I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years two months ago. I need to mention this for background and then get to my question. He swears up and down that nothing is going on with the guy he met on Gayromeo; that it's only friendship even though they spend a lot of time together, go off for day trips or a weekend away. A week ago the friend said to him "thanks for a nice time in .... Sorry for the blueballs" I asked him about the comment and his reply was that they walked a lot that day and since he had surgery for a varicocele two years ago, his balls still ache when standing or walking a lot. I called bullshit because no one would use the term blueballs if it was strictly about ball pain. Anyway, it came out that they wank together. No sex and my ex says that wanking (and oral) are not sex. Only penetration is sex according to him. He thinks it's fine for friends to JO together and apparently he's done this with other so called friends he's met!! I beg to differ. I think that anything that involves genital contact is, in some way, sex. Moreover, I don't think that friends wank together. I don't JO with any of my friends. Now that we are exes he thinks it's ok for us to wank together too. He doesn't want full on sex, just laying together jerking off. The other night he invited me over for dinner and a movie. We had a nice dinner together and he started the movie. As it started he took off his pants and sat down. I was sitting there fully dressed as he played with himself (hand in his briefs). He then reached over for my hand and tried to place it on his crotch. I pulled away and told him no. It's not something interesting for me. I don't understand his behavior. I really don't understand this and would appreciate some of your insights.