From str8 to gay?

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  1. BIGdkluver

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    Did any man on this site go from being 100% str8 to 100% gay?

    I'm just curious if any guy here made the 180 degree "turn" from being totally str8 to being totally gay. If you did (or know someone who did), what caused the "conversion"--so to speak?

    I know it does happen. I've heard gay men say, "Well, I used to be straight--I was even married once to a woman!"

    So, what caused such a radical change in your sexual preference??

    Thanks!
     
  2. D_Aston Asstonne

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    i have a friend/stripper who's hubby informed her he was gay after 7years of marriage.it seems he really had no choice as she caught him with his b/f at the holiday inn!ouch!
     
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    These changed may seem drastic, but (in my case anyway) for the person changing from hetero behavior to homo behavior...it has usually been in the back of their mind for some time...whether they let anyone else in on it or not.

    In my own case, I was attracted to women and men.
    Being with men was not something I was initially comfortable with until i was in my midtwenties...but had I thought/fantasized and contemplated? yah.
    After I made the decision to focus on my homo side, the hetero side began to fade away, pretty much.
     
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    They found out late that they really wanted a cock and not a vagina..LoL..well maybe those are the people who arent sure of their sexuality eversince...at least my 1% wouldnt go that further...hahaha.
     
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    Maybe I'm being naive, but I don't think that people go from 100% straight to 100% gay very often, if at all.

    I suspect that it's much more common to go from ACTING 100% straight and living a straight lifestyle (with secret same-sex desires or occasional, discreet same-sex encounters) and later making the switch ('coming out', if you will).
     
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    Exactly. When guys say, "They used to be straight. They were even once married," what they mean is that they conformed to the majority and engaged in straight activities. They may really be bi or not. But without a doubt the gay attraction was there from the get go. They have have suppressed it.

    In my case, in having straight sex, my mind was having a fantasy and it was with some guy. I have three sons. My wife isn't interested in sex anymore so it makes it very convenient.

    I don't even enjoy looking at straight porn. Now gay porn is another matter.:biggrin1:
     
  7. Principessa

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    That's exactly how it happend with my friend Jeff. Once he acted on his gay tendencies that was the ball game. He dropped women all together and has been all about the cock ever since.

    I tend to think this is how it happens for many gay men and women.
     
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    I've always had same sex tendencies but never admitted them to anyone until later in life. I played the straight role in college and as a newly wed. Had an occassional male trick as a college student but pretended to be 100% straight with my buddies. I told my buddies stories about sex with females in order to pass as hetro. After marriage, I had very little interest in sex with my wife. I passed it off as a low sex drive. When we did have sex, in my mind I imaged that it was with a guy. I came out to her while we were still married. It took us a few years to be on friendly terms. I am now divorced and on good terms with my ex and have a partner that I dearly love.
     
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    Yes ... but I'm not naming names. :tapedshut:
     
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    :cool: Nope but I made a 360 degree a loop from 100% streit gay to to a happy man:eek: :eek:
     
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    Ditto...
     
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    I've seen quite a number of sexuality ratings ont his site creep ever clsoer to 100% gay. I'm not naming any names either, it seems inappropriate, however I think it's because people come to a place like LPSG and in this frank, down to earth atmosphere they slowly discover parts of themselves they didn't know were there, or they were hiding from the world on purpose.

    It seems like the udnerlying question is really "does LPSG make people gay?" I don't think so. I think it makes people realise when they are though.
     
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    i think there's a lot of pressure on men to repress any sexual attraction towards other men; bisexuality is a heck of a lot more prevalent amongst women. So I think it's a state of mind thing in a lot of cases; 'I've slept with and found men to be attractive, I may as well be gay' It seems like men are more inclined to play the percentage - less than 50% straight identifies as gay, more than 50% as straight. I don't believe there's a flip-point or a case of a complete about-turn
     
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    Openly, maybe. Otherwise I'd have to disagree.
     
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    I knew I was gay as a small boy. I pretended for years that I was "normal" in order to be accepted. I always was far more interested in a man's body than women. I played the game through college, married, had 3 wonderful sons and never faltered as a husband and father. I was reassigned to a foreign assignment to Indonesia, met and fell in love with a local doctor who fullfilled my long-denied sex with a man. I lived apart from my family for several years due to work assignment, visiting back and forth to keep peace in the family. After my youngest completed his degree, I made the announcement that I was gay and began living that life. I could no longer live in Indonesia so that arrangement had to end. Today I have been with a wonderful man for 15 years. Yes, I am an older fart and would not change my sacrifices to deny my sexual preferences until after my sons were grown. My ex-wife and I are the best of friends and my sons accept me with open arms. I could not ask for a better life.
     
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    That's what I meant; women are more inclined to declare bisexuality
     
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    'spect it's more of a change in behavior than preference. I think guys like that just denied it all that time, then finally decided to do what was right and embrace who they are.
     
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    i liv to eat agggies........with a dollop of catsup........woooof txag
     
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    Forget labels and just go with your feelings. I believe we are all born bi sexual and we are moulded by what society expects of us. I realised early that i got turned on by both men and women and luckily was able to accept it in my head. I happened to meet and fall in love with a woman but i know that i could just as easily have fallen in love with a guy. I've never cheated on my wife with another female but i do occasionaly play with other male friends, it's like an itch I have to scratch.
    We are bought up in a society that frowns on men showing affection to each other and consequently some repress any feelings they might get.
    Those guys I've met who are happy with their sexuality always seem to make better partners or friends.
     
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    I don't think we are all born bisexual (I believe that is just a thing that bisexuals say :rolleyes:). I believe there is definitely a spectrum, and we all lie somewhere on it. I know I am definitely gay, and females never have turned me on; with that being said, this was NOT something society had instilled into me, because our society is still geared towards heterosexuals.

    If somebody "turned" from straight to gay, I believe they were always gay and grew up feeling they had to fulfill expectations made by society.
     
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