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One FWB was for as extended a period of time as a couple of years. Some were for a few months. Many were several months to a year ish.

Some ended (on my part or their part) because of wanting to pursue a romantic relationship with someone. Some ended due to drama or incompatibility. For example, one ended because I found out they were in a relationship that was supposed to be monogamous, and I was the "other woman". I ended it, informed the girlfriend, and apologized. One FWB situation ended because we became a monogamous couple, and are still going strong several years later.
 

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yes I have had some I find that before anything happens you get it straight this is just physical relationship no attachments it is just sex we went for 3 years she was kinda freaky and brought in another guy. it stopped when she got a girlfriend and it got serious
 

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A couple of years. I think we kind of drifted apart and then he found a girlfriend who he eventually married.
 
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More of a casual sex person as relationships aren't my thing. had many FWB and fuck buddies. Longest FWB i've had was an affair that carried on for 4-5yrs, she eventually divorced her husband and after a while she wanted to start dating again so we ended things between us, still friends. One of my fuck buddies is going on 4yrs now. As for why some of the shorter lived ones ended, they wanted more than just sex or in the case of a recent cougar she was just too damn clingy, others just got boyfriends so we ended things.
 

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If you've had a friend with benefits, how long did the relationship last? What caused it to end?
I had a friend of about 1 year when we finally crossed the line and started fucking. I had expressed romantic interest in her in the past, but she just wanted to be friends. That issue came up again multiple times while we were sexually active, but ultimately we were friends with benefits for 8 years, on and off. There were some times where I was one of 2 or 3 guys she was fucking, and other times where we were on hold for a few months while she was with somebody with whom she had long-term potential. Obviously, over an 8 year period, we spent lots of time together as friends, and were sexually active for 95% of it.

Eventually, she started seeing a guy and I could sense a change. She still loved fucking me, but was really into this guy, so I told her that maybe we should stop fucking, and she should give that relationship a real chance. Many years later, they are still together. Did I miss the sex? Yes, of course! But we both knew we weren't right for each other in a marriage, or for her, a monogamous relationship.
 

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Just to fill in, Ive never had a FWB. Probably could have, but when the opportunities were there I was always in a serious relationship.

One time I found out that a girlfriend was cheating. Her bff told me. She said, instead of ending the relationship I should just keep my g.f. around for sex.

Nah. Couldn’t do it. I had loved her.
 
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You’ve really gotta be careful with FWB, because a lot of people who are actively seeking this type of relationship have a fb/gf or they are married.

I had a FWB a few years a go for a few months. Turned out she had a long term boyfriend. I hightailed it out of there the second I found out.

It’s experiences like this that have contributed to my anti-marriage/relationship stance unfortunately
 
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My longest was about 9 months. I was her cuddle buddy / booty call . I noticed over time though we were casual, she was growing more attached / falling in love. I liked her a a friend and as a lover; but I was not falling in love with her, at least not at the same rate as she was I started to feel guilty; and my guilt told my penis to close up shop.

Though we remained great friends for years and even to this day.
 

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FWB is an unusual term. Back in the day we called them lovers. I've never seen them as friends. For me friends are platonic. A different set of expectations exists between the two. As does a different history. :cool:

Just as there are different levels of friendship--from really close to mild acquaintance--there are equivalent levels of lovers.

How long have they lasted? From a one night stand to five years if I don't include those who have--uh--renewed their acquaintance.
 

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FWB is an unusual term. Back in the day we called them lovers. I've never seen them as friends. For me friends are platonic. A different set of expectations exists between the two. As does a different history. :cool:

Just as there are different levels of friendship--from really close to mild acquaintance--there are equivalent levels of lovers.

The way I look at the terms.
Friend: Male or female with whom you share interests, spend time together, etc. with absolutely no romantic or sexual contact.
Acquaintance: Male or female that you know, with absolutely no romantic or sexual contact.
Friend With Benefits: Same as above, but you have great sex without romantic inclinations (hopefully!)
Fuck Buddy: Male or female with whom you get together for sexual purposes only, nothing else.
Lover: Someone you have romantic feelings for, and have sex with. I.E. Your boyfriend or girlfriend is your lover, as is your spouse!
 

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I have had a FWB going on 10 years now. We worked together for years and hooked up on a work convention. She is bisexual as well. She toke another job and lives farther away but comes down often she has family here. She stays with me while she is here. I have had a few other women but when they got in serious relationships they stopped.
 

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Around 6 years ago, my best friend at the time and I moved towards a FWB relationship. Fast forward to present day, and we are getting married.

The two of us are open to including and occasional third, but we aren't actively looking right now.

It depends on how you view sex, FWB is not for everyone. Clearly, I did it wrong, but whatever, we are really happy.
 
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Mine has been going off and on for about ten years. We were a couple and that lasted about two years. Things fell apart and about a year later we met at a Starbucks started chatting and eventually found out that we liked each other not love but sex together was awesome. We now have steady life partners and after a period of time we found ourselves sleeping together again and have ever since. It’s knot regular but every once in a while our hormones scream out and we screw our brains out.
 

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It was more of a fuck buddy thing because that's all we did. We didn't socialize or see each other for anything other than sex. It lasted 2 or 3 years and then I moved to another state. It was usually either hormones, or we needed to blow of some steam.