I think this is very true, Phil.
But I'm not 100% sold on the explanation. It could be that the man doesn't show interest in the woman by flirting or complimenting her. So from the woman's perspective, she simply has nowhere to go from there even if she is interested. Women aren't going to make an overt first move most times.
I'm just saying that it doesn't need to be explained by some deeply rooted genetic need in women. A lot of times it can be explained by just a simple lack of communication. In which case getting out of the friend zone is still nearly impossible, but only because it's hard to change someone's opinion after awhile.
I wish I could believe that... but at 50 I have seen far too much evidence to the contrary.
Here's the thing...women do not "think" about this issue. Its a feeling thing for them.
Women generally do not make the first move because they, A- don't have to, and B- are looking at your approach, or lack thereof, as important information about your character.
You hear guys complain loudly about how women dig assholes... but they are not responding to the guy being an asshole... they are responding to the guy being aggressive and forward and going after what he wants...to hell with what anyone else thinks.
Sit those women down and you will get an earful of how much they DON'T like that he's an asshole. So WHY are they with them? Why do those women keep falling for assholes?
...Because they can not help what turns them on... they can not change the fact that they are biologically attracted to men who SEEM confident and bold.
Its just that young women often are not experienced enough to be able to discern true confidence from belligerent swagger.
Not to say that some women are not more intellectual and less biologically driven ... some women can be talked into giving you a chance even after you are in the friend zone... but understand that they are giving you a THOUGHTFUL chance... you are not, at that point, making them hot and wet with excitement for you.
And its gonna take some pretty steep climbing to try and get the response out of them...
I can't tell you how many times I have watched a guy take the time to get to know a girl, wait until he's really sure she 'likes' him, before he takes the emotional risk of asking her out.
I can't tell you how many times that guy was me, in my youth.
And the repsonse is always , well, I really like you , as a
friend..."
All I can tell you is that if that sounds familiar to you, the solution is is easy.
Stop waiting till you feel safe.
If the girl excites you, let her KNOW she excites you by taking a risk.
Behave romantically interested from the start.
Women are looking for men who desire them enough to risk rejection.
Women are looking for men who act boldly.
Repeat that to yourself until it sinks in.