fuck but not kiss.

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  1. missbec

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    I need some thoughts on this if i may...

    Ive had a fuck buddy for the past two months, and ive yet to find out why he does not wish to make out (kiss) with me. I respected that and just recently i was pissed (drunk) and confronted him about it.

    I have my certain suspicions he is either "saving" the kissing for this lover in a long term relationship or he is doing it purely so i don’t get attached (being a woman). He has denied these theories of mine and i cannot think of any more conclusions as to why he chooses not to.

    Is anyone is a similar situation? Even better, does anyone have a different yet perfectly believable conclusion or is it just me?

    ps Dont get me wrong, i can respect he is doing this, im just very curious as to why he is.
     
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    He wants sex but not intimacy - he's a fuck buddy
     
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    you may be right yet he is not owning upto that!
     
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    I can't get into fucking without kissing. Fuck that noise.
     
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    It did put me off a little at first, i got used to it.
     
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    I definitely find kissing to be more intimate than fucking. I can't really explain why, and if I was pressed on the subject, I don't think I'd have a good reason either.
     
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    It may very well be a few things;
    One, it could just mean that he really & truly takes your relationship as a fuck buddy one & kisses have no part in it.
    Two, on that note, he's probably literally screwing around with another girl & giving her the kisses.
     
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    Is this the guy?
     
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    Oh Pecker sweetie, you never cease to amuse and amaze! what a laugh
     
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    Yes I dont think i have ever fucked someone without kissing. This seems strange to me......:cool:
     
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    i can see how gg42 is right yet he is now owning up to that! i will confront him again shortly. Curiosity has gotten the better of me.
     
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    Hot DAMN lol...
     
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    I even kiss the mirror when I masturbate.
     
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    I've always found this behavior two faced coming from gay men.

    You can use your mouth to suck someones cock, rim someone's ass, lick their hairy arm pit but kissing is a no no.

    I don't get it, either.

    However, let me do say, that for a lot of men it falls into two different categories:

    1) From gay men it's too intimate. They just wanted sex and that's it.

    2) From "straight" men it's too gay. A "straight" man will have all the kinky sex with another guy and not think anything about it. But you kiss a straight guy and it's gay.

    Just from my experience.
     
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    Hehe, I'm one of those who likes to fuck but isnt so crazy about the kisses......the other likes kissing though, like many have said, it's too intimate. If I'm in a relationship with somebody then I'll deep feelings and want to make out for hrs, but if it's not a relationship and it's a fuck buddy........then that's what it is.
     
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    Regardless of fuck buddy status or not, if I can't kiss, I can't enjoy sex.

    I can understand why people wouldn't want to kiss, as kissing can lead to emotions becoming better developed and the purpose of a fuck buddy, is to have sex with no emotions.

    I dont' care.

    Any fuck buddy I have, they better be cool with kissing. I won't enjoy it.
     
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    haha.. yeah I don't kiss, so any sex with me, is kissing free. Nothing really against it, more a phobia.

    I have a freind though that will not kiss while having sex unless he is in a relationship, he thinks that it shows affection. Which makes no sence now that I've typed it out... hrm
     
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    I had an ex like this. It took him a little bit to be really comfortable with kissing. I never asked why. He had huge problems with intimacy though, so I've always thought that was it.

    I know with my husband at first I was a little like that and it really was because I was absolutely terrified of how close we were getting. I literally felt like I was smothering sometimes. That passed quickly and now kissing is a huge turnon. However, there are still sometimes when the style of kissing I prefer (light and affectionate over deep and sexual).
     
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    I don't know that I couldn't enjoy sex but I don't want to have sex without kissing. I'm very oral and would miss it too much.
     
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    My first boyfriend when I was in junior high told me that I kissed "like the creature from the Black Lagoon." That always made me a little insecure about kissing.

    That has nothing to do with this thread, really. I just thought about it and thought it was kinda funny.
     
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