Friendship and Favors

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by MovingForward, Feb 9, 2008.

  1. MovingForward

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    Maybe I am wrong, but this just happened.

    Get a call from a friend of mine, he forgot his keys at another friends house,and wanted to see if I was in the area to give him a ride to go back to the friends house. I was about 10 minutes by car away, so I told him I would come pick him up, and right when I am two blocks away, he calls me and tells me finds his key and he is home already. Then he say's thanks for coming and that we should hang out. Well I told him, well I am here, so why don't we hang out for a little bit. He says can't hang out now, but will call me tomorrow.

    I felt something was up, but not sure and I am pissed that I traveled 10 minutes to do something good for him, and he does not have the decency to at lease see me in person to say hello.

    At that point, I have decided to just write him off as a friend.
    Did I overreact?
     
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    Yes. I agree that something might be up, maybe he chickened out though. Very peculiar.
     
  3. Principessa

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    Yes, you did. You would write someone off for something as inconsequential as that? Is this something they do all the time?
     
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    green bay fudge packers

    omg that's so gay
     
  5. Gogiboy1

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    Hey Guy,

    It's hard to tell what the honest truth is, and you could dwell for days on it, BUT, your feelings are your own and therefore valid, however, you don't know WHY he couldn't hang out and to play the devil's advocate, he WAS trying to get home for whatever reason. My suggestion to you is; That you did a GOOD DEED for a friend who needed your help, and you were a good friend to him, chalk it up to an act of kindness you did for someone, and just keep in mind that IF he USED you, and has NO intention of hanging out, that there is something that will eventually make things even...it's called KARMA...BELIEVE IN IT! Don't let it occupy your thoughts, you,(as I interpret) did something without expecting anything at that time...it was a SELFLESS ACT, and you are a nice guy for doing it...to be fair, you chose to do it out of kindness, and just know that you should feel good about it,whatever THEY DO, be it wrong or right, YOU did something nice!

    Stay as kind as you seem to be!
     
  6. SpoiledPrincess

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    To be honest if one of my friends wanted to write me off for something as trivial as that I'd be glad because it would demonstrate that they weren't really a friend.
     
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    Let it go!!!! Time will tell if this "friend" is genuine.
     
  8. vergax

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    I'll go along the lines of Gogiboy1. In theory, we should just feel good (or bad) for what we do, the others or circumstances are outside our own will and power.
    I know how you felt, if you are sensitive, you notice many little annoying things people do to you with or without awareness.
    Time will tell if he just considered you a kind acquaintance or a friend who you both can count on.

    As to SpoiledPrincess..it might seem trivial to break a friendship over that, true, but many little details are what change perceptions, don't they?
    Of course, if he is so easily disregarded as a friend, it can mean they were not real friends in the first place; or that they are, and even a little gesture counts.

    Just let time tell you what was it: Nihil sub sole novum
     
  9. TurkeyWithaSunburn

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    Oh just tell him you hope that bootie call was good, cuz you had to stop what you were doing to be a friend and try to pick him up. And for being a buttmunch he buys the pizza and beer when you 2 hang out :p
     
  10. MovingForward

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    Honestly I thought maybe he did have a booty call, but I guess due to our nus schedules I had not seen him about two months.
     
  11. SpoiledPrincess

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    We only see what the poster wrote, it's likely that what he posted was just the straw that broke the camel's back, but we can only answer on what was posted.
     
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    This is a great response. If he's a friend he'll agree to these for the next time because he'll realize he put you out. Where your friend went wrong was not calling you the second he got his keys instead of waiting until he got home. Now maybe there was no phone or he didn't have his cell or whatever. Shit happens.

    I wouldn't write anyone off for something so trivial though. Write him off when he steals your TV to pay for a drug habit.
     
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