Alright, look. I gotta call some bullshit. I'm a bit concerned that people are associating straight guys with being incapable of having solid, platonic relationships with women and that anytime you get us around a walking vagina, we can't think of anything but fucking. It's just not true.
To be fair, at least here in America, we're probably a bit quick to judge sexuality. Some people confuse me for being gay because I have half a fashion sense (thanks to working in retail for a while) and because I don't ogle a woman's breasts when I talk to her. Heh, quit thinking I bat for the pink team and understand that single mothers raise their sons to be highly respectful toward women. That's what I say.
There's this girl that I had statistics class with this past semester. She worked for the Democratic party, and we would talk quite a bit after class about Obama and the presidential race. Turns out we have some research interests in common. We hung out more and got to be fast friends. She felt really embarrassed when I told her that I was straight. I told her not to worry; I said, straight-faced, if I became interested in her, I'd let her know. (I make it a rule to date
away from the university.)
See, this is why I'm a fan of the direct approach. If you're interested in someone, just lay it out there and say so. The worst thing you face isn't rejection; it's dawdling like an idiot because you just don't know how the other person feels about you.
Zero, you're spot on; you've got great interpersonal skills that women respond to positively, for the most part, so you shouldn't put those on hold. Trust me. Don't let this one woman strip you of that. And if this girl, or anybody else for that matter, drops you without fair warning, then that means automatically you're better off without that person in your life. No one deserves to be treated like that.