Ok bit of an update. I went to spa land in Busan which was incredible but I feel a bit bad because as soon as I got in a pool, the Koreans would literally flee. I wasn’t staring, cruising or whatever and I absolutely wasn’t there to make them feel uncomfortable. I feel bad for them and hope I wasn’t a pain.
i have no idea if I did the wrong thing etiquette wise. Maybe they thought they were making me uncomfortable so they were actually trying to be polite. Or maybe there’s stereotypes of white guys in Asian countries, that were gropey or carry diseases if you sit in the same water or something.
I did see another white guy there, maybe British or French. He walked in super forced over confident I think to overcompensate for his lack of confidence. he looked like he was walking in to a board meeting just as naked as a popinjay. So maybe white guys just overcompensate with body language and that’s intimidating. Oh well