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joyboytoy79

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I'm pretty selective when it comes to accepting friend requests. I've never seen the need to delete anyone from my friends list. I've been deleted from a few people's lists, though. One thing I don't do is remove disabled accounts. I like to be able to find posts from people, and when they disable their accounts, that gets close to impossible - unless they're in your friend list!
 

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What good is it to be on someone's friend list if they really don't treat you as a friend? Is it a status or insecurity thing for people to cull a really large friend list?

I think very few people actually decline a friend request from someone they don't really know so the list grows if you are an interesting, good looking, or "popular" character on here.

In reality, I think most of the people on a person's friends list are just token friends. It's just a meaningless tally of your popularity. Great if it feeds your ego but I think inconsequential to most people here and to genuine friends of yours on the site.

It has some level of popularity sort of like the way some people would run around with their high school yearbook getting as many students and teachers to sign as possible even if they didn't know the student and even if they had never had a class with a particular teacher.

At times I have looked at a profile, seen people with 600 or more 'friends' and then scroll through and find dozens of them are banned.....then again, I have at least 1 banned on my list....and at least 2 people who haven't been here in months.

I accept the invite request, I appreciate them, I have not as of yet actually made a request of anybody.....although I have thought about it. This is the same policy as I have on a couple of other boards. Occasionally here and over on those boards I will see I am off their list (because they aren't on mine any more). I don't give it a lot of thought.
 

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I've only asked a few members if they'd like be on my friends lists, when I do it's because there's something about them that I like.
I feel like everyone's got atleast one thing about them that makes them special.
Sometimes I just like a persons mojo and other times I can't figure out what it is about them I like but I don't have to go and try and figure it out, it just is, if it's not broke then don't fix it.
I don't use spell check and I try not to judge solely by what's on the outside but how someone acts from within themselves and how they treat others, no one's perfect and I know I'm far from it so I try to be more understanding instead of being understood.
When I am friends with someone I try not to step on their toes, maybe even back them up on occasions if needed.
I don't have to pm them all the time and bug them they know we're friends and that should be good enough.
Don't pm me and ask me to be your friend if you're bored and trying to see how many friends you can add to your list, sending me a pm to tell me you like my new pictures is fine.
I've had people take me off their friends lists for whatever reasons and I don't go asking why.
I still talk to people who've deleted our friendship, sometimes I think they're afraid of their image because we'll still pm each other on the side so it really doesn't make a bunch of sense but whatever.
The only ones I've deleted are those who've deleted me, members who are banned or those who've flipped their wigs.
As far as people who've deleted our friendship and act like I don't exist, well this......Aerosmith Jaded Official Music Video HD - YouTube.
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Should not be a problem just avoid using The Crying Game Cleaning Service.:wink:
Let me cross them off my list then.....I'll stay with ATILLA's they ride in and pillage. It means I have to buy new things, but they get all the dust and dirt.:biggrin1:

Then she will only have to do the house.
:frown1:

What if she mistakes you for the house?:eek: and wants to clean all your rooms??:eek::eek:

Even worse, what if she takes liberties with your pleasure items?:eek:
 

Pandora77

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I have given some folks the benefit of the doubt and added them after a friends request, even though I haven't had any contact with them before. I always think that after adding them, they would at least leave me a visitor message or something. But nope, they don't. So I see no point in keeping them on my friends list and delete them after a while.
The people I do have on my friends list now are people I do (try) to stay in contact with.
And the one I had the most contact with on here wouldn't accept my friends request :frown1: