Friends with benefits

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by VANESSANCARLO, Aug 1, 2011.

  1. VANESSANCARLO

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    YES ITS REAL, ITS WHOLE AND ITS AWESOME!
    MOST AREN'T SECURE ENOUGH TO HAVE SUCH A KIND OF RELATIONSHIP BUT WHEN YOU'RE SECURE WITH YOURSELF YOU'RE SECURE WITH WHAT YOU HAVE.

    A BALANCE AND A HARMONY KEEP US TOGETHER.............:smile:
     
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    GMO RLY?
    I DON'T THINK SECURITY IS THE BIGGEST ISSUE REGARDING WHY SOME PEOPLE AVOID FWB'S AS IT CAN BE MORE ABOUT MAKING DUE WITH WHAT YOU FIND.

    A DESIRE AND A LACK OF COMMITMENT FUEL THE FWB FIRE..........:bukkake2:
     
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    thanks for your opinion. Now i am deaf from your yelling.
     
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    COMMUNICATION is the most important thing you have to have in this kind of relationship, we've been commencing as a swinging couple almost three solid years and together four. We learned also respect for each others needs, wants and mostly, respect has kept us happy and in harmony.

    air sorry i deafened you, hope the whispering is better...............
     
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    That is cute and all but you are not FWBs, you are a couple in denial. FWBs do not refer to themselves as "we" and they don't post seeking validation for their friendship. They meet up, they fuck, maybe smoke a joint, or have a drink but they most certainly do not need "balance and harmony to keep themselves together" blech

    If someone I am fucking ever referred to our fuck fests by any of the above, I would drop them
     
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    I have a friend with benefits and it is quite wonderful. I have a lot of sexual freedom with them.
     
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    Hmmm, in my opinion I am slightly inclined to agree with sizequeen... sounds more like a relationship in denial. You seem too awfully excited to profess that you have "just" a FWB, and depending on your profile pic and name, to create one with both you and your fwb... Either way, if you're happy, then good for you!
     
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    This. Well, most of it. I was really friends (eventually) with my friends-with-benefits. We sometimes hung out for hours, in public, and often with other people. If one of us needed a date for an office thing or a wedding, we might call each other (or one of the others). We were most definitely not couples. We did not consider our outings dates. We usually went home together if we went out, but every once in a while it was stated in advance that one of us had a bed-partner lined up already, but that the proposed group outing sounded too good to miss. The other fuck-buddy might get invited to tag along, or might be met up with after. But there was no talk of "balance and harmony". There was no talk of "we". As Ms. Moxie pointed out, security hasn't got much to do with it. It has way more to do with detachment.
     
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    fwb... is it really so novel, exciting and shout worthy? i should imagine more than half the regular ladies on this site have been there, done that.

    i've been there, done that. doesn't suit how i like my sex life to run these days.
     
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    This.


    And this. There is certainly no 'we' in either FWB or FB. Being friends who fuck does not make you a 'we'.
     
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    I like to know how many have platonic friends without benefits as opposed to friends with benefits? meaning do you have more friends with benefits or without?
     
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    I have way more platonic friends than friends with whom I can have sex.
     
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    I give you 3 months tops, and then you'll either be in a relationship or won't be having sex anymore.
     
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    I have had many friends with benefits, and still do. Committed relationships and NSA wham-bam-thank you-ma'ams are not the only ways to enjoy sex. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being friends with your sex partner(s). Some people just aren't equipped for or interested in a committed relationship, myself included.
     
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    with the RIGHT people, FWB's and open relationships are exceptionally enjoyable, and VERY healthy. not always easy to find someone compatible for it though.
     
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    In theory it sounds great but it doesn't last that long without some sort of friction and not the good kind of friction. It can be done but just be prepared for that awkward moment because it's going to happen.
     
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    I prefer to be friends with people first before sex. It seems so much safer for my poor feelings. But that doesn't mean I don't like being a person's friend without screwing them!

    As I got older I finally got the hang of being friends with my family members too. What a shock.

    Also, don't castigate the OP for using 'we'. We humans have too many things to learn to split hairs about everything we type. Let's all be friends. :240:
     
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    I had a small group of fuck buds when I lived in Washington State. We might catch a drink once in a while, or dinner, but not a lot of socialization. The mood would strike, make a few phone calls, and then get it on for a few hours. Didn't have to make breakfast in the morning, and they rarely spent the night. It worked for everyone.
     
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    Yes it exists but it always seems to eventually get complicated. I can't tell you how many times we would say "just for fun, no strings attached" and then someone gets....well?... attached.
     
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    Speak for yourselves. I've had a number of successful FB relationships, some lasting years. I know others who have had similar experiences.
     
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