Friends father coming on to me

[B_dxjnorto]

Stop putting yourself down dear.:tongue:

I thought you might say that. Goes both ways. I'm definitely not attracted to men in their sixties.

 

[hud01]

Not every potential relationship is always worth pursuing. Especially when you risk hurting people that you care about.

Why anyone would want a long term relationship with the parent of a friend they have been close to for 10 years is beyond me. And vice versa. Why would any rational parent strike up a "long term" relationship with the friend of one of their kids? Jesus - that's even worse than just having random sex with the person (which is still a pretty shitty thing to do in my opinion)

Go fuck yourself HUD. WTH do you know anyways?

I speak from experience on this subject....

Sorry my cock gets too hard. You are a pompous ass. You don't know the total picture, but you choose to moralize, generalize and to inject your sad history instead of looking at the bigger picture that he has a chance at a real relationship.

 

[B_hardasarokkk]

I remember....
not a Dad story but when I was a teenager I used to have a good friend who's mum was always very friendly with me. As I had just turned 18 she started asking me if I had a steady girl with whom I had been intimate with. When I told her I had been having sex since 14 she became really interested.
One hot sunny Fri. afternoon I went over and my friend was away for the day, as I soon found out after I arrived. She was wearing a real pretty dress with a low top and invited me to stay for lunch anyway. when she laid her hand on my bulge (which had grown somewhat by the view I was getting of her gorgeous tits as she leaned over the table) I became instantly hard. She was on her knees and had my belt undone before I could think about what to do and as she pulled my shorts down my manhood was now on full erection mode. no going back for a kid with a boner so I bent her over the table and gave her the full length of my shaft. we only fucked for about 2 minutes before I ejaculated my load.
Ever since, we have not spoken of the day but I have remained good friends with her and her son, nothing more happened and I still think about it to this day...

 

[luka82]

Out of the respect for the friend I wouldn`t do it.
I wouldn`t even ask the friend if he is OK with it.
I don`t believe that making out with your friend`s parents is cool.
Why test your friendship like that?

 

[Man4menu]

I can see why your friends father is hitting on you, but I feel and believe the same as Chase1600. Good Luck! wish you all the best! :smile:

Kenneth, you don’t mention what your friend might think. You don’t mention what he knows about his dad and this subject. Certainly it could come as a very complicating shock to a guy who discovers his dad is gay and getting together with one of his buddies. Do you know whether your friend believes his dad might be gay? You list yourself as 50% straight, 50% gay. How does that play with respect to this particular friendship? Is this particular friend gay? Does he know that you identify as 50% gay – at least in one place?

If there is a lot of doubt as to how your friend might take it, I would not go near a relationship with his dad. It isn’t just that it might risk your friendship, which would be bad, but I think it would be a very undermining thing to do to a guy. If one day his dad comes out and he finds out he’s in a relationship with some man he’s never met, that would be one thing for him to accept. Coming out of nowhere, it being one of his friends [I assume you guys are good buddies], could make him feel very betrayed.

You owe him better than that.

On the other hand, the age difference doesn’t seem way out of line, even if he’s 16 or 17 years older than you, at your respective ages it wouldn’t be too remarkable. What is remarkable is that your connection is his child. If your friend knows his dad is gay, knows you are gay, isn’t wanting to get something going with you himself, gets to see the two of you becoming closer, and if this is something you really want, maybe he could be relaxed with it. But you would have to do it carefully. And those are a lot of “ifs.”

 

[B_dxjnorto]

Son probably knows the dad is gay or bi. That's kind of hard to miss in your dear old dad.

 

[luka82]

I don`t believe it really matters if he is gay or not, he still is his friend`s dad.
I don`t know, but that`s the ground I don`t step on. :smile:

 

[B_Bigb0y]

there is this thing called discreet... he doesnt want his son to know either... what he doesnt know wont hurt him

 

[B_dxjnorto]

I don`t believe it really matters if he is gay or not, he still is his friend`s dad.
I don`t know, but that`s the ground I don`t step on. :smile:

Luka, it is easier to type if you use the apostrophe that is right next to the Enter key on your keyboard.

 

[Nate1978]

Thanks for the loads of advice. Much appreciated.

The main reason we haven't said anything yet is because we don't know what's happening. There's no point in telling my friend his father is interested in me and I'm interested back if nothing comes of it. It'd be creating an awkward situation for little reason. It's not like if something does materialize then we'll keep it secret, because we won't.

When his father came round earlier on in the week we didn't have sex, just a fair bit of talking and then there was some hand and oral action. He came round again last night and we had sex, followed by a lot of talking. The sex was... kinda great. He obviously hasn't had much experience with men, and he lost his erection a few times but we worked through it and overall it was fine. It's made me even more attracted to him.

Not sure whether this is a good idea or not but I've uploaded one of the pictures he sent me to my gallery just to show you guys. I won't leave it up for long though.

Anyway still not sure what I'm going to do. I think I'll give it a week or so to decide.

 

[B_dxjnorto]

Whatever dude. Not sexy at all compared to you.

 

[stlbigman]

(1) avoid the dad like the plague (2) what kind of "friend" would do that to their friend's father? close or not (3) i can see why he old man is hitting on you lol

 

[teabagme69]

No offense to the dad, but really, late forties? Judging by the picture I would have said mid-sixties.

 

[rayray]

Age difference is not a problem if you love someone -- but just for the sake of curiousity? You're fit and handsome 32. Father late forties. Unless you are a daddy's boy, you can do better.

There is alot of good and bad advice. Everyone has their own opinion, including me. He said he was'nt his type, not not attractive. Sounds like the attention he is receiving is the attraction to me, and possibly the danger of being found out. I don't find it odd. His friends father is divorced and swings both ways. They just happened to met through his son, not ideal but it happens.

 

[D_Alvin Allrod]

Sounds like you are really turned on by the idea of fucking somebodies daddy and you want somebody to talk you out of being a dirty little whore.

 

[beretta8]

Its a fling....treat it as such...what about - hey dude Im diggin yer dad....you care?...

 

[B_dxjnorto]

Judging by the picture I would have said mid-sixties.

Same here. Late fifties or sixties.

 

[illiniguy03]

Why does the son have to know...do you think he tells his dad every time he hooks up with someone? Its no ones business but you and the dad. Do what you want and keep it discrete!

 

[dreamer20]

Sounds like you ...want somebody to talk you out of being a dirty little whore.

Wrong thread RD. You should have posted the above for BigLatino::smile:


http://www.lpsg.org/195404-i-was-just-paid-for.html

 

[concupisys]

having never been in this situation myself, i can't offer any advice on how to pursue this situation, but what i do know is that at the end of the day, everyone involved is a consenting, (hopefully) mature adult.... there could be a potentially bad reaction on the friend's part, but that isn't necessarily an omen to how the whole situation will pan out.... if i were the friend in this situation and found out about it, i would probably be pretty upset at first, but would ultimately have to accept the situation regardless of my opinions because we're all adults and choose to live our lives as we please.... what would irk me in a situation like this is if my dad and my friend were to rub it in my face and treat the situation like a joke.... that's the point when i'd either walk away or take the gloves off....