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Hey group. I work with a woman who wants to have a strictly sexual relationship with me. She is married, but says her marriage is awful and has talked about leaving her husband. Do you think i should wait for the marriage to end to have sex with her or have fun with it since the marriage problems are between her and her husband.
 
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You need to ask yourself if that is really the type of drama you want to get yourself into. I mean, are they still together or seperated? If she is still living with him, that is kind of risky for you. If you want my honest opinion, I would atleast wait until she for sure seperates from him to avoid any unwanted drama.
 
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More often than not work relationships, or trysts, end poorly. Add to that the fact that she's married, and it seems even less appealing.
 

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1) The drama that was just mentioned and 2) She might just say she wants friends with benefits but that changes quickly sometimes.

I was in the same situation just over a year ago and decided to try it out. It was good for about 3-4 months and she wanted a relationship. I have gone through this with girls before but I figured that her being unhappy marriage/getting divorced that surely she would just want rebound sex. Didn't turn out that way.
 

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Thanks for the advice ladies and gents. Good Stuff.
 
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I was in the same situation just over a year ago and decided to try it out. It was good for about 3-4 months and she wanted a relationship. I have gone through this with girls before but I figured that her being unhappy marriage/getting divorced that surely she would just want rebound sex. Didn't turn out that way.
That seems to happen a lot. Many women (and some men) I know just can't go without a relationship. I'm always wary of the ones fresh out (or with a foot still in)...
 

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That seems to happen a lot. Many women (and some men) I know just can't go without a relationship. I'm always wary of the ones fresh out (or with a foot still in)...

Yeah, I was going for the "Hey, let me be your rebound guy" shot.

I'm not much for relationships but it's so hard to find a good friend with benefits too that the other person doesn't end up wanting a relationship.
 

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Regarding the work part of the situation - it's possible for a FB-with-a-workmate situation work, as long as you both know how to keep your mouth shut and behave well in public. I've done it and I wouldn't change a thing.

Regarding the fact that she is married - it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks. What matters is how YOU feel about it. If you are okay ethically with screwing a married woman, go for it. If it's something you'll feel bad about and hate yourself for five years from now, don't.
 

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Regarding the fact that she is married - it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks. What matters is how YOU feel about it. If you are okay ethically with screwing a married woman, go for it. If it's something you'll feel bad about and hate yourself for five years from now, don't.

Matters moreso how the married woman feels about it.
 

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I was sorta taking that as a given. He did say she wants to have a sexual relationship with him.

I am obviously not going to judge, but it seems possible that the woman the OP mentions is not entirely sure what she is getting into. Of course, she wants hot sex - who doesn't - but the OP and the married woman should sit down and give it some more thought than just wanting sex.
 

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I am obviously not going to judge, but it seems possible that the woman the OP mentions is not entirely sure what she is getting into. Of course, she wants hot sex - who doesn't - but the OP and the married woman should sit down and give it some more thought than just wanting sex.

Why would she be unsure what she is getting into? She's an adult with the power to make her own choices, just as the OP is.
 

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The girl I had as FB knew that she wanted nothing to do with her soon to be divorced husband as soon as the paperwork went through but still had a 2 kids so she had to keep in some contact obviously.

She was not unsure or confused. She did want hot sex though. So hell, I gave her what she wanted!
 

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With all the single women running around, you don't have to have sex with a married woman. Sorry, I just don't advocate cheating, because if my man did it, I'd kill him! LOL!
 

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Black girl if it was easy for me to have sex with a single girl i wouldnt even be thinking about this, but im not a stud and feel i need to take what i can get.
 

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Black girl if it was easy for me to have sex with a single girl i wouldnt even be thinking about this, but im not a stud and feel i need to take what i can get.

If it isn't something you would usually be okay with, it's probably advisable not to do it. Do you really want to spend the next ten years berating yourself for not sticking to your own sense of morality?
 

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agree with the above poster and also , once they divorced or seperate if they get that far and she still wants to have hot sex then go for it , either wait it out or just say no imo
 

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personally, i wouldn't do it, there is boat loads of drama when you hook up with a girl who is just dating another guy, i couldn't imagine the drama that would be wrapped up in a girl who is married

but it looks like you're hungry and everyone needs to eat, so with that being said, if you're gonna have a fling with her, or any other girl who is involved with another man stick to these 2 basic rule of thumb and everything should be fine

1) can he kick your ass? if no, make sure he doesn't have close friends/relatives who can, most guys would bang her if potential danger #1 is clear, but it smart to check off #2 as well which is ...

2) is he of higher status than you? what i mean by that question is this, is he in a position where if he found out, he could make your life a living hell for shits and giggles, for example, if you're a drug dealer, i wouldn't have a flind with the town judge's wife .. it could come back to bite you in the ass for a long, LONG time (plus the guys in prison will make sure its a pain in the ass literally)

now if you get passed 1 & 2 with flying colors, you still have to be careful with the shit ton of drama that will come your way, because the husband will find out eventually and shit will most likely hit the fan, what you have to decide is this

is all that was mentioned above (and most likely a lot more) worth a piece of ass? again, personally, i think no, but some guys are willing to put up with it ..

be careful
 

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Hey group. I work with a woman who wants to have a strictly sexual relationship with me. She is married, but says her marriage is awful and has talked about leaving her husband. Do you think i should wait for the marriage to end to have sex with her or have fun with it since the marriage problems are between her and her husband.

Don't shit where you eat. It would be different if you didn't work with her. Just say NO. Save yourself the trouble dude.
 

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Truly this is not worth the potential problems. Take it as a compliment that she's willing to have sex with you, and look for a much less dangerous partner who is drawn to your type, now that you know you are somebody's type!
 

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Well to update u all, we made out a few times and she gave me head once, but I realized I wasnt into her and she started to get a little clingy for my taste even though she wont admit it. I told her i just wanted to be friendly coworkers and leave it at that.
 

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If you can agree to keep it just sex then I can't see any problems unless she gets attached to you and that might not be bad either.
Everyones talking about pooping where you eat but I call it job security and in todays tough economy that might just be the edge you need to make that down payement on a new house or car.
Just make sure you don't get sloppy, make sure when you do have sex that it's mind blowing so she'll keep comming back for more.
Always keep her on her toes, don't tell her what you have planned for the night or weekend, just give her clues.
Always keep it a supprise, that's what she's missing in her marriage, she's tired of the monotony so keep the sparks flying.
Think about this, sex with no strings attached, that means her husband has to support her and pay all the bills to keep a women like her and you get all the fringe benifits, I say fuck her till she walks funny.
 
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