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So are you feeling flattered yet? :wink:
stupid inner monologue.
:grumpy:
how often does she take over the, urm, more assertive role in PIV smex? do ya ever get the chance to lay back and enjoy? with her getting a moment to set the pace and seize ya day? *when you read seize ya day please add :naughty: inflections*
:frown: nothing will spoil ya swerve like doubt. ya lady-friend needs a swagger resurrection, Mr. Sbat.
I don't view sex as competitive. I want to give the maximum possible pleasure to my partner. If he has a million massive orgasms, great. If he isn't interested in my pleasure, that is a separate issue. But I think that maybe you have the wrong perspective when you are worried that they are deriving "more pleasure" than your weak orgasm. Maybe talk to your partner about what pleasures more. If that is foreplay, more power to you. I used to hook up with a guy who wasn't the best fucker in the world, but he made up for it with amazing massages. Neither one of us ever felt "left out" of the fun club. We just tried to pleasure each other.
Very interesting perspective...I am a competitive fucker (pun intended)
I am reminded of the Seinfeld episode where Elaine is seeing a guy who engages her in competition to see who can win (cum) first. By the end of the episode she is distraught because he always wins (and stops making love). I say if your sole goal is just to get off, MASTURBATE. If you're with someone, share the joy.
I think that in comparison to a fair amount of people I'm not that heavily into foreplay, honestly. I tend to feel much more connected when somebody is buried as deep inside of me as they can go. I love rough, primal, damn near animalistic sex. Given my penchant for kinky stuff, some BDSM type stuff is more fun as foreplay prior to sex.
On the other hand, I've felt pleasure/been sated after only doing certain kinky things too without ever having any contact on sexual body parts/without any sex.