As to the question about being self-conscious about bulges, the answer is 'yes' for me. I'm an avid bicyclist, including commuting by bike several days a week. Recently I left later than usual, and arrived at work in my spandex shorts barely in time for a staff meeting, so I didn't have time to change. I'm the only male staff member, and I was a little self-conscious. Mostly I spent the hour sitting down and trying to be clever with my bicycle jacket in front of me. The ladies all know I'm gay, but I was still self-conscious about the bulge.