Sorry - I dont have very many people to get advice on this. I've been friends with this guy for nearly two years, there was some flirting early on, but our relationship had largely become friendly - we chat on msn all the time, and every now and again on the phone. I've been in Canberra, and hadn't seen him in person for almost a year. So we went out for dinner, and then went back to his to watch some DVDs and chat. He's been seeing a guy for about a month now, but I detected a spike in tension and decided to leave. The next morning we were chatting, when I said I thought it was strange that I didn't get a hug or even a handshake he said "I felt uncomfortable - because I didn't particularly want you to leave" Then he asked if I had thought of kissing him - my response was no I hadn't - then he said he wanted to - but didn't want to spring it on me. He asked me what I thought of that, and I said it was confusing - especially given the presence of the other guy. All of a sudden Pandora's box was open, and she wasn't happy. We had already made plans to see each other again. So we had dinner at his, but this time I was the tense one, since my mind was absorbing the idea. When I left, I msgd him after being touched by a prostitute, he suggested that it was ok that I was only interested in him as a friend. The way my stomach reacted to that suggested that it wasn't what I was feeling. I felt completely confused. I got home and decided to write him an email laying out exactly what my head was doing. In one reply he suggested dropping the topic until I was clear in what I wanted. He then suggested seeing him again, he said "I want to see you again before you leave". I went over, and he dropped me off the train station, while going to collect his boyfriend from work. But now I really think I might like him, but I don't want to say it now - because there was a tiny window which I missed. He's getting on with his life and boyfriend and I sat at home bored and alone, lol. He really is a good guy, this makes him sound like a bit of a bastard, he's not. Ugh - I really do not know what to do, it's actually affecting my mood.