Fucked Up Situtation

[rope9839]

Here's the situation I find myself in:

I got divorced within the last year. A few weeks ago a mutual friend of my ex's and mine called and invited me and my kids to come visit her and her family in Atlanta. We were very good friends with this family. The get together would be at her daughter's house. For what it is worth, our friend is in her 60's and her daughter is my age (late 30's).

Anyway, the other day I got an e-mail from the GRAND DAUGHTER (21). She says that she hears we are coming down. She goes on to tell me that she has always had a thing for me and, if I want to fuck, she is up for it. She goes on in some detail as to what she likes to do. Finally, she tells to me wear a green shirt on the first day of my visit if this sounds interesting. Otherwise she will leave me alone.

This thing is almost surreal. I may be in the minority, but fucking your friend's hot little grand daughter is not something I am inclined to do.

I've got half a mind to cancel the trip, but I can't see avoiding some of our closest friends forever. I don't think I will be packing a green shirt. but I really wonder how it will feel when I see this young lady. Weird.

 

[jdoe86]

Give me the address, I have a green shirt and I would love to fuck her. Why don't you want to fuck her? Is she too old? Too young? Not attractive? You're gay? You are afraid you will not have enough Viagra? She is not related to you (unless you forgot to tell us something), and she is legal. WHY NOT? You are both consenting adults and she finds you attractive enough to fuck. It isn't like she wants to get married right? What aren't you telling us???

 

[mindseye]

Originally posted by geo8x6@Aug 10 2004, 09:22 PM
What aren't you telling us???

I think he explained himself well. He'd like to maintain the friendship he has without the awkwardness that being intimate with her granddaughter would engender.

 

[jonb]

Besides which, May/December relationships are kinda creepy anyway.

 

[Pappy]

Originally posted by geo8x6@Aug 10 2004, 08:22 PM
What aren't you telling us???

Without comming right out and saying it he's telling us he values this friendship more than a fresh piece of ass. I for one say more power to him.

 

[ponybilt]

Originally posted by jonb@Aug 11 2004, 02:29 AM
Besides which, May/December relationships are kinda creepy anyway.

LOL Being that I'm only a few years off from 'late thirties' I take offence at the May/December comment.

September might be more appropriate.

Otherwise, I understand the reluctance about screwing around with a member of a friend's family.

 

[13788]

kenny:

Originally posted by Pappy+Aug 11 2004, 02:59 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Pappy @ Aug 11 2004, 02:59 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-geo8x6@Aug 10 2004, 08:22 PM
What aren&#39;t you telling us???

Without comming right out and saying it he&#39;s telling us he values this friendship more than a fresh piece of ass. I for one say more power to him. [/b][/quote]
does. not. compute.

 

[xtrathickdick]

I would email the granddaughter back and tell here exactly what you told us. Your feelings regarding this situation are what they are, they&#39;re valid, and you shouldn&#39;t have to apologize for them.

If you decide to go on the trip, and you don&#39;t want to have sex with her, then try to always have another person around you when she&#39;s there. And don&#39;t wear a green shirt.

 

[13788]

suaige: I think this would be similar to being around an ex spouce/friend. If you handle it tacfully it can really be OK. A lot of times just being kind, but casual about it, especially when you see her will help. Personally I think you are leaning toward a wise decision. Having random sex with people esp those you don&#39;t really like can be enough. Risking losing a good friendship just makes it worse.

Being complimentary in your decline is usually a bit disarming. And use a bit of proper but seemingly awkward enlgish. I like you a lot think your a great person AND I am not interested in you. The AND instead of BUT does not negate the 1st part of the response. I like you but... its always considered a negator is it not.

Yeah and don&#39;t pack ANY GREEEN.

 

[reir]

I&#39;d say don&#39;t pack any green simply because you&#39;ll teach her that she&#39;s found a good method for getting guys.

 

[13788]

NelsonMuntz84: I think in life there always relationships or people you rule out having sex with, with me for example its my brothers gf, she&#39;s a nice looking girl but I see her in a none-sexual way due to who she is.

I think you dont back a green shirt and dont mention it again, I wouldn&#39;t bother emailing her, the last thing you want is any sort of implication that this was somehow developed on both sides, not just her&#39;s.

I say just be flattered by it, and leave it well alone, I dont think anything would be gained by discussing this with her or anyone close to the situation really.

 

[13788]

thick_moustache: we&#39;ll if you are going to go, simply arrive like nothing and don&#39;t wear a green shirt, try arriving for the visit in a suit and tie this way you look very respectable and if she tells you something about the e-mail she sent you, simply say you don&#39;t know what she is talking about and that you have not recieved any e-mails from her and if she ask you for your e-mail simply say you dont have internet connection any more &#036;&#036;money is tight right now&#036;&#036; if she conntinues to persist tell her point blank that what she is doing is inapropriate and that you dont apreciate her aproaching you in that fashion and that you just got out of a relationship and that you are in a moment to your self and tought only.

tactic #2:
tell her you are seing, dating some one else (lie).

remember she is still young and what she has is probably just a crush on you and there are realy 100&#39;s of other people to have sex with so why screw up a good relationship with you friends over a dumb fuck session and only have her tell your friends later on and make you look bad and have her become glen close in (((fatal atraction)

 

[B_RoysToy]

rope9839 -- think twice before getting branded as a liar. Why lie when there are other ways to take care of the problem truthfully? You have a good selection of suggestions for handling this situation, all above board&#33;

 

[rope9839]

Thanks for all the replies. I have to admit that it never occured to me that I might have to explain to someone why I wouldn&#39;t want to have sex with my friend&#39;s grand daughter, but it takes all kinds.

In some ways I could have seen this coming. A couple of years ago we took the girl to Majorca on vacation. She ended up hooking up with a 40 something guy who claimed to be a talent scout for MGM. A year later we went on a cruise and I caught her eyeing me up and down a couple times at the pool. She just seems to like much older men. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that she never had a father figure around growing up. Now that I am back on the market, I guess she thinks I am fair game.

I think I am just going to leave well enought alone. She has already given me an out with the green shirt business. I don&#39;t have to put anything in writing or even address the issue. I&#39;ll just show up wearing something else. If she brings it up, I&#39;ll just tell her that I really don&#39;t think that her idea is a good one for a variety of reasons and leave it at that.

 

[13788]

clipper: This reminds me of grade school notes. "Do you like me...YES or NO?" Definitely leave the green shirt at home. Keep the email stored away just in case she feels vengeful and tries to say you came on to her&#33; Never hurts to be prepared.