Friend really impressed by my size

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  1. D_Coyne Toss

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    I compared my hard penis with a friend, some years ago: he is kinda small (i think 4.5 inches and thin).

    Since then he slightly changed his attitude towards me, he looks like he feels much inferior, even submissive: he always walks behind me, tell me that he is sorry for every stupid thing, often referrs with a sad tone to the difference between our sizes.

    Those days he is more submissive than ever, and what is strange is that he is like that only towards me, with the others he acts normally.

    Have I so badly hit his ego? I didn't mean to humiliate him, I always try to be supportive, and I do avoid referring to that episode, but it seems it doesn't work.

    I really care about him, and I hate seeing him this way.
     
  2. benderten2001

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    Yep. You could have. There's always gonna be a risk whenever a guy reveals his bigger size to his less endowed friend...intentionally done or not. We read about it here all the time in this forum. Chances are, your friend already had some deep-rooted self-image concerns even BEFORE your friendship. Seeing your "size" merely confirmed his suspicions about himself.

    This will sound harsh, but YOU must understand that it's your friend who ultimately has the problem and not you. Playing into his self-pity any further is not going to help him either.

    Continue trying to be his good supportive friend but step back from worrying too much more about it yourself. Your friend needs an attitude adjustment and it might require someone else (other than you) to achieve conquering his personal insecurities.

    I hate to say this, but some guys? ... don't ever seem to totally overcome them. :cool: ...Unless they really, really want to.
     
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    Tell the dude to chill, that dick size doesn't make the man, the personality does. He could drive a woman wild if he learns to use what he's got.
     
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    Continue trying to be his good supportive friend but step back from worrying too much more about it yourself.

    It is a strange thing. I was thinking about this the other night.

    Regarding apologies they bore me. Basically I like to suggest that no apologies, no complaints and no explanations suit me fine, I like to move on.

    But what I was thinking was that this guy, the other night, had a look in his eyes like he was a loser, actually he is a very sexy confident guy usually (well we all think so) but when someone was joking about seeing his cock, there was such a marked change, the sparkle in his eyes disappeared for a second. It was a really marked change, it was obviously more of an issue for him than anyone else. Only lasted a split second, and most people wouldn't have noticed.

    Just let your bud know you appreciate other things about him. We can all think about things that aren't worth bothering about really. A good heart, and a sense of adventure and fun are more important to me. (Who am I trying to kid, a hot ass is really all that matters).

    In the light of eternity cock size is neither here nor there.

    Oh that sounds deeper than I intended. I do like guys who like it deep though don't get me wrong...
     
  5. proportioned

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    "In the light of eternity cock size is neither here nor there."

    Perhaps. On the other hand, other males naturally tend to be subservient to the "leader of the pack", simply because of its superior physical characteristics. It has also something to do with being attractive to the female of the specie, on the score that a fitter-looking partner will be more likely to sire a fit offspring, perpetuate the specie etc. We would hear much more about that but for the fact that -say- stags don't get arrested if they go around parading their antlers, whereas men would, if they displayed their manhood in the streets....
     
  6. viking1

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    I have learned over the years not to get into the ole cock size comparison thing with guys. Somebodys feelings always get hurt...even if it's totally unintentional.
     
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    He was hurt, he feels bad, and yes, likely it is because of other experiences in his life, some related to his size, that made him feel bad. It was NOt your fault---and it isn;t his, either. We don;t get to choose our size, and we don;t get to decide the value that others place on size. Now, I CAN tell you something you CAN do that will help him feel better. Find something about him that YOU honestly envy--it can be anything, as long as it is something about HIM--prefereaBLY, SOMETHING PHYSICAL. Unfortunately, telling someone how great they are INSIDE doesn;t help as much, because society as a whole is pretty superficial, and overtlyonly talks about and values, and show interest, in external physical characteristics. So, is he more muscular than you? Taller than you? More athletic? Find SOMETHING that you honestly admire, and envy. Don't pretend, because people see through that. Find that thing, and let him know. Make him believe you mean what you say. Once he does, he will feel better about himself, and his relationship to you, and begin to see you as an equal again, because HE will be able to have something over YOU. It is stupid, and meanlingless overall, but it is how we men are wired. We need to have something that we can honestly say is worthy and admired in the eyes of society, something that others wish they had. It is all ego. If you can find this, then you can make him feel better. If you can;t find it, then you either have to let him go as a friend, or accept his new attitude towards you, and live with the hurt puppy he has become. Good Luck!
     
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    I've had buds react similarily to my dick many times and, honestly, I don't mind dudes submitting to me because they know I have a big dick. If it feels right for them to do that then that's what they should do. I think it's an ancient, animalistic thing for beta-males to yield to Alpha-Males and it's very natural.
     
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    I've had the same reaction, and like the previous post, I kind of like it. Me and a friend were friends for about 1 year before he saw my dick when we shared a hotel room, and from that point on, things weren't the same. Now he gets me stuff, runs errands for me, is always in my shadow.... At first it was weird, and I tried not to be nude with him againm but he seemed to be obsessed with seeing my dick again -- suggesting activiteies requirigin us to change etc. Now, he makes me dinner often at his place, and I always strip done to my briefs and then nude "to get more comfortable"
     
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    fetkuk the alpha male wasnt (isnt) so because he was hung but probably strength, abilities and overall size and strength allowed (allows) him to dominate. He challenged and won his way to the leadership.
    If you have someone who is subservient to you cause you're hung good for you but he is cock whipped that simple and if it is a bick cock that made him that way use it if you want but maybe cool the alpha stuff.
     
  11. rob_just_rob

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    Uhhh... at first it was weird, and now him making dinner for you and you eating it naked isn't weird?
     
  12. AverageJoe06

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    He may be your friend, but that doesn't make his insecurity your responsibility. You have to understand that. We are each born into this world in a certain set of circumstances that we can't control - race, gender, wealth (at least initially), family, geography, etc. - and that list includes sexual endowment. It's up to each of us to come to terms with the cards we've been dealt in life, and it's nobody's responsibility but our own.

    My suggestion is to treat your friend just like you always have, and let him do whatever he needs to. You may feel for him, but at the end of the day there's nothing you can do for him. He has to do it for himself.

    And this is coming from a guy who spent a *lot* of time coming to terms with his dick.
     
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    I think it is a natural reaction.
    My girlfriends who left me said one reason and an important one was penis size.
    I am only below 4 inches and thin.
    Sex was not good, the rest was fine.
    Their new boyfriends all were way bigger.
    When it comes to sex there is a question I am asking myself “am I a real man?”

    In teenage years I was impressed by others with big penises, especially when I saw them in erect state.
    Coming home a few years ago I found my girlfriend fucking another man at home.
    I only heard her moans which she never did with me.
    I saw him coming out of the bedroom and saw his big cock by accident.
    There was a new feeling – inferiority.

    So I think there is an archaic ranking deep in our mind.
     
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    benderten has the right Idea. You should talk to him about it though and be specific that he should never feel infeiror do to genetics. One thing you can tell him that I belive is the All big guys are dependent on small and average dudes because if it were not for the contrast no one would think you where big. So you and others should take time to thank the rest of us. Also give him thiis url http://www.geocities.com/acornpecker this guy rocks he's got a 3.5" pecker and the greastest attitude ever, and I'm sure he would help your freind through email corespondance. And to the little dude who is haveing problembs with women, screw em. go find yourself a nice J/O buddy and be done with em. Just aovid dominate jerks though. I'm an avg 6"x5" and my partner is 9"x6" and he has never been a jerk about it even though sometimes I used to ask him to be. Getting yourself in that sub humiliation state of mind is spiritual suicide. Do whatever you have to have self love above all else.
     
  15. BIGCOCKsucker

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    Well, it sounds like it works for you two, anyway! Obviously, the relationship has changed dramatically since your friend discovered your dick size. It has transformed from a friendship of relative equals into something more akin to a subservient slave serving his superior master. Nothing wrong with that, I suppose, if both parties are happy with the new hiearchy of size dictating status. Obviously, you get off on the power your big dick has over him(kind of like a magic wand, eh?)and are flattered and amused? by his respect and fascination with it. And he seems more than willing and quite eager to please you, as long as he can see your manhood! I wonder how he would react, now, if you were suddenly to start keeping your clothes on around him at all times? Angry? Hurt? Rejected? Desperate for a fix?

    I'm curious, how much bigger are you than he? Are you straight and he's gay??? :confused: Do you tease him about your differences in size? And if you do, does he become even more willing to please you? Has he asked to touch it, or suck it? Given his obvious obsession with it, it seems natural that he will want to, at some point, in the near future!
     
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    BigCOCKSucker, Sorry for the delayed reply -- out of town a lot lately.
    I am mostly straight (I have fooled around with guys on 2 occasions, but it really didn't do it for me), and my friend claims to be straight, but I wouldn't be surprised if he is bi.

    Thus far, he has limited our activities to just looking at me nude, and doing stuff for me. He tried to get me to jack with him to porn, but I declined. I have however, proudly diplayed a hardon for him.

    Flaccid and hard, I am about 3 inches bigger. (he is pretty small)
     
  17. BIGCOCKsucker

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    Brieflover,

    Hey, thanks for the response! Well, whatever your friend's sexuality, he is obviously fascinated with and quite fond of your BIG COCK! How many inches do you have:redface:?

    How long has your friend been running errands and making dinner for you? And before he found out how much BIGGER you are than he is, did he ever cook dinner or run errands for you, then? What were the circumstances of your having a big ol' hardon in front of him?

    I can't imagine that he will be happy forever just looking at IT! Given his obsession with IT, it only seems natural that he is going to want to touch IT and lick on IT at some point in the near future, or find some other guy with a BIG one, who will let him play with his! Teasing him with IT is fine for a while, but ultimately he's going to want more from you, or from someone else!

    Hey, I'm curious as to what your BIG COCK looks like! You should really post some pics, so that other people can feast their eyes on IT and become fans, too:tongue:!

    BIGCOCKsucker
     
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    His feelings and his ego are not hurt. He feels just the same as he did before. He is acting normally towards other people and there is absolutely nothing making him depressed. However, since you showed him your cock, he has developed a respect and admiration towards you. This is only positive, he doesn't feel bad about being the inferior, smaller guy. If he did, he would avoid meeting you. I'm sure he is very happy to see you and he feels good about your relationship.
    The thing is simply that he admires you and he thinks/realizes that you are much more of a real, masculine man than him. A guy with a small dick can never satisfy women like well-hung guys and they they can never feel as manly or perfect as them. Therefore this guy admires you and looks up to you and he will be happy for every time he can serve you and make your life better. Submitting to a real man is an honor to him, as he knows real men deserve the best, just try and make him do something for you and you'll see how eager and happy he will be to serve you.
    In your relationship, he knows he's at the bottom of the male hierarchy, while you are at the top, being the superior man. This is a bit like in working life with bosses and workers. Submitting to the boss is natural and it (normally) doesn't make the workers feel bad.
    Being at the top shouldn't feel bad for you, since it doesn't for him.
    I feel exactly the same when I talk to real men, that I should do everything I can to serve them, with respect and admiration. When they take the opportunity to use me, whether to make me obey or serve them, I just feel that they have every right to do it, and to me it's just an honor to be useful to them in every way they demand. small3.5@hotmail.com
     
  19. BIGCOCKsucker

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    Yes, obviously, the "little" guy loves being with the "BIG MAN"! If he were embarrassed by his much smaller size, or somehow felt threatened by a much larger cock, he would avoid him and most certainly not be running errands for him, giving him gifts and cooking him dinner...a no brainer.

    He is doing everything he can to win his approval, make him happy, and keep him around, i.e. serving him. The "little" guy would only feel depressed and rejected, if Brieflover69 were suddenly to make himself completely unavailable to him, or if he were to remain fully clothed around him and cut off any visual access to the object that he so obviously admires, respects and obsesses after.

    I think that it's only a matter of time, though, before the "little" guy moves from "serving" him to "servicing" him. And if Brieflover69 isn't open to that, then he will seek out and find another well-hung man, who will eagerly welcome that devoted cock worship:tongue:!
     
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    damn just damn..., i want to be equal to my friends.. thats why there is no penis involved... as far as me starting a conversation about penis with them isnt gonna happen... I talk and show it to girls if i have to! :)
     
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