Fuck Fuck Fuck. Im not sure where to put this.

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  1. Gecko4lif

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    Im not sure where to put this so I just dropped it in here.

    The last week or so I have been wondering why I have such shitty type in girls when it hit me. I have some kind of hero complex. Quite literally all the girls I have liked have fallen into one of 3 categories.

    1. Have been molested or abused at some point
    2. Arent worth shit
    or
    3. Are in or about to be in trouble

    And the fucked up part is that they all have the same smell. I dont mean like cigarettes or perfume. The closest I can tell it is a pheromone, and to my great misfortune it gets me rock hard.


    Anybody in similar situations.
     
  2. sbat

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    I had a buddy like this. He grew out of it.
     
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    Guess you could change country club membership.
     
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    Perhaps it's the vibe from you that attracts those girl to come to you? Maybe by changing some aspects in you, like the way you behave or how you express your attitude.

    And what do you mean exactly by hero complex?
     
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    It's called knight in shining armor rescues damsel in distress...only to find out he gets stuck with a distressed damsel.
     
  6. Gecko4lif

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    I have an intrinsic need to WANT to help them regardless of the situation.

    Im surprised it took me this long to figure it out.

    I suppose it is still relatively early to figure something like this out so I might be ahead of the 8 ball there.
     
  7. B_Mademoiselle Rouge

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    A needy girl always attracts a listener. It can be very problematic for the guy. Next thing you know you are spending all your time being her therapist. It's hard to have sex with a woman once you know some of those things about her. It's hard to find her attractive when she's so needy, crying all the time and very possessive because you are a dude giving her your undivided attention at first.
     
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    Im going to have to remedy this :cool:

    Being callous would be uncharacteristic of me but maybe I should be more aloof
     
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    aloof is good sometimes, especially at first. You are welcome to talk to me any time in PM or on the phone if you arein the US, i'll be happy to help you with some more advice on this. I get this situation so well, in far too many ways. Hit me up sometime.
     
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    I thought you were thinking about going full gay?
     
  11. Gecko4lif

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    Couldnt do it :cool:
     
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    i attract hero types.
    that makes no sense to me and disappoints them.
    shit, last time a saw a shrink, to get an aspergers diagnosis, he told me i just needed someone to look after me.
    ...and i have a beautific smile.


    weirdness.

    the first step has to be recognising your issue. if you check yourself every time you meet a new woman then you can avoid being caught on loop tape.
     
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    It sounds like you need to find a woman who has her life together and doesn't have any issues.

    I'm attracted to hero types, but not that kind of "hero." When I say I'm attracted to heroes, I mean that I'm attracted to men who work for non-profit organizations that help the homeless or hungry or poor, or cops or firefighters or rescue workers, or people who fight for the rights of the weak and powerless, etc. I mean men who want to improve the world somehow and believe in helping others. People like that are heroes to me, and I'm strongly attracted to them. I'm attracted to men I admire. I don't mean a man who wants to save a particular woman from whatever her problems are.
     
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    I'm in the same boat as you. I'm Mr. save-a-ho.

    I think it's because of my low worth that I'm attracted to these kinds of women. My thinking is that if I find a woman and help her somehow, through her problems or whatnot, that she'll be less likely to leave me out a sense of loyalty and gratitude.

    That is extremely pathetic, sad and maybe a little bit misogynist, but it's the way I think.
     
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    Excellent.
     
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    I think perhaps you could go into a 'hero' profession, as one of the posters (petite) has said, and then your love life might clear up.

    Those who are in such a line of work learn vitally important ways of not 'burning out' their ability to help others. And the main one is to care for yourself first. Establish what it is you need to keep yourself in a giving and generous state of mind and heart, and make sure that any relationship you are in does not stop you from maintaining it.

    And above all love yourself. If you neglect that you will become just as needy as them.
     
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    How they hell do you attract a hero type? I imagined you were more of a finance shark type
     
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    god no!

    i attract hero types because i'm quietly spoken, slim, pretty and my back is covered with slash scars that i've long since out grown hiding.
    or maybe it's the pheromones i give off.
    my female friends are all ten years older than me motherly types too.

    i hate thinking about money.
     
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    I think sbat means that you don't give off a whiff of a "woman who needs saving" here on LPSG, which I would consider a compliment.

    I don't know what happened to you, but I'm sorry that something happened to you that would make people feel that they need to "save you."
     
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