Forget the Rest, Just the Cock

[EternalCaverns]

I notice that there are quite a few men here who say that they ONLY have an attraction to dicks but not the men attached to them. They have no interest in kissing, fucking, getting fucked by or having romantic relationships with men.

How many here feel the same way? How do you classify your sexuality, if at all?

Why do you think that you separate your attraction between a penis and the man it is attached to? Have you always had this objectified attraction or did this come about over the years after being exposed to male nudity in porn?

Is it possible for a penis as a symbol to be so hypersexualized that even men who claim to be straight might start to feel an undeniable attraction to it and only IT?

I notice the same thing happens with women. The bodies of women are so sexualized in the media. Female bodies period are considered ideal for sexual consumption and representation. Womens' magazines are designed to present the female body to women far more than the male body as a form of encouraging advertisement. As a result, it seems that many women who claim to be straight will feel at ease or at least curious about dabbling in lesbian forms of sex. They start to mimick the attraction that straight men have toward the female form. They will start to feel over time that female bodies aren't only attractive but sexually arousing.

Perhaps the same conditioning is taking place with "just the cock" attractions? Perhaps if you sexualize a body part or body parts so much that they become complete sexual symbols, they essentially become inevitable sexual targets for people who would otherwise claim straight regardless of gender. The attraction would interestingly turn out to be one where it is ONLY about that symbolic body part or body type but NOT the person who possess the body or body part.

Interested in hearing some thoughts on this and also personal experiences with this kind of attraction.

 

[kingkhan]

I think you have it right. For me visually the cock is the only thing that turns me on a mans body. And besids it being an object of sexuality some of the appeal is I know and love to feel my dick hard and I have learned it feels good to feel others.

 

[BlackCock85]

When I wasn't comfortable or accepting of my sexuality I used to "only be attracted to the cock" and then once I accepted that I was gay I was comfortable being able to be attracted to a male fully from head to toe =)

So I feel a lot of people may just be going through a personal battle and only being attracted to the cock justifies their attractions. And I guess also some people like the above poster are just attracted to cock because they know how it feels to have one.

 

[Silvertip]

I've always had that attraction to a nice cock and that's all I was interested in when I first started having sex with guys. But the more experience I get with male/male sexual interaction the more I broaden my horizons as a practicing bisexual. I'm still mostly focused on the cock and I doubt I'll ever approach a fully gay perspective or appreciation of another man, but the transition is proving to be both a fun and learning experience for me.

 

[Phil Ayesho]

For me, it was conditioning I received when I was very young..
I assume that because it was straight guys using me strictly for sexual convenience... no affection, embracing, cuddling etc... just pure cock worship, that is part of the reason I feel no romantic attraction to men.

Don't get me wrong, as an artist I certainly appreciate the beauty of a well put together male body... it has an undeniable sexual component in its appeal... however, I do not respond to them the way I respond to female bodies.

I do, however agree with your hypothesis that the increasing focus on the erect and ejaculating cock in porn is having the effect of re-conditioning even ostensibly straight males to think of other men's cocks as sexually stimulating.

In such a case, they most likely would not change in terms of their sense of romantic attraction, it would tend to affect only their sexual fantasies and lusts.

An analogy would be folks who, thru kinky experiences and exposure to kinky imagery, find they really get sexually aroused by leather or rubber, or thigh high boots...

That all factors strongly into what drives their sexual response... but it has nothing to do with whom they actually love.

I love it when if woman straps on a cock and fucks me in the ass... but I love HER as a woman.
That the sensation feels sexually good to me had nothing to do with the kind of person I am emotionally drawn to.

 

[laissez faire]

Hi all, first post for me. I think this about sums up my feelings exactly. I really don't think of myself as anything other than heterosexual, but the emphasis is clearly on the "sexual" part and not the "hetero". I'm not interested in sharing my life or love with a man in any way, and my admiration/general attraction to others is exclusively to women (i.e., I always check out good looking women but never men) but I can't deny that I'm extremely attracted to the sexual apparatus of both sexes--and in that case it's almost equal. I am very aroused by people who are aroused, and in the case of a man it's generally much easier to tell when they're excited.

Even though I don't check men out in public, I do in fact check out bulges. A perfect example of my equal opportunity eye was on the train one time, seated across from a group of high schoolers. A very attractive girl was wearing a very short skirt and being quite casual about how she sat, clearly displaying her thong, most of her ass, and the bulge of her pussy. I was very intrigued and aroused. Toward the end of the ride, however, I notice that one of her male classmates, seated across from her as I was, had apparently also noticed her little show and was sporting a very obvious woody in his baggy khakis, which I ogled with the same level of intensity as I had her crotch. Although I noticed that the girl was very pretty, I couldn't even tell you what the boy looked like--I was just staring, with great arousal, at his dick.

Further evidence, I think, is my preference for women with large labia and/or clits, since it's then easy to tell when they're excited, much like with a man. For me, anyway, my attraction to men is clearly "all about the dick"--I have sex with a male friend as often as possible, but that's not that often since we're both happily married, and neither one of us has any interest in reversing the order. We don't kiss, cuddle, hug, or really have any physical contact except relative to our cocks, but the pure sex is outstanding, maybe because we're both aware that that's all it is, and that can be pretty liberating.

 

[driftingvoid]

I'm a "just the cock" guy. I've never done anything with a guy yet-- though I have a friend on a flight over right now and we have plans --but my attraction is strictly to cock. This is why I do not presently consider myself "bi-sexual": I have no emotional attraction to men, nor physical attraction beyond cock. The only reason I even care about what the cock is attached to is because it would be a total turnoff if it was some hairy, fat slob. It'd also be kinda (really) cool if I found out that a huge cock was attached to a friend of mine. Hell, it'd be pretty cool if I found out that any of my local friends were actually not complete homo-phobes. I seriously don't understand homophobia... what is so scary about someone who has different opinions on sexual attractiveness? /sigh

 

[blowmeinatl]

I am too "just the cock" type of guy. I don't consider myself bi-sexual either becuase I too have no emotional attraction to men or physical attraction. The cock is what I'm most interested in. But I am open to more.

 

[laissez faire]

"I've never done anything with a guy yet-- though I have a friend on a flight over right now and we have plans"

Driftingvoid, I'd be interested to know how your "plans" came about and what they are if you've never done anything before--hearing about that kind of stuff is hot. You're about to embark on a brave new world--cocks are fun, and nobody can do one better than somebody who has one. Hope everything works out for you

 

[vince]

I'm more interested in what the cock is attached to than the cock itself. So I can't really address the question why they have become, or are becoming, more objectified.

I appreciate a nice one, but for me, the cock is just part of the overall package of a man. What attracts me is body form and the mental connection.

I'm mostly attracted to women. For me, there is a much wider range of physical attributes that I find available to be attracted to in women than with men. I'm very picky with male sexual partners and their cocks are not a major part it. As long as it's not too weird looking and fully functional, we're good to go.

 

[Primal_Savage]

I'm more interested in what the cock is attached to than the cock itself. So I can't really address the question why they have become, or are becoming, more objectified.

I appreciate a nice one, but for me, the cock is just part of the overall package of a man. What attracts me is body form and the mental connection....

Have to agree with you, vince. The whole package (physique, eyes, brain, and personality) is much more important to me than its size or whether or not the guy is cut or uncut.

 

[B_1youngboy]

I like shemales, never done anything to a trans tho, and I don't plan on doing anything with them.

 

[barkerfan]

Have to agree with you, vince. The whole package (physique, eyes, brain, and personality) is much more important to me than its size or whether or not the guy is cut or uncut.

I'm right there with you. I'm definately a feature person first. Eyes, lips, face as a whole. Personality and attitude are huge. Body can play a part but if thier not someone I can look at and not see myself kissing, it's just not there. I'd say the importance of the penis is there, but it's pretty much last in priority as to what I am attracted to in a person.

 

[EternalCaverns]

Interesting and great replies.

Hmmm...

The world of futanari, ladyboys/katoey, shemales and dickgirls.

That is an electrifying attraction that a lot of men who claim straight have. They are extremely turned on by the vision of a beautiful, buxom woman, brandishing huge tits atop a small waistline, with a plump ass, and sporting a massive, beautiful, and pulsating cock that oozes cum at the tip.

This type of attraction can be downright intoxicating for some self-proclaimed straight men. Because of this, I think the ideas I typed about originally give light to why this attraction could be so rampant and why there's a very huge market for this type of attraction in the adult industry.

Men attracted to shemales often see themselves as straight, however they are highly attracted to dicks as sexual objects. By appreciating a dick attached to what they mostly claim to be attracted to as straight men - women, it is seen as a perfect way to ISOLATE THE COCK. Even if that woman sporting the cock is not biologically a woman.

Unless a self-identified woman was born as a hermaphrodite with a very large well-formed dick springing from between labia and above a vaginal opening, the only women able to sport a dick would be shemales. So the attraction to shemales becomes much preferred and viewed as the "perfect attraction".

I am not a male but even I find dickgirls very fascinating and the futanari hentai I've seen is very arousing because of the fantasy of a biological woman with legitimate fully-developed male parts down below in the same manner a biological male would possess them.

 

[kingkhan]

Yeah trans porn definitely got me into liking dick but, actually on second thought I can like more then the cock but, not really in a visual since, a mans body is kind of boring except for the cock. The first few times I j/o with guys it was only about touching their cock. But, with my one j/o buddy I began to hold him when we j/o and I started to like his body, he was short like 5'5 and had a smooth body, and he was thin. He did not have a masculine body so I enjoyed holding him a lot so, I guess if I met another guy like that I could like more then the cock.

 

[jeff black]

Nah, I'm going to argue with this.

There is much more to a man than just "his cock". I think people who are focused purely on the cock are really just looking for casual hookups.

You can't base a relationship purely on dick. I find that to be rather superficial.

 

[BIGBULL29]

I feel more attracted to men emotionally than physically, even though I classify myself more as a monosexual.:biggrin1:

 

[Silvertip]

There is much more to a man than just "his cock" ...

Of course there is, no-one on this thread has said anything to the contrary.

... I think people who are focused purely on the cock are really just looking for casual hookups ...

That's precisely what I'm looking for.

... You can't base a relationship purely on dick. I find that to be rather superficial.

Who's looking for a relationship? Besides, superficiality can still be a lot of fun. That said, if I'm going to see a guy on any kind of regular basis we need to develop a friendship based on mutual trust and respect. So I'm not always 100% superficial.

 

[Phil Ayesho]

You can't base a relationship purely on dick. I find that to be rather superficial.

I don't think you are actually understanding.... I and others have stated quite clearly that we have NO INTEREST IN A RELATIONSHIP with another man.

ITs not a 'choice'... Most of the homosexual experiences I have had have involved men I have serviced for many years. They were not "hookups" in any sense... a couple were actually close friends of mine, both before and after the period I was regularly sucking them off.

Not once did I , or they, for that matter, feel the urge to kiss, cuddle, nor fall in "love" with each other.
For them it was purely the convenience of getting their cock sucked on demand... for me, purely the hedonistic pleasure of feeling a cock in my mouth.

On the other hand... I have found it is almost impossible for me to have frequent sex with a woman without developing very stong emotional and romantic feelings for her.

So, really and for true, we are not 'self deluded', we are not in the 'process' of becoming gay nor in denial of our deep gay attractions...

It is possible, and I would say rather common for nominally 'straight' men to simply be as fascinated with other guys cocks as we are with our own.

If 10% represents an accurate idea of how many men are "gay" in that they have romantic sexual attraction to other men....
Then I would hazard the guess that 30% of Straight men have a purely sexual interest in the Cock itself... WITHOUT any romantic attraction.

 

[blowmeinatl]

I don't think you are actually understanding.... I and others have stated quite clearly that we have NO INTEREST IN A RELATIONSHIP with another man.

ITs not a 'choice'... Most of the homosexual experiences I have had have involved men I have serviced for many years. They were not "hookups" in any sense... a couple were actually close friends of mine, both before and after the period I was regularly sucking them off.

Not once did I , or they, for that matter, feel the urge to kiss, cuddle, nor fall in "love" with each other.
For them it was purely the convenience of getting their cock sucked on demand... for me, purely the hedonistic pleasure of feeling a cock in my mouth.

On the other hand... I have found it is almost impossible for me to have frequent sex with a woman without developing very stong emotional and romantic feelings for her.

So, really and for true, we are not 'self deluded', we are not in the 'process' of becoming gay nor in denial of our deep gay attractions...

It is possible, and I would say rather common for nominally 'straight' men to simply be as fascinated with other guys cocks as we are with our own.

If 10% represents an accurate idea of how many men are "gay" in that they have romantic sexual attraction to other men....
Then I would hazard the guess that 30% of Straight men have a purely sexual interest in the Cock itself... WITHOUT any romantic attraction.

I completely agree with this. I'm in no way interested in a romantic relationship with another guy, nor do I have feelings for them. For me it's just fun, good sexual pleasure.

But women are a different story. Even just with sex I feel some kind of emotional attachment, even if it only lasts a short time.

I don't think I'm gay or bi, just sexual.