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Hi ladies and gents,
Tonight something uh, interesting happened between a close friend and I. I have posted something about my best female friend's short marriage that seems to be coming to an end in response to another poster's thread.
My best friend, who happens to be a woman is going through a rough patch in her life, what with her and her husband not talking, not having sex for numerous months (she told me why in explicit detail) and now not living together compounded with the recent death of her Aunt who she was really close to.
I try to be there for her, I visit her when I can after work or on weekends and we've been talking very often lately. I just let her know that I along with her other friends care about her and are willing to give her a shoulder to lean on.
Anyway tonight I visited her after work seeing as I had to work and she was at her Aunt's viewing today. We talked, drank a little wine and were very open with each other. At some point in our conversation she asked me if I "thought that she'd be able to be with another guy that would understand her and be there for her and be passionate towards her?".
I told her that she would and not to worry about that because she's NEVER had a problem meeting guys, its just a matter of choosing the right one.
I realized that it was getting really late and told her that I should get going, to which she replied, "You were just saying that because you're supposed to. Why didn't I marry you?"
I kissed her on her forehead and said jokingly, "We'd probably drive each other nuts if we were together."
She looked up at me and asked me to stay the night with her.
She didn't mention anything about not driving because I was drinking or anything. After thinking about her request for a split second I told her that I had to go home and shower since I had been in the same clothes all day. She told me that I could take a shower in her room and that she'd put my clothes in the wash.
I assumed I'd sleep on the couch, but even still I didn't feel right about it.
I told her I'd spend time with her tomorrow and then she hugged and kissed me before I left.
Even before she was married I wouldn't have dared to sleep over at her place whether or not her man was there. I know that she is feeling lonely and she enjoys my company and emotional support, but I just didn't feel right about sleeping over at her place. I will always be there for her, but something about the way she asked me to stay with her felt odd. Maybe it was all in my head mixed with the alcohol, I don't know.
Was I wrong to turn down her offer?
Tonight something uh, interesting happened between a close friend and I. I have posted something about my best female friend's short marriage that seems to be coming to an end in response to another poster's thread.
My best friend, who happens to be a woman is going through a rough patch in her life, what with her and her husband not talking, not having sex for numerous months (she told me why in explicit detail) and now not living together compounded with the recent death of her Aunt who she was really close to.
I try to be there for her, I visit her when I can after work or on weekends and we've been talking very often lately. I just let her know that I along with her other friends care about her and are willing to give her a shoulder to lean on.
Anyway tonight I visited her after work seeing as I had to work and she was at her Aunt's viewing today. We talked, drank a little wine and were very open with each other. At some point in our conversation she asked me if I "thought that she'd be able to be with another guy that would understand her and be there for her and be passionate towards her?".
I told her that she would and not to worry about that because she's NEVER had a problem meeting guys, its just a matter of choosing the right one.
I realized that it was getting really late and told her that I should get going, to which she replied, "You were just saying that because you're supposed to. Why didn't I marry you?"
I kissed her on her forehead and said jokingly, "We'd probably drive each other nuts if we were together."
She looked up at me and asked me to stay the night with her.
She didn't mention anything about not driving because I was drinking or anything. After thinking about her request for a split second I told her that I had to go home and shower since I had been in the same clothes all day. She told me that I could take a shower in her room and that she'd put my clothes in the wash.
I assumed I'd sleep on the couch, but even still I didn't feel right about it.
I told her I'd spend time with her tomorrow and then she hugged and kissed me before I left.
Even before she was married I wouldn't have dared to sleep over at her place whether or not her man was there. I know that she is feeling lonely and she enjoys my company and emotional support, but I just didn't feel right about sleeping over at her place. I will always be there for her, but something about the way she asked me to stay with her felt odd. Maybe it was all in my head mixed with the alcohol, I don't know.
Was I wrong to turn down her offer?
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