friend's/family sex life-do you really want to know?

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    For me, (and maybe that there isn't much to tell) but I kind of feel awkward talking about sex with friends/family. Strangers...so much
    easier....am I alone on this?
     
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    Pretty much. It's just normal stuff. MY step-brother talks about it all the time to me. My friends don't though.
     
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    It's amazing how some people have no problem being so open..
    and others (like myself) just the opposite.
     
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    Some are open about it, some not.
     
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    I would feel awkward talking about sex with family/friends, and with work colleagues too. So I don't talk about sex with them.
     
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    Thank you guys, for your replies. What I like about this forum is that
    it gives (in my opinion) a healthy avenue to discuss sexual issues.
    Sure there is shamless porn on this website as well. But I think
    its a great place to talk about difficult issues...repressed feelings
    etc...
     
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    My friends and I are pretty open with each other in talking about our sex lives.
     
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    I don't mind talking to my friends about it. In fact, I actually am curious most of the time and pry information out lol. Family members tho I'd rather not know...
     
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    It depends with whom. Family is a no no, but I don't mind talking about it with certain friends.
     
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    I do not discuss sex with family members, EVER. It's just not done, I see no point to it. :cool: I have been known to tell my girlfriends that the guy I was seeing was incredibly gifted in the bedroom. :wink: I obviously discuss sex things with the strangers on this site; but I wouldn't strike up a sex based chat with someone at the mall or on a city bus.

    As well you should! :cool: It is completely inappropriate to discuss sex at work. As for your family, every family unit is different but I don't advise it.
     
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    With friends I'll give details about sex if they are into this or they do this about themselves and who they have sex with.

    With family members I just say who I'm dating or in a relationship with, and in most cases it's assumed or known that we're having sex. I don't go into details at all.

    I'll give details to strangers but I don't like the ones who think that this then gives them the right to assume that I want to sleep with them just because we're talking about sex or any other topic, or that I'm even into the same things sexually that they are.
     
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    Totally agree, as a straight male, the only person I discuss sex with is my wife, or before marriage, maybe a girlfirled. As stated, work should be totally of limits to any discussion. Especially these days. and as a guy, don't think i've ever had a friend I was close enough or comfortable enough with to discuss preferences.

    Keep things private. No to work, No to family, maybe to a girlfriend if your comfortable and she will keep your confidence.
     
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    that's what friends are for

    that is not what family is for
     
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    Yep. Friends i am curious but family i dont want to know what they're up to
     
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    Sex isn't so hard to talk about, if there's some good reason to.

    But otherwise, I think it's supposed to be a bit private.

    I don't mind hearing some talk of sex, so long as it isn't from some potty-mouth or somebody too devoid of morals.

    My sister seemed to like that line from the movie Liar, Liar in which actor Jim Carry says about a sexual encounter with his wife I think it was, "I've had better." That was a movie in which his son got his wish, that his father was no longer able to tell any lie, for 24 hours was it?
     
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    Ugh! I wish my family wouldn't talk to me about their sex life. It's gross when you're mom wants to know about lube and a landing strip. The conversation she, my sister, my cousin had about what "style" did men most like when it came to pubes made me cringe. I believe ignorance is bliss when it comes to my family and friends sexual preferences and adventures. (most of my friends are family members btw, I come from a large close knit clan)
     
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    Right movie, but it was his boss he had sex with and when she asked him how was it he said "I've had better"
     
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    Sex is everywhere, on TV, in our music, I think even the rhythm beat runs at about the frequency of fucking in and out strokes. No wonder even nice jazz stuff may be said to be "babymaking" music or seem strangely sensual sometimes, even though there be no words. Many people hear their neighbors having sex, in our growing cities filling with ever more people. And the human population is "huge" and continues to grow, so there much be quite a lot of sex going on all over.

    So some people feel more free to talk about sex. Perhaps that's for the good, if they don't take it too far?

    As to the question of pubic hair, I pretty much like it all natural, how it was meant to be. Leave the pubic hair, natural family growth without any means of "birth control," no body piercing, no tattoos, etc.
     
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    Well it's her movie, not mine.

    My sister felt at liberty to breastfeed with me and "grandpa," our Dad, all in the same living room. And they, like me, are very conservative, but I am glad that American culture seems to be saying, breastfeeding in public places, is understandable and okay.

    My sister also told me that "the pill" really messed her up, she thought she might not ever be able to have children. But they don't tell all. I presume that they use the "less sex" or condoms approach, or better yet, I do hope to someday hear an announcement of expecting their 3rd child. My brother-in-law has another 5 children by a previous marriage, so I am proud to have a handy brother-in-law, father of 7 children. But when I tell them they should have more children, they always joke, it's my turn, to give their children some cousins. If only I could find somebody suitable to marry, I would be happy to get busy doing my procreative duty. But marriage happens when it happens?

    My (older) little nephew was thrilled to go with me to a Walk For Life, a fundraiser walk to stand against abortion.

    I think we joked something about me cleaning out a spare bedroom for them when they come to visit, so that they can have a private place to make their babies. My nephews sleep on the couch hide-a-bed.
     
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