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My wife and I are both bi. We're both out to most of our friends because most of our friends are lifestyle. I'm more hesitant to come out to coworkers, family, and vanilla friends because of what I kind of consider to be the next logical step in their assumption regarding us.
If I tell a coworker or a vanilla friend that I'm bi, they know that I'm married. Do they think that I'm bi but not getting any bi sex because I'm married? Do they think that I'm going behind my wife's back to get cock? Or do they correctly assume that my wife and I are consensually non-monogamous and that we have sex with others (both hetero and bi) together and separately with each other's permission? The truth is that we swing bi.
Honestly, it's kind of my thought that it's none of their business, but if I'm out as a bi guy I'd really prefer for others not to be thinking that I'm cheating on my wife. But that then opens up a whole new can of worms. For me, coming out as bi logically and naturally leads to coming out as a swinger. Is it worse in society's opinion these days to be a bi guy or to be a swinger? And is a bi male swinger the worst of all?
Any thoughts? Does anyone else have any experience with this?
If I tell a coworker or a vanilla friend that I'm bi, they know that I'm married. Do they think that I'm bi but not getting any bi sex because I'm married? Do they think that I'm going behind my wife's back to get cock? Or do they correctly assume that my wife and I are consensually non-monogamous and that we have sex with others (both hetero and bi) together and separately with each other's permission? The truth is that we swing bi.
Honestly, it's kind of my thought that it's none of their business, but if I'm out as a bi guy I'd really prefer for others not to be thinking that I'm cheating on my wife. But that then opens up a whole new can of worms. For me, coming out as bi logically and naturally leads to coming out as a swinger. Is it worse in society's opinion these days to be a bi guy or to be a swinger? And is a bi male swinger the worst of all?
Any thoughts? Does anyone else have any experience with this?