Fuck Buddy Turns Into Somethin Else?

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For like 1.5 months I have this guy I am casually sleeping with. The first few times we had sex, a little chat afterwards and he left. Then we startet to have very interesting and funny conversations, we even cuddled for a long time always.
Still everything casual and as soon as he left I didn't even think about him anymore until he hit me up for sex again.
To this point everything was very casual, sex is amazin, over the top and we jokingly both said if the age gap wasn't that big, that we would even date each other seriously . (he is 12 years older and tbh not that much of my usual type, I would not have initiated contact)

Some days ago after said fun, he suggested that we watch a movie or something like this the next time we meet up. And so we did, was amazing and we click on that level too. The day after we went out for dinner, which ended in a long walk holding hands and we both came to the conclusion, the this was a proper date and we would like to do it again.

Now I am not sure if this is just turning into dates with a fuck buddy or if we r seriously dating to see where it goes.

Any of u have some experience with something similar or advise to share?

I will see him again next weekend and might ask more specific.
 

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No, but if you're both happy and the sex is good I'd probably roll with the flow. Amazing over the top sex with someone on a regular basis is good for stress relief and keeps one happy
 

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If you're seeing him next weekend, I would just wait and see how it goes. It definitely goes beyond just hanging out with you FB from what you shared. Holding hands, long walks, and a mutual acknowledgement of an official date definitely go beyond something that's just casual dating. I think it's too early for it to be anything too serious, but I do think it might do your good to think about if you want this. You said he's not your usual type but that you get along great with good sex. If you both came to the conclusion that you had a proper date, I don't see the need to request that he be more specific because he might not even know what he wants yet with how new these official dates are, but I think that's it's worth asking yourself how you feel. If you feel good about how things are getting more romantically inclined, begin finding ways to express that to him, and if you decide that maybe you aren't ready for this to get deeper, make sure you're upfront with wishing to remain just as FB.
 

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While you're analyzing your good fortune, I hope you're enjoying the whole thing;Sex, talking, holding hands, snuggling, watching movies you both enjoy.
 
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My recent experience was that I've met him couple times last year but nothing seems to be progressing from there even after numerous attempts to go out on dates. So I dropped it off. Fast forward to March this year, we began to meet again and started hooking up again couple more times and then it progressed to us going out for long walks (2-4 hours of walk) several times. Sex was great and we held hands, talked, snuggled after that.

Just last week, I started to felt we seems to be more than just friends so I thought to shoot my shot by saying I like him over voice messages (I chickened out after our walk). After that, he replied 2 days later by saying that he freaked out a lilttle bit and he was triggered by what I've said. Continued by saying he realised he still has some work to do on himself. Of course it hit me hard for a person that is riddled with anxiety and depression. Then I just said thanked him for the transparency and "not" ghosting me and said I was willing to take a step back just be friends if he's okay with it.

Still hasn't replied for 6 days since then. :D

(Saw him online on Grindr on the day I replied him. Probably looking for a new meat.)
 

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If you're seeing him next weekend, I would just wait and see how it goes. It definitely goes beyond just hanging out with you FB from what you shared. Holding hands, long walks, and a mutual acknowledgement of an official date definitely go beyond something that's just casual dating. I think it's too early for it to be anything too serious, but I do think it might do your good to think about if you want this. You said he's not your usual type but that you get along great with good sex. If you both came to the conclusion that you had a proper date, I don't see the need to request that he be more specific because he might not even know what he wants yet with how new these official dates are, but I think that's it's worth asking yourself how you feel. If you feel good about how things are getting more romantically inclined, begin finding ways to express that to him, and if you decide that maybe you aren't ready for this to get deeper, make sure you're upfront with wishing to remain just as FB.

This is my general issue now. I wanna date him now for sure and see where it goes. But maybe I just interpret too much and for him it's still casual stuff with added features. If it is still casual for him, then I have to cut this off, because it l do no good to me. But thanks for your reply, gave me another perspective
 
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This is my general issue now. I wanna date him now for sure and see where it goes. But maybe I just interpret too much and for him it's still casual stuff with added features. If it is still casual for him, then I have to cut this off, because it l do no good to me. But thanks for your reply, gave me another perspective
I'd find a way when y'all have your date this weekend to let him know that you're interested in making it more serious. Or, at least testing the waters of making it more serious. You're both in the early stages of this, so he may not know what he wants. However, letting him know that you're okay with making it more serious might break down any barriers he may have to express the same.

It sounds like you both have something good going between you two, and I wish you all the best.
 

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My advice would be, don't guess, don't surmise, don't imagine what he or you would say.

You're both adults and you both have the right to simply ask the other where you're both at. Just broach the situation by saying, "Can I just ask, just so I'm clear. What does this mean to you?"
 

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I have now talked to him and just asked if this is a hook up with extra features or if he is interested in getting to know each other, in other words dating, because I am.

He was surprised that I changed my mind, since I made clear the age gap was too big for me, but that he would like to try and find out what happens.

So thanks for ur advice ❤️
 

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I have now talked to him and just asked if this is a hook up with extra features or if he is interested in getting to know each other, in other words dating, because I am.

He was surprised that I changed my mind, since I made clear the age gap was too big for me, but that he would like to try and find out what happens.

So thanks for ur advice ❤️

Partner and I have a 13 year age difference....together 26 years.