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I have a few 'friends with benefits',

One of them is an ex gf who ive always stayed amicable with, she also happens to be a size queen and I'm pretty sure she just cant let go of my endowment totally. We still discuss any new guy's she's seen/been with and i'm still her biggest by quite a margin, I pretty much have an open invitation to hang out with her and we often fuck.

Another is a single mother who is also size orientated and we arrange to fuck now and then.
 

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Over the years I have had FWB's both male and female. I found it easier if you are married to seek a married FWB.
My current male fwb is married and lives nearby so we are 'neighbors' and no one thinks twice when we are together.
My last female fwb which lasted up until a couple years ago then she moved. She was also married and knowing her for years before we were kinda like best friends hanging out and if it turned to sex so be it. So it wasn't a daily or even weekly meetup. It worked well for many years.
 

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@Markym01 thanks for sharing. I think it's difficult to gage any one person's situation against another as a guide for what works because the dynamics of every individual relationship are different. And you have both gay and str8 FWBs chiming in here.

In my (gay) experience it's possible to have a personal friendship connection where there is mutual interest and concern for one another. Where you can even be social outside the bedroom. But the linchpin is whether both of you are eligible (ie otherwise unattached) to take it a step farther. That's the key determinant of whether those feelings are or can be something more

I also think it's worth mentioning that regardless of eligibility status you can find someone who is sexually 100% but relationship wise not so much. The man I love.. or could love like let's pick out curtains together if we weren't both married ... is sexually compatible but is he as *hot* as my top daddy buddy with the monumental cock whose total vibe and perfect body and looks make me swoon whenever we're together for an hour of amazing sex? No but it doesn't matter because my love and I have such an emotional bond. My first man was probably my most sexually compatible ever because he's vers. But he's more tightly wound and even if I was single too his elderly mom lives with him he hardly has an hour of free time to get away, and only with considerable planning.

There just are so many variables
 

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I have a fwb we occasionally go out to movies and or dinner even trips. We have both been married and have kids of our own and are not looking to get hitched. She enjoys our sexual relationship as do I and mostly get together for sex.
 
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In my (gay) experience it's possible to have a personal friendship connection where there is mutual interest and concern for one another. Where you can even be social outside the bedroom. But the linchpin is whether both of you are eligible (ie otherwise unattached) to take it a step farther. That's the key determinant of whether those feelings are or can be something more
With my FWB, we were both single at the time, and had been platonic but close friends for about a year. We hung out together, and did 'dating' type things like dinner, movies, etc. but just as friends. I was romantically interested in her (she was hot!)

When I essentially seduced her one night (she welcomed my advances) I thought it was the start of a real relationship, but that didn't really happen. She didn't reciprocate the romantic feelings I had for her. Even though were were having lots of sex, were were not being conventionally romantic with each other
I also think it's worth mentioning that regardless of eligibility status you can find someone who is sexually 100% but relationship wise not so much.
With the same FWB, that is the understanding we came to. We loved each other as friends, but knew we weren't right for each other romantically. But we also had amazing sexual chemistry and sexual attraction to each other, so we decided that when we hung out, sex was likely to happen and not only was it okay, it was almost certainly going to happen every time. And yes, sometimes we hung out for the sole reason of sexually satisfying each other (booty calls!)