Friendship on the Rocks cause of Casino Jacpot

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  1. Island Club Guy CT

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    My friend invited me to tag along to a casino. He played tables and i decided to wonder off to the machines. After a few spins I won a Jacpot approx US $3,000. He lost $1,500 and asked to burrow $1,000. He lost and we left. Couple of days later he said that if he won the jackpot and i burrowed the money he who not expect it back. I did not answer him as $1,000 is alot of money and i have made plans already with the cash. Some advice guys should i tell him its ok don't pay it back cause it was because of him anyway that i won the jacpot or Should he pay it back to me & i treat him to Dinner or something as a thank you.
     
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    If he borrowed money from you then he should pay you back.
     
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    If you didn't get the loan in writing, you're fucked.

    Hope you don't mind losing $1,000 and a friend, because my guess is the other guy has already made that choice for you.
     
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    WTH! I wouldn't have gave him a grand in the first place. At this point it's best that you charge it to the game and stay friends (and stop loaning money).
     
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    If the agreement was that he'd pay you back, then he should pay you back. If your friendship is threatened by this, then you guys aren't really friends.

    If he's having financial problems though and you could do without the money, tell him to keep it and payback whenever he can or in other ways. But if he's got some money and he's able to pay it back, he should.
     
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    I would have given him some money since I had won & treated him to dinner. But if he asked to borrow the money, he needs to pay it back to you even if it's a few dollars this month & a few more dollars the next month.
     
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    He may have an addiction to gambling. Addicts frequently bend the truth to get what they want, and eventually lose their friends, jobs, credit, etc. as a result. I am not an expert on addictive behavior, but it sounds like your friend may need counseling.

    Good luck. You may have to decide on the money or the friendship, though you may lose both eventually.
     
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    Money's gone and the friendship is over....move on
     
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    Although I must add, if you are good friends then surely you should have known he had no intention of paying you back?
     
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    what he said. too bad, but this guy is not a friend if he would take a grand from you.
     
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    Don't lend money to your friends, or if you do, expect it to be gone forever.
     
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    yup. I couldnt agree more.

    last friday a good buddy ive known for 15 years (hes 25) calls me up and asks/begs me to lend him 110$ until monday to pay his water bill or it would get shut off. this friend has screwed me over in the past over money so I was a little hesitant, but he just helped me move a fridge, and I have a hard time saying no. he said he would pay me back on monday (3 days after I lent it)

    so I show up on monday and he has a lame excuse as to why he couldnt get to the bank. I show up tuesday and same thing, wednesday, same thing. showed up thursday and his roomate (also my good friend) just happened to have a big wad of money in his pocket for rent money. he gave me the 110$ and then shorted the other friend for his rent since he owed me anyways. this was the last straw, he burnt his bridge. no longer a friend. his loss not mine.

    long story short: never ever ever ever lend friends things/money. they will treat you like a woman and tell you what you want to hear (yeah ill have your money tomorrow man!), not the truth.

    if your going to lend money, take collatoral, twice the value as what was lent.

    and theres a saying that goes something like this: dont lend your friends money, youre not going to get it back. give them the money instead, this way youre not disappointed when you dont get the money back.

    let us know what happens.
     
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    You're 'friend' owes you the money, back. It was a loan wheather written or not. Hold him to it. You may not get it back and you may lose a friend, but it's his lesson to learn. You've learned yours.
     
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    I agree with the others. I loaned 2 friends money in the past and they never gave it back. From then on, if a friend asks me for money I decide to either give it to them (not wanting it back) or to tell them I don't have the money.
     
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    A few years ago the guy I was blowing asked if he could borrow a couple thousand dollars. I was hesitant since I had just paid off a 401k loan. He promised me the world (and he was unemployed also) so, I said I'd loan him the money and also mentioned that I knew I'd never see the return payment.

    However, since it was a "small amount" I made the money back with my 401k in a couple of weeks and he kept insisting he needed to pay me back. We worked out a deal where he'd remodel the house and in the end it worked out somewhat.

    Unfortunately, he started to steal money from me and I could never confront him about it since he died. The stealing was the worst part.
     
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    If he did indeed ask to "borrow" $1000 then he is obligated to pay it back. Even more so if he lost the borrowed money on gambling and has the audacity to say if he were you he wouldn't ask for it back. That sends up all kinds of red flags in my eyes. He took advantage of you and wants no consequences for doing it. Doesn't sound like much of a friend in my eyes.
     
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    just curious, why lie about it?

    next time the buddy that screwed me over several times asks me for money, im going to say "no, youre an untrustworthy piece of shit that NEVER fucking pays me back. youve always got some lame ass, bullshit excuse as to why you dont got my money or coulfny make it to the bank, yet you somehow come up with money to smoke and drink all day every day. fuck off loser, im never lending you another penny again."

    it might seem harsh, but every word there is the truth, and im known to be brutally honest.
     
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    a few yrs ago my brother asked to borrow some money and since i had been out of school, working for a while making pretty good money and i had it to lend, i wasn't really going to say no. it was a substantial loan (even today it's alot of money) to help him out of some problems, and he insisted we go to my dad's attorney and make it legal and all. after a brief explanation to the attorney about what we needed, the attorney pulled me aside and said:

    "even though we're drawing up papers to make this a legal obligation for your brother , you should view this as a gift to him because in all likelyhood he will not repay you and you need to accept that now so your relationship isn't destroyed when he defaults on the loan"

    I went ahead and loaned him the money and the attorney was right, my brother has never repaid me, but because of the attorney's advise I'm still close to my brother. yeah i could take my brother to court and force him to pay it back but what would that accomplish? the way i look at it is i loaned him the money because i truly wanted to help him out of a jam, and i did that....and it makes me feel good i was able to help.

    ever since that conversation with the attorney i treat all requests for loans---even if its just a few dollars among friends--- as gifts, and i've never been disappointed. it's one of the best life lessons anybody has ever given me, and i've told him that since.

    you should consider the opportunity to share your windfall with your friend an opportunity to be a bigger person and forget about what you could have done with the money for yourself.
     
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    Worse than him dying? Wow :eek:
     
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