Fuck Buddies

[B_subgirrl]

Well she's not "officially his girlfriend" and no she doesn't know.

Well, if she isn't his gf I really don't think it matters what he does. Although honesty is still the best policy.

 

[B_orleandersee]

I have had a few in my life...not gonna lie...but i havent been able to really get into that kind of arrangement anymore. Maybe it is old age/maturity...but i'm more 'all or nothing' now.

i've always been like this so dub me mature. its funny, i've tried it and every time, i find myself developing feelings for them and no amt of logic will really help all of the time.. i think one who is able to detach themselves like that from the experience is probably more detached from themselves and their emotions than they ever thought possible.

i remember i was casually dating one guy who had a girl friend (according to him an open relationship) though they were never sexual and we were pretty exclusive though after spending a hefty amt of time together, him saying he was going to go see her later that day, helped me to easily call it quits. i never saw or spoke to him again.

i dunno.. maybe i don't have the experience to comment on this because every time that i've found myself in something similar, ive never gone in with the thoughts of, 'oh, it's just a fuck'..

even then, i have a real problem with that because there is no trust. if there is no trust, im completely turned off.. in a fuck buddy scenario, you don't really know the person or what they're capable of or how honest they are.. you may be able to trust them though how much can you trust other people that they may sleep with? some of you have said you have more than one.. it's a possibility and when it comes to something so heavy and serious as that, i can't help to keep my mental health, sanity and sexual credibility intact.. i like to avoid stds.

 

[B_subgirrl]

i've always been like this so dub me mature. its funny, i've tried it and every time, i find myself developing feelings for them and no amt of logic will really help all of the time.. i think one who is able to detach themselves like that from the experience is probably more detached from themselves and their emotions than they ever thought possible.

I've just always seen sex and love as separate things. For me, you don't need one to have the other, and one doesn't necessarily lead to the other. And as I said, combining love that stems from friendship and sex can certainly create something that feels like romantic love. Sometimes it really is romantic love (this did in fact happen with one of my FB relationships), but not always.

I've always been pretty good at intellectualising my feelings. It's not always a good thing, but it does make it possible for me to have comfortable FB relationships.

i remember i was casually dating one guy who had a girl friend (according to him an open relationship) though they were never sexual and we were pretty exclusive though after spending a hefty amt of time together, him saying he was going to go see her later that day, helped me to easily call it quits. i never saw or spoke to him again.

Dating is not a FB relationship. If I were dating someone I would expect it to be monogamous on both sides. While I've seen open relationships that work, it wouldn't work for me.

i dunno.. maybe i don't have the experience to comment on this because every time that i've found myself in something similar, ive never gone in with the thoughts of, 'oh, it's just a fuck'..

We are all different. Some people just can't have NSA sex. It's just the way they are. Others can. But if you can't do NSA a FB relationship is definitely not going to work for you.

even then, i have a real problem with that because there is no trust. if there is no trust, im completely turned off.. in a fuck buddy scenario, you don't really know the person or what they're capable of or how honest they are.. you may be able to trust them though how much can you trust other people that they may sleep with? some of you have said you have more than one.. it's a possibility and when it comes to something so heavy and serious as that, i can't help to keep my mental health, sanity and sexual credibility intact.. i like to avoid stds.

I only have sex with people who use condoms every time without question. I know they aren't 100% proof against STDs but my only other option is no sex. I'm not really up for the no sex option.

 

[Randyvoorburg]

Having fuck buddies is great. all the sex and none of the other relationship issues, and you get to taste different guys. every mouth, dick, ass, bod is different from the other so yeah, you should try enjoying it.

 

[OCMuscleJock]

Every relationship is different. My partner and I have been open for almost 13 yrs and it works out GREAT for us. I always tell people. When they have a relationship that lasts as long as mine and never really fight and can honestly say they are happy...THEN they can tell me what they think and I might listen. It sucks when people try to tell other people how to live their lives. All I know...I'm happy...he's happy...he's the only guy I've ever dated and we're going on 13 yrs this November.

 

[OCMuscleJock]

in a fuck buddy scenario, you don't really know the person or what they're capable of or how honest they are.. you may be able to trust them though how much can you trust other people that they may sleep with?

a fuck buddy isn't a random person...it's someone you see over and over in a sexual way that just happens to be a friend. If you cannot trust your friend, you do not need them as a friend. What you describe here is a random hook up with someone you do not really know. ALSO, just because they are a fuck buddy...doesn't mean you have to play unsafe. Hell, if you're gonna worry about STD's from safe play everytime...avoid toilet seats or any furniture someone may sit or lay on....never shake someones hand... and by all means...RUN if someone tries to kiss you! Otherwise, have fun and live the only life you're given to live.

 

[nakedone]

Having someone to fuck with, without emotional attachments, if very practical at some times in life. I wish I had done it, myself, when I was younger, instead of getting too involved with a girl who thought she wanted marriage, but later decided she didn't.

As long as both persons are honest with each other, I see it as a "good" thing for both males and females, to have a fuck-partner.

 

[B_New End]

I had a FWB. A little more personal than a fuck buddy, but not much. We agreed to go on until we decided it was going to impede our chance for real love.

She's got a BF now, and I am happy for her. (Although he doesn;t let her talk to me anymore... :S even though we stopped fucking 3 months before she met him... and really... if it wasn't for our maturity in stopping the situation, I'd probably still be screwing her and he would be jerking off, instead of visa versa. Oh well)

 

[Animal_Alpha]

In all honesty, I've had more fuckbuddies than I've had girlfriends. I've come to realize that I have a hard time getting emotionally committed, and maybe there's something less unnerving about only having to come through in the sex-area.

So yeah, totally pro-fuckbuddy here. Course', unless you're in a relationship.

 

[424365]

I'm glad I've started this thread. The many different insights are very intriguing.

 

[lapdog2001]

I never had a FB, as it was really a FWB. We started as friends, but I always was attracted to her (and told her so.) One day, sex happened and I fell in love, but to her I was just a FWB. :frown1:

Eventually, when I came to realize and accept that our 'relationship' was not going to be boyfriend/girlfriend or potential marriage, I was fully able to enjoy our FWB times together. We were truly good friends who spent a lot of time together. Sex was just one of the things were enjoyed more often than not!:wink:

 

[D_Francis Skrotam]

I've only had one but she got too attached and jealous. I'm currently looking for one or two(female)but no luck so far, I do enjoy just knowing we are friends taking care of each others sexual needs and what not. I hope someone cums along soon, I am willing to travel as I do this often anyhow. If it leads to more then it will be dealt with then.

 

[HungThickProf]

I will say that I personally have fuck buddies, but my fuck buddies are my friends. I believe that it's very important to establish friendships with anyone you're fucking around with just because you actually get to know that person- what they like, what they don't like, etc... You can also smile and laugh- and just have fun. And if you want, you can even cuddle. And afterwards, get back to your movie, hit up a bar or a club, or watch a movie, or whatever you like to do. It's fun!

 

[424365]

I don't think I'd mind one of my own but I have anti-social issues relationships or even mild friendships do not come easy to me and I have very few friends. I can hardly imagine myself with a FB for that reason.

 

[B_subgirrl]

I don't think I'd mind one of my own but I have anti-social issues relationships or even mild friendships do not come easy to me and I have very few friends. I can hardly imagine myself with a FB for that reason.

I also have few friends, but my FBs are counted amongst them.

 

[D_Sparroe Spongecaques]

Yes and he became my bf.

Another one i ditched as feelings were starting to creep in.

 

[Spectacle]

Personally I find the idea a little bit uncomfortable. I have attachment issues, and it's hard for me to find someone attractive without wanting to spend a lot of time with them outside of the bedroom, and to actually form that relationship bond.

I guess for someone to be sexually appealing to me, they need to be interesting to every other aspect of me as well.

 

[stlguy112000]

I'm a bi WM & I had a guy buddy I sucked once a week for 7-8 years, it was a great arrangement, whenever one of us was horny we'd call & meet up,
I'm a cocksucker & he loved having his cock sucked, & he had 7", we lived 10 minutes from each other.

 

[JaimeB]

I'm a bi WM & I had a guy buddy I sucked once a week for 7-8 years, it was a great arrangement, whenever one of us was horny we'd call & meet up,
I'm a cocksucker & he loved having his cock sucked, & he had 7", we lived 10 minutes from each other.

sounds like a great arrangement! i gave up my fuckbuddy when i got into a committed relationship, but i kinda miss jerking off with him and watching his fat dick skwirt a big, thick cumwad. oh, well, life goes on...

 

[DasLeezard]

I had them when I was in the Army. Now, not so much.