Friend asked me to jerk off with him

[Lee_M]

If he's a good friend, then why not
Just make it really clear what allowed with touching, looking etc

 

[NIMBUS]

With all due respect:
A man at college that has never touched himself and has to be taught how to masturbate sounds far fetched.

Feel free to doubt but those are the facts. I was more than surprised but he was a very naïve guy from a small village community, who had to be taught many (what we would consider) basic lifeskills.

 

[petergroot]

No worries man...it just sounded weird.
To each his own.
Peace.

 

[Notaes]

Never jerked off with another guy but would do it in a heart beat. Sounds exciting and sounds like it could be a bonding experience for life with another male.

 

[CUBE]

Don't overthink it. If it happens it happens. Sounds relaxing and bonding

 

[Cecil56]

I think it's fun to jerk with a buddy and watch each other cum. I relate to being "bisexual", so helping each other is fun as well. I'm cool with just watching as well, that would be you guys choice. Go for it!

 

[deleted1036524]

Im a straight male and my friend ask me if I wanted to jerk off with him. I've never jerked off with a friend before and I'm sure sure how I feel about it. Anyone have a similar experience? I kind of want to but would be super nervous.

Go for it

 

[1031939]

Feel free to doubt but those are the facts. I was more than surprised but he was a very naïve guy from a small village community, who had to be taught many (what we would consider) basic lifeskills.

I grew up not masterbating. I did try it once. It didn't do much for me so as of this year I have only done it afew times as my sex drive has quadrupled and I can't seem to get relief as often as I need it.

 

[Allen67]

I have not considered jerking with him before and I know the guy really well. We're pretty close and super comfortable with each other. He said he wondered if I would be interested in jerking off to porn together and it would be a bonding experience. I've never jerked with someone while watching porn before but it doesn't horrify me. I'm not sure how I would feel but I'm concerned about that for sure.

I wish that I had a friend that I felt close enough to and was able to be so open with. You should feel honored that he trusts your friendship enough to ask you. Whatever your decision is, you owe it to him to thank him for being so open with you and then either go for it or politely decline. There is no right or wrong answer, only your feelings.

 

[xenon-naturist]

Im a straight male and my friend ask me if I wanted to jerk off with him. I've never jerked off with a friend before and I'm sure sure how I feel about it. Anyone have a similar experience? I kind of want to but would be super nervous.

Sounds a bit odd, I'd have thought he'd just asked you round, had some drinks put on some porn and taken it from there - step by step, so you could get into the porn, get hard, play with your selves while still dressed, get your cocks out and take it from there. if you're nervous you'll enjoy it more.

 

[RioDalston]

My advice: have a drink/smoke to take the edge off and feel less awkward, then if you're both still up for it - go for it.

 

[svrocks]

Do you know if your friend is straight, gay, or bi? Because you list yourself as 90% straight I'm just going to take it that you're straight. Does he know that, or does he have reasons to believe otherwise?

If you're interested in it I'd suggest you straighten things out with him. As long as everything happens within the limits that both of you are willing to accept then I see no harm in it.

Being straight myself I would personally go for it as long as I've firmly established that this was not going beyond my limits and I think it wasn't going to jeopardise the friendship.

 

[622675]

Being straight myself I would personally go for it as long as I've firmly established that this was not going beyond my limits and I think it wasn't going to jeopardise the friendship.

Don’t take this as a criticism or challenge, but I find your statement to be a bit puzzling.

If you are OK with having a JO session with a friend, why would you want to spoil that environment by first outlining what makes you special.

After all the purpose of this adventure is to help both you and the friend discover a unique level of bonding and personal enjoyment. All you need to tell the other guy is “hell yes”. Lets do it.

If you find things should be going beyond your comfort level, then you have any number of positive ways of backing off should the situation arise. That is what you are there to do is learn about yourself and your friend.

It is your attitude and behavior during the JO session that will either cripple the friendship or advance it. If your plan is to go all “preachy” before or during a JO session, you have already harmed (likely killed) the friendship.

Having a JO session with another guy has a lot in common with going out drinking together except it is more powerful. The passions that come up while JO with someone will often loosen lips and free an individual to share their inner thoughts & desires.

It is the role of each guy to express his self, appreciate what the other person confides, and to not be (negatively) judgmental.

You know what it feels like to have someone you admire tell you that you are looking good and doing great. Those are normal positive expressions. They are not “gay” and can work just fine during a JO session without loosing your man card.

 

[svrocks]

Don’t take this as a criticism or challenge, but I find your statement to be a bit puzzling.

^ I would quote the whole reply but that would just be a bit long. Sorry.

I see where you're coming from and having re-read my own reply I think I may not have phrased it as well as I should have.

I guess what I was trying to say was I would personally find some ways to make sure that he doesn't take it as an invitation to progress further, that is if that is his intention at all. Considering the OP's proclamation that he is straight (or at least I take his 90% straight as straight outright for argument's sake) and anxious I think he may be trapped between his curiosity and his uncertainty of his friend's intention. I assumed that the OP was concerned that if he accepts the invitation to join the friend in a JO session he would somehow be indicating to his friend, should his intention be to test the water, that he is interested in a sexual relationship. Again, this is just my own assumption.

I believe that every friendship is unique and between any two friends there is a culture between them. I normally put it out there for friends to know that I'm not one to read between the lines and that I would ask if I'm curious. So, with that in mind, I think I would personally -- assuming I find myself in the OP's position -- try to establish the nature of his invitation and see if I was really okay with it. This of course would require this friend to be understanding of my communication style and intentions of the conversation. I see I may have applied my own frame of thought on the OP's situation here with my reply.

As far as what makes me special is concerned, that has not crossed my mind, at least not the way I think you had perceived it.

I appreciate your response though and don't take it as a criticism or challenge.

 

[849142]

Establish some ground rules on the front end and go for it. Have you and your friend ever casually seen each other naked....like in a locker room or open showers situation?? Even if you have, seeing each other's erections for the first time could be a bit unnerving.

 

[buzzrider7]

So, OP, what happened?!

 

[UKnowULikeIt]

Several years in the past I spent sometime in prison and after about a week you realize that it's pretty common. In prison I've jerked off with hundreds of men standing within a few 100 feet. The first time I did it it was while thumbing thru porn mags while my cell mate sat on the top bunk and beat his dick to another porn mag. We were talking and passing the cocobutter lotion and magazines back and forth. The second time we went on for like 30 minutes of the same passing porn mags and lotion back and forth and ended with him getting very verbal and making it clear that he was about to bust his nut. Out of no where he growled/whispered "I'm about to nut" and then let out an insane groan. Within seconds I was shooting a load right into my sock. We didn't speak about it afterwards but it took place every night for at least 8 months before I went to lock up for a situation. During that 8 months we started on the bunks and evolved to sitting in front of each other one on the footlocker and the other on the bunk.

Anyhow.... I am now happily married and have had several jerk sessions with men. Some random and others set up sessions... I'm into pussy and do not find men attractive at all but it was and is something I do not regret doing. Shit I look forward to the next time.

GO FOR IT

 

[Anthonybudnyc]

Go for it man. I'm in the camp where I think jerking off together can make a friendship tighter. Just remember that you make up your own rules as you go. Unfortunately I haven't had a friend turned jerk buddy in a very long time. I have however put ads up on craigslist for jerk buddies. For the most part it has been an awesome experience with guys of varying experience and most have understood I'm only in it for the stroke, maybe mutual stroke. Some have come to expect more and I've had to straight up excuse myself from the situation when they wouldn't let off. If he's your friend, I think he's likely to respect your wishes to take it little by little in the moment. No one wants to feel awkward in such a vulnerable position. I wish more guys were into it the bonding of it.

Good luck and let us know the details!

 

[curtdude]

Dude if you want to then go for it. Look at some porn drop your drawers and whack your tool. You might learn something dont be shy ask questions talk to the guy about his cock or commdnt about hlw big his balls are. Go for it!

 

[ronin001]

Several years in the past I spent sometime in prison and after about a week you realize that it's pretty common. In prison I've jerked off with hundreds of men standing within a few 100 feet. The first time I did it it was while thumbing thru porn mags while my cell mate sat on the top bunk and beat his dick to another porn mag. We were talking and passing the cocobutter lotion and magazines back and forth. The second time we went on for like 30 minutes of the same passing porn mags and lotion back and forth and ended with him getting very verbal and making it clear that he was about to bust his nut. Out of no where he growled/whispered "I'm about to nut" and then let out an insane groan. Within seconds I was shooting a load right into my sock. We didn't speak about it afterwards but it took place every night for at least 8 months before I went to lock up for a situation. During that 8 months we started on the bunks and evolved to sitting in front of each other one on the footlocker and the other on the bunk.

Anyhow.... I am now happily married and have had several jerk sessions with men. Some random and others set up sessions... I'm into pussy and do not find men attractive at all but it was and is something I do not regret doing. Shit I look forward to the next time.

GO FOR IT

I thought that Florida was one of the states that counted Pornographic magazines in the prison system as contraband, It can not be mailed or delivered in person.