Free Pass/Fresh Slate

Discussion in 'Et Cetera, Et Cetera' started by naughty, Mar 15, 2009.

  1. naughty

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    Workin' up a good pot of mad!
    In the past few weeks I have been thinking about the ways our greatest strengths can sometimes be our greatest weaknesses as well...

    There are so many people here who have a lot in common and for one reason or another have gone down paths that have ended in them no longer seeing the good in that person but being blinded by pain inflicted in hurts thrown back and forth.

    I would like to conduct an experiment... I would like for everyone to make three lists...

    1) List five people here who you have a natural affinity for and have made a difference because you met them here. List at least of the characteristics about them that drew them to you.

    2) List five people here who you may not know well, but would like to know more about and get to know better . List the characteristics that draw you to want to know more.

    3) List five people who may be vastly different from you or for whom in the past you may have had even negative interactions but for whom you may admire traits and potentially have something in common. List their similarities to you and why you might want to learn more about them.


    This exercise may require you to suspend some of your preconceived notions, things you have heard, or even online altercations you may have had with someone to see them in a new light. It may take a bit of courage and ability to think outside the box to start again. But who wouldnt like a clean slate?

    This experiment was brought on by some of the events of the last month.
    I will admit that when I first heard about the amnesty program, it took me aback. I thought about some of the reasons different members were banned and thought absolutely not. But none of us are static beings. We are a different man or woman today than we were yesterday. Life is hard enough .Wouldnt everyone like the chance to start afresh and not have it held against them? Lets try it. I am sure when you look back through your lists and compare the personality characteristics you may find that many of us have more in common than we think. What draws you may tell you something as well.

    1) Five LPSG friends ( though you may have many start with five)

    Mindseye- Plain speaking, Fierce intelligence, loyal, passionate


    Mr Snakey- Warmth, Compassion, Patience, Kindness,loyal


    Prepstud- Loyal, Creative, thoughtful, passionate, intelligent


    Rikter8- Creative, Thoughtful, Caring, Loyal, passionate


    DeeBlackthorne - Brilliant, Unconventional mindset, Loving, Loyal


    2) Newer friends or people who intrigue you (Start with five)

    Nudeyorker- Intelligence, diplomacy, graciousness, kindness, creativity

    NJQT- Intelligence, Passionate, hungry mind, opinionated

    Cockoloco- Humor, intelligence, kindness, openess

    Catch of the Day- Different mindset, kindness, open, fun loving

    Mercurial Bliss- Gracious, Intelligent, introspective, kind


    3) People who may surprise you (Start with five)

    Snoozan- Intelligent, Creative, Fun loving, passionate

    Chicago Sam- Intelligent, Creative, fun loving, gracious

    Lex- Intelligent, Creative, passionate, Persistant

    DC Deep- Intelligent, Creative, gracious, Passionate


    YOu may notice that many of the characteristics you most you will see throughout your lists...
     
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    This is a great thread....To think I was going to start laundry, I'll get a pen and paper and get back to this!
     
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    Naughty this one made you think....

    The five people I have known the longest here whom we just seemed to hit it off and still do are
    Chicagosam kind, intelligent, sense of humor, loyal friend
    ManlyBanisters kind, intelligent, sense of humor, opinionated
    Drifterwood intelligent, sense of humor, fun loving, opinionated
    DaveyR kind, caring ,intelligent, fun loving
    HickBoyhonest, intelligent, sense of humor, loyal friend, caring

    These people I have started interacting with last fall

    K8 fun, great sense of humor, kind, caring

    Naughty kind, supportive, intelligent, sense of humor
    Garth33 fun, interesting, sense of humor, down to earth
    biguy2738 kind, compassionate, caring, genuine
    invisibleman intelligent, kind, sense of humor, creative

    These are people that I have had limited contact with that at first I did not feel we had a great deal in common however I have been pleasantly surprised by in some of the posts and sentiments they share here

    eddyabs fun, sense of humor, kind, intelligent
    Jeff Black kind, intelligent, sense of humor,creative
    krispdx kind, caring, fun, creative, compassionate
    pieterjoke kind, loyal, a true friend, a breath of fresh air
    HazelGod intelligent, honest, sense of humor, genuine

    That is not to say that to all the others I know here that I don't share these feelings about you....and then some!
     
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    Leave it to you Naughty to bring something new to the table. I like it. It's hot.

    My First Five

    Corius - Intelligent, engaging, empathetic, & thought provoking
    Killerb - Smart, passionate, funny, & very down to earth
    Numbers123 - Cool, intelligent, expressive, & a fan of love
    Cockoloco - Great balance of seriousness and playfulness, relentless (in the best possible way), sensitive & very respectful
    Naughty - Genuine, caring, funny, & reassuring

    My Second Five

    Oh_Yeah - Witty, tactful, intelligent, & seems to know how to let loose & have a good time
    Pieterjoke - Lively spirit, always means well, & very complimentary
    Vince - Mature, laid back personality, attentive, & very receptive
    Cute Ass - Smart, great taste in music, opinionated, funny, & looks for logic
    Matt Brick - Genuine, mature, great sense of humor, complimentary, & thoughtful

    My Final Five

    Anf-studd - Presentable, repsectful, & funny
    sam_solo26 - Thoughtful, intelligent, mature, & intriguing
    Hickboy - Not a bullshit artist, says it exactly how it is, & doesn't seem to care what people think

    I've decided to leave my last two slots for members that requested to be my friends here but I've never heard a word from. So many make requests just based on pictures and I never hear from them. I'd like to know them. Other than that, why the request?
     
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    1) List five people here who you have a natural affinity for and have made a difference because you met them here. List at least 1 of the characteristics about them that drew them to you.

    alex8~ Brilliant, Charming, Killer eyes, Kind-hearted, Passionate about life and love, considerate to those he cares for.

    glenn~ Sweet, mature, level headed beyond his age, understanding, great lips

    Mercurialbliss~ Calm, witty, excellent listener, ferocious adversary, wisdom beyond her lifespan.

    NoStrings~ Youthful, playful, openminded, cautious, makes a person feel very special (can't think of the word for that).

    Snoozan~ A fireball of energy, vivacious, sunshine personified, witty, intelligent.


    2) List five people (or more) here who you may not know well, but would like to know more about and get to know better . List the characteristics that draw you to want to know more.

    Xcuze~ Intriguing, mysterious, confident, loyal, persistent and willing to challenge others in order to get his point across.

    Pieterjoke~ Beneath his persona is a youthful curiousity, one that is respectful of others. He's considerate.

    NudeYorker~ Rather calm, always willing to help, patience, open to others, accepting.

    MickeyLee~ She fascinates me. I sense great beauty and intelligence from her. She adores the same tv shows as well.

    Numbers123~ Speaks like he's got a secret to share but can't give you more than a little bit.



    3) List five (or more) people who may be vastly different from you or for whom in the past you may have had even negative interactions but for whom you may admire traits and potentially have something in common. List their similarities to you and why you might want to learn more about them.

    Manlybanisters~ I don't think I could ever have sex with Hickboy, so I admire that about her:cool: I also admire her determination to hear both sides of a situation and then make an informed decision:wink:

    Invisibleman~ A man who wants to belong, but is also comfortable being on his own. It's an intriguing combination. Plus, he comes off rather smart.

    Chicagosam~ I admire his persistence and the fact he's managed to stay in his current occupation for so long, when I'd likely get incredibly frustrated working with that age group.

    Tripod~ Has a confidence about himself that I don't know I could match, regardless of how I looked.

    DaveyR~ Calm. Very Calm. Doesn't seem to get worked up at all. He's very relaxed. I respect that.

    Drifterwood~ Another sage speaker. Comes off as a guy who has lived his life.

    Novice_btm~ Has a mind like a vault. It's one of his most intriguing aspects.


    I know I've forgotten more than a few people.... but, I could only stretch the list so far. I'm sorry. If I've spoken to you more than once, chances are good I find you interesting enough to like. So, even if I've forgotten your name, don't take it personal.:smile: PM me if you want to know what I like about you, if that helps.:biggrin1:


     
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    1) List five people here who you have a natural affinity for and have made a difference because you met them here. List at least of the characteristics about them that drew them to you.
    jeff black - has a natural outgoingness and zest for life, as well as an ability to energize and revitalize others; also has a great sense of color schemes for his posts. :rolleyes: He's one of the few people around here who always knows for certain whether or not I'm joking or being serious.
    novice_btm - enjoys exploring the forgotten gems of past human invention; is thoroughly wysiwyg and true to his values and beliefs.
    senor rubirosa - has a brain like an encyclopedia that's been soaked in the finest single malts; always receptive, always giving.
    Xcuze - knows full well that he and I would be the two old women sitting with our knitting by the guillotines; mischievous yet true-to-himself always.
    Gl3nn - linguistically and intellectually playful; a purveyor of simple-yet-deep wisdoms beyond his years.

    2) List five people here who you may not know well, but would like to know more about and get to know better. List the characteristics that draw you to want to know more.
    cockoloco - always playful, like a kitten with a ball of string; one can't help but want to pet him a little. :rolleyes:
    pieterjoke - wears his heart on his sleeve for the world to see; free from much of the cynicism in which the rest of us are mired.
    warmhorizon - able to enjoy the shadows as much as being centre-stage; a devoted follower of his own interests.
    leonceswim - a man committed to fun, and to looking for answers in life; a persistence to achievement, whether in lighthearted or more earnest matters.
    DaveyR - the calm in any storm; a man thoroughly dedicated to success and to his husband and those who mean much to him.

    3) List five people who may be vastly different from you or for whom in the past you may have had even negative interactions but for whom you may admire traits and potentially have something in common. List their similarities to you and why you might want to learn more about them.
    MickeyLee - her lust for television shows would drive me to despair, and yet our eating habits and insomnia would offer us a shared harbor of peaceful understanding.
    Monster - I've always sensed, rightly or wrongly, that he thinks I wouldn't like him; and yet I think his dedication to the things he believes in and his ability to wind up the more pompous frequenters of this site can be quite endearing.
    chicagosam - while I've made no secret of the fact I disagreed with his return, I've always admired his bright and breezy personality here, and am openly envious of his perfectly pitched 'radio voice'.
    whatireallywant - she'd doubtless scowl at me for being a 'rabid vegan', but if you want someone who has an incredibly keen sense of who they are and how the world around us structures and positions us in terms of gender identity, then you need look no further.
    ManlyBanisters - is the original duck's back off which the water cascaded; while she and I would doubtless be at loggerheads over many issues (which isn't to say that we wouldn't agree wholeheartedly on many others), I don't think we'd exhibit anything but a mutual respect for our own respective positions. After arguing like a pair of asshats. :rolleyes:

    Apologies to anyone that I didn't mention, but you simply failed to make the grade. :eek: See, that's the kinda humor which repeatedly gets me into trouble with people who aren't mentioned in section (1) of my list. :wink:
     
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    ROFLMFAO!!

    Oh alex when you start to hate me I'll know I've been bad. Or not bad enough. Either or. :rolleyes:

    You have pinpoint precision when it comes to character summation. If your anus was 80% tighter you'd be perfect.
     
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    1) List five people here who you have a natural affinity for and have made a difference because you met them here. List at least of the characteristics about them that drew them to you. (In alphabetical order.)

    biguy2738 - loving, supportive, funny, enthusiastic, kind.
    This man is a big part of the reason I stayed posting here beyond the first month of curiosity. We had a lot of fun together and he was so kind and supportive of me when my personal life had a wibble.
    chicagosam - fun, supportive, wicked sense of humour, long memory :wink:, caring.
    Again, sam was one of my first friends here and we stayed in touch throughout his ban - he was also a great help to me in personal matters.
    dongalong - funny, light-hearted, big-hearted, honest, generous.
    Another early friend here who's interactions in the Fun Stuff forum were a big part of why I stayed at this site. We don't communicate in private often but I love the honesty he brings to the forum.
    Drifterwood - thoughtful, intelligent, funny, accepting, honest.
    This guy is a great sounding board, he's also completely accepting of other people's differences and has a humility that underwrites his self-confidence.
    nudeyorker - kind, loving, thoughtful, funny, joyful.
    I love this man - he's everything he appears to be, and more.


    2) List five people here who you may not know well, but would like to know more about and get to know better . List the characteristics that draw you to want to know more. (In alphabetical order.)

    Amex - intelligent, thoughtful, wry, funny, accepting.
    I've had the pleasure of meeting this guy, and that confirmed everything I thought of him - I'd very much like to spend more time in his company.
    DaveyR - funny, kind, inclusive, generous, joyful.
    Everyone I think high of adores this man - how could I not.
    deeblackthorn - intelligent, sweet, thoughtful, accepting, fun.
    I don't know that much about dee, but I like the way he thinks and expresses himself.
    dong20 - intelligent, precise, sharp, honest, self-aware.
    I only know dong from his posts, someone who expresses himself that well and is that aware of his own position and that of others deserve knowing better.
    jeff black - batshit crazy, funny, thoughtful, clever, sweet.
    I'd love to hang out with jeff - I like his sharp eye, his quick wit and the way that combines with his obvious compassion.


    3) List five people who may be vastly different from you or for whom in the past you may have had even negative interactions but for whom you may admire traits and potentially have something in common. List their similarities to you and why you might want to learn more about them. (In alphabetical order.)

    alex8 - cunning, sharp, razor sharp wit, intelligent, self-depricating.
    I want to play strip Trivial Pursuits with this man and a couple of male go-go dancers - as long as he isn't allowed to answer the entertainment questions.
    Mademoiselle Rouge - funny, honest, smart, generous, batshit crazy.
    Red and I disagreed on a lot - I loved posting with her and miss her contributions here.
    novice_btm - sharp, observant, forthright, playful, loyal.
    I don't know novice at all well and sometimes don't get him at all - but I really like him and I never skip his posts.
    snoozan - intelligent, funny, caustic, loyal, honest
    We don't get on in some ways and this never stops us from listening to each other and openly agreeing with each other where appropriate.


    It can't have escaped anyone's notice, anyone who knows us, that HickBoy is not on my list. Yes, we met here, but our interaction, even before we met in person, was always so much bigger than this place. I don't consider him an LPSG person - he's Lennie, he's in a category apart from anyone else in my life. Intelligent, sharp, loving, caring, aware, sexy, funny, beautiful inside and out - he's truly wonderful. If I hadn't met him here I would have to have met him somewhere else because, quite simply, he completes me and I'm just not sure who, or even how, I was before I met him.
     
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    *is bumping the thread because it's not a bad idea for a thread*

    Btw, How do I make myself not batshitty:tongue:
     
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    I think these lists are a bad idea because they tend to segregate people into the "have" and "have-nots", the "ins" and the "outs", or the "cool" and the "uncool"...but mostly because I am never on any of these God Damn lists!!

    Sigh
     
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    I think the intent of the OP was really to show us how much we have in common with one another and that we sometime lose sight of some of the people and things in life that are important to us! Here and in life.
    It's really not a popularity contest in my opinion or I dare to say I doubt the mention of my name would be included.
     
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    I partially disagree, Mr.Pinktext...

    While those threads do the things you suggest, this one in particular allows people to suggest names of people they may not know as well... as well as those that they might have had difference of opinons with.

    I know, when I did it, I liked it ebcause it allowed me to pick a few lesser known members. Plus, the ones I don't know on others lists, I can go to their profiles and check them out.

    I've always thought that those "lesser" known people have the chance to post as well and often hope they do.:biggrin1:
     
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    Meanwhile we have proved so far that there are six members who are not ADD...come on folks it only takes a half hour of brain activity to do this!
     
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    What?! A spotlight thread is not enough for you?:biggrin1:

    Alright, already, I'll put you on my list. Which group would you like to be in?

    ADD and proud of it!
     
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    *bump* this thread needs to stay on the first couple pages of active threads. i'm working on my list right now.

    ml
    participate peoples.
     
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    Wow ML that must be some list...you've been working on it for seven hours!
     
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    She's excited.. and she's got quite a few people she knows.:redface::wink:
     
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    mine will be the most amazing list ever posted on LPSG. people will cry if they're not on the list. people lucky enough to be on the list will find new meaning in life.

    membership is going to double after i post. just wait. seriously this thing will change the world.

    ml
    *actually got distracted by kitten and hamster videos on youtube*
     
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    Take your time...LPSG embraces AADD!
     
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    *Bump*

    Is still waiting for that good cry.:wink:
     
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