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Here is my opinion. I haven't read all other replies, so I apologize when this has been said before.I'm asking this because we really don't know what the best way to handle this situation is...
So what would you do? Would you go ahead and burn that bridge and tell him that you don't like him? That would be a really mean thing to do. Or would you do what we do, which is never call him or invite him anywhere, unless he happens to have run into us in public and we were already on the way someplace?
Why not? It does mean less then when someone you really care about adores you. That's all.Is it okay to let someone you dislike adore you and fawn all over you, even if you really think that person sucks a little bit, or maybe a lot?
Petite, given that the fanboy looks up to the BF so, is there any chance he could say something to the guy. Like not 'we don't like you' or 'stay the fuck away from my smokin' babymomma & me', but when he does something gross or uncool or douchy just mention it. Admittedly he sounds dense, but maybe if the guy he admires conveys his tolerance, etc, he will change a bit.
suffer no fools![]()
I'm confused about one thing.
You say he looks up to and pretty much hero-worships and acts like a fanboy around the BF but you also said that they have reallly different personalities and things.
Common sense dictates that if he looks up to the BF then he probably wants to be more like him.
Also is the BF aware of the other guys fanboyism?
I'm not saying the BF should outright insult the guy just kinda gently chide him a little.
Also it is possible to influence the people around you to be more like you. Indeed all of us are influenced by the views of others such as your parents, friends, family, teachers etc.
Also does he have any other friends to play with?
His constant desire to join you and the BF and your friends might just mean he's really lonely or something.
Here is my opinion. I haven't read all other replies, so I apologize when this has been said before.
I ask myself 2 questions here:
a: What is more mean to do? Go on, pretend everything is fine, but still giving signs you don't like him? I don't think you never go like "Oh no. Him again". Or tell him in a more or less nice way that you don't like the way he acts, and that you prefer to be without his presence?
b: What do you feel yourself? You tell you try to avoid him, going to different (less nice?) spots, alert all night because he might show up. I don't think you should continue that. I don't believe you are perfectly fine with it.
Why not? It does mean less then when someone you really care about adores you. That's all.
TheBF is certainly a lovable guy and the kind of person who gets along with everybody and is a lot of fun to be around, but both of us think it's weird because of how much he seems to like him.
He doesn't seem to have difficulty making friends or getting attention from women, he just seems to have decided that the coolest of them all is TheBF.
Have you tried moving to Papua New Guinea? He can't be THAT keen.
Have you tried moving to Papua New Guinea? He can't be THAT keen.
Does he ever actually date or have sex with any of the women?
The phrasing makes it seem like he rebuffs them all.
So I know it's unlikely but the first thing that popped into my head is that maybe The Fanboy is bi or at least likes men too?
This might explain his obsessive love of the BF and his desire to be with you guys all the time, even when you're doing oyur own thing. Like a high-school girl wanting to hang out with her crush even when he's hanging out with his friends?
Also you mentioned that he seems to be extra dickish towards you, which might be because he's jealous of you?
I realize It's probably wrong but I just thought I should mention it.
ya need a spray bottle.
a lil "spritz" when he says/does something irritating.
works on cats.
so ya know, i'm not kidding.. the boy has a "why the fuck do you know him" friend. i carried a water pistol for about 6 months. when ever he "ass'd out" he got a trigger of water to his ear.
he's a much nicer guy now. i like hanging out with him. and his new girlfriend LOVES me :smile:
Is it okay to let someone you dislike adore you and fawn all over you, even if you really think that person sucks a little bit, or maybe a lot?
Of course not. You aren't so low that you need sucky people to fawn all over you.
Yes! Yes I do! More! MORE! :biggrin1:
Do you have any idea how difficult it is to be mean to someone who is sincerely nice to you?
Dahling, you...are...fabulous!
'Yeah she's such a slut! I fucked her!'
'So you how much did you have to pay her to fuck you?'
or
'Yeah she's such a slut! I fucked her!'
'Hey, she seems pretty cool to me, why don't you treat her with respect?'
Maybe he just has a fetish about the concept of sexually adventurous women.
I dunno, if the guy is a pain to be around, why be around him? Want me to get rid of him for ya? I bet I could do a good job...
*ponders* TheBF's friend might be looking for an identity. for now, he's holding on to Lothari-bro. TheBF might be an aspirational man-crush. like, in TheBF he sees who he wants to be, the life he might ultimately want.
How can he be genuinely nice and friendly and act all douchebag-y?
Maybe he has Split Personality Disorder?
Lol
*ponders* TheBF's friend might be looking for an identity. for now, he's holding on to Lothari-bro. TheBF might be an aspirational man-crush. like, in TheBF he sees who he wants to be, the life he might ultimately want.
a good talking to might ultimately be the best thing for obnoxious boy.
cus those dudes sleeping with heaps of women.. well they sleep with heaps of women.. once. they make jokes about love'em and leave'em.. at the end of the day.. the man whore is just as disposable as his latest conquest. :shrug: more so.. he looks back with fond recall.. most times, to his bed mate.. if he's remembered.. it ain't in a fond light.
*pets the lothari-bro* is ya stopped being an ass, someone would love ya. cuz charm ain't all superficial. some part of you connects enough to know how to play the situation. a bit more genuine, and ya might have something/someone worth more than changing the sheets.
MickeyLee... You genius! That's it! It's not TheBF he's after - it's his life. Which means that Petite is the object of his affections. And the being particularly obnoxious/annoying to her is the typically inept high school approach to attempting to impress the girl he likes...
Elementary, my dear Watson!
*Tosses deerstalker onto hatstand. Contentedly sucks on prized pipe. Picks up violin & starts to play... badly.*