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[mainer1]

Well, if you can sleep at night, then you go ahead and potentially ruin marriages.

No chance of ruining marriages after being buds for over 20yrs...our times together probably helped him stay married and stable. But I'm enjoying your moral indignation.

 

[jeff black]

No chance of ruining marriages after being buds for over 20yrs...our times together probably helped him stay married and stable. But I'm enjoying your moral indignation.

It has nothing to do with Moral Indignation. I just try and think about more than just My Getting OFF.

When a husband goes out, and fucks around with another guy, it is cheating. Regardless of how you word it...

" Oh, he and I are just Helping each other out" OR " She won't blow me" or some other bullshit like that.

Unless the wife knows, and is ok with it, I refuse to accept your cheating as ANYTHING else but that.
Had you said that the wife was ok with the situation, or knew aobut it and accepted it, then it is a different story.

our times together probably helped him stay married and stable

This quote, is nonsense. Why is he still with her, if the only way he can survive, is to get some cock action from a "buddy" of his?

 

[yhtang]

Well...when we parted, it was like I played some game, squash, basketball?, with a good buddy...there was no Brokeback frustrated romanticism...just great platonic buddyism!

Good for you then, but I am not too sure I can pull it off. If you have managed to do so for 20 years, I suppose you have it honed down to a fine art!

 

[sonic81812003]

Thanks for all the imput guys. Lets just make one thing clear. This is not something I need. Its just something that has happened in the past, and was wondering what people thought if it was to happen when we hang out. There is not a NEED to do anything. Im not attracted to him to say the least. We did in the past becuase we had no dates and needed some release. No i wouldn't even ask my wfie about it. Im sure that would stir some shit that didn't need to be stired. Thanks for all your opionons though.

 

[D_Coyne Toss]

Ok, im looking for an opionion. I don't live near my family, and Im going to go back home for a visit without my wife. I plan to see family and friends while down there. I let one of my buddys know that I am going for a visit. I havn't seen the guy for 4 years. He wants me to hang out one night and just chill have a smoke and beers. Last 2 times we did that, things kinda got interesting. Gave eachother oral and JO to some porn. Just some release and such. Meant nothing, we've been friends for years. Now things are a little different, I have moved away and don't seem him much, we chat all the time though, and now im happily married. I'd like to go chill with him, but not sure what to do if things get "interesting". I wouldn't not consider myself gay, Im pretty much a whatever kinda guy. Do what i want when i want, no label kinda guy. How wrong would it be to chill with my friend?

It sure would be wrong, but not because having oral with another man "is gay stuff".

The wrong thing is cheating on your wife, because (i think) she trusts in you.

My advice is to go, mett your friend, but, if possible, avoid doing such things, that coul be a dangerous way out from your marriage life.