking out from my Braves cap and maybe my calves. Did the pink trainers give me away?

I just don't freaking get it!!! I understand the LBD and heels turning heads. That's why I wear them, but sweating like a sow and looking absolutely stomach-turning, well, you got to be somewhere on the other side of sick to find that sexy.


Just because you may not feel at your sexiest, which I completely understand, there are some men , myself included that find the female form attractive when physically active. I'm not sure what it is, the heavy breathing, or the sweat glistening but when my wife works out I find her sexy as hell. But she feels very very unclean and not so sexy. Its just different attractors.
 

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You are lucky Ellie!

I don't run anywhere unless it's an emergency.
There has yet been a bra made that will tether these puppies and stop them from blacking my eyes if I tried.