Friend still a Virgin. Want to help

[dreamingnow8]

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[shyyguy123]

I have a similar problem. I'm 23 and a virgin. Girls have always been into me but I have some kind of irrational fear of making moves towards sex.

What I think would solve my problem is a really aggressive girl in terms of sex. One that likes to be in control/make moves when it comes to sex. Those aren't easy to find though!

So yah I think an escort could work since she would take control and he wouldn't really have to do much.

 

[big_tits4big_dicks]

I like aggressive guys. I don't mean overly aggressive, but I figure if you never make a move, you must not think I'm cute and I move on to someone that does. Most girls don't make a move because they figure if they have to do it they are kinda talking the guy into it I think. I rather he WANT me.

 

[shyyguy123]

Yup that's what it seems like with girls I'm attracted to. I've definitely come across girls who have been sexually aggressive towards me but I'm usually not into them (maybe my standards are too high lol).

So if your friend's main problem is passiveness around women, like me, I think an escort would probably work wonders. Find him a hot escort and tell her to take control.

 

[B_subgirrl]

I like aggressive guys. I don't mean overly aggressive, but I figure if you never make a move, you must not think I'm cute and I move on to someone that does. Most girls don't make a move because they figure if they have to do it they are kinda talking the guy into it I think. I rather he WANT me.

Me too. Confidence is immensely sexy.

 

[DecoyMAX]

sounds to me like he is either gay or has no idea at all how to deal with women. I am leaning towards the later because judging from what you said about him. Being nice to females kills attraction. Why you may ask? They end up feeling like they are being manipulated.

 

[big_tits4big_dicks]

Being nice to females kills attraction. Why you may ask? They end up feeling like they are being manipulated.

False. Being manipulated makes me feel that way. Not being treated nice.

 

[houtx48]

HOW ABOUT MINDING YOU OWN FRIGGIN BUSINESS and let him take care of his. Sounds like fiction anyway.

 

[true kenshin]

HOW ABOUT MINDING YOU OWN FRIGGIN BUSINESS and let him take care of his. Sounds like fiction anyway.

If you were having problems and you had a good friend, would you want him to try to help you? I think that's what the OP is trying to do and I think he's gotten some decent advice. I think minding his own business has gone on long enough as you can see his friend is already frustrated with the situation. I say help him out. The secret escort idea would be a decent way to go I believe. I mean if a beautiful woman came to me and chatted me up and I talked back I wouldn't have known it was set up if she plays it right.

 

[minimag]

I mean if a beautiful woman came to me and chatted me up and I talked back I wouldn't have known it was set up if she plays it right.

I would have the opposite reaction. If an attractive lady started chatting me up, right off the bat I would assume she was "a professional." I don't mean that as an insult to attractive women, just that I'm not the type that any attractive woman would want to chat-up.

 

[B_bxmuscle]

Have you asked if he's into women?

If so, as him what his opinion about his situation is. If his answers ring true, help him work on the problem. If he doesn't have any answers or if those he gives seem inauthentic, then maybe he needs to talk to a professional just to get a outside opinion on what might be up.

 

[true kenshin]

I would have the opposite reaction. If an attractive lady started chatting me up, right off the bat I would assume she was "a professional." I don't mean that as an insult to attractive women, just that I'm not the type that any attractive woman would want to chat-up.

Well it would depend on the situation. I've been approached by beautiful women many times. It doesn't always result in sex, but I must say a few times it has and it was quite nice and obvious they weren't professionals.

 

[houtx48]

somebody has been watching to many sitcoms. "Lucy you gots some splainin to do"

 

[B_dxjnorto]

Cheap trick. Give him a good wank and with your finger in his butt. He won't be a virgin anymore!

 

[sxjTheFirst]

No advice just wanted to say I wish I had friends who had helped me out like that. Some guys need a push ... just try to read what he wants.

 

[Uslidenme]

If you are really his friend you might consider this from his point of view. How embarrassing and humiliating it is to have his friends talking about the state of his celibacy.
If you are really his friend then be his friend and drop the subject.
If he's religious he may have conflicting ideas about loosing his virginity. You might think it odd but, in this day of diseases you can die from, abstinence is still the best form of birth control and protection from diseases. Stop bringing it up and stop discussing it and he won't have to feel embarrassed about it.
And no , I'm not a virgin but I didn't loose my virginity until I was 27. No wait technically I was 18 but that was a cougar rape and I've mostly blocked that out of my mind.

 

[big_tits4big_dicks]

If you are really his friend you might consider this from his point of view. How embarrassing and humiliating it is to have his friends talking about the state of his celibacy.
If you are really his friend then be his friend and drop the subject.
If he's religious he may have conflicting ideas about loosing his virginity. You might think it odd but, in this day of diseases you can die from, abstinence is still the best form of birth control and protection from diseases. Stop bringing it up and stop discussing it and he won't have to feel embarrassed about it.
And no , I'm not a virgin but I didn't loose my virginity until I was 27. No wait technically I was 18 but that was a cougar rape and I've mostly blocked that out of my mind.

No names are given. I have no idea who this guy is, how can he be embarrassed?

 

[kcb4316]

I didn't lose my virginity until I was 23, almost 24 (I'm 28 now), and I'm still somewhat inexperienced sexually. It used to bother me, but not anymore. I'm glad I waited to find someone whom I had an emotional connection with instead of jumping into bed with the first person I could find.

As for the escort idea, I think you need to ask your friend in advance how he'd feel about that. It might be the confidence boost he needs, but it will be the least complicated if he knows in advance that she's a sex worker.

 

[B_dxjnorto]

Knowing someone is a sex worker would kill it for me. They do have "sex surrogates" in some states though. That could be different.

 

[josty]

Definite no on an escort... Maybe instead of trying to hook him up you help him understand there's nothing wrong with being a virgin.