Fucking Friend

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Joseph, Aug 11, 2007.

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Did you ever had a fuck buddy(ies)? (anything sexual even jerking off counts)

  1. Yes I had onefewmany!

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  2. Such a relationship was offered to me, but I declined.

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  3. I would want one, but I never had the chance to...

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  4. No it´s jsut sickening!

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  1. Joseph

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    a so called "fucking friend" a person that is only a "friend" however.. you do have sex with him\her...

    Anyone had something ´like that?

    and listen people ... please... even if this is about a FUCK buddy.. for me... Oral sex is sex too... and jerking off with a friends counts for me too (perhaps In wrong about this but Im such a virgin whimp that I want to hear as much as I can)
     
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    errm yes
     
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    I would want one, but I never had the chance to...
     
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    It wasn't until my late 30s that I started drawing the line between "friend" and "fuckbud", and then not always. Especially in my 20s, I slept with my friends and, more likely, my friends were former tricks (ie: one-night stands).

    The only exceptions I can think of were those friends of the various partners I've had over the years. I rarely slept with them.
     
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    Throughout my adolescence*, I had a number of fuck buddies, all of whom were friends first. A few were former romantic interests I continued a friendship and sexual relationship with after breakups.

    Probably the only exceptions were my ex-husband (we worked together for a year but did not talk until our first date, which ended with us in bed together), and one or two people I had only recently met, or only knew very casually.

    I have an excellent track record of maintaining friendship before, during, and after romantic/sexual relationships. My ex-husband and I remain great friends, and I don't think any of my exes bear me ill will.

    *I know some people think adolescent sexual relationships don't count much in a person's history, but I think they do. Circumstances of my childhood forced me to grow up too fast, and I dealt with it by having a lot of sex with a lot of people (I also have an extremely strong sex drive). I remember those relationships as if they happened yesterday, and I was capable of thinking on an adult level when they occurred.
     
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    yeah, in fact i have a guy where the only time we ever hang out is to have sex. and he's huge ;)
     
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    Several fuck friends over the years.
     
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    I've had a few. The most memorable being the guy who answered my ad :eek: - while he didn't really satisfy the fantasy I had, he was quite good. And we were never more than FWB, nor did I want it to be. We didn't really have enough in common other than sexual stuff to be.
     
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    I never had anyone.. complete virgin.. I kinda envy americans that had a chance ...

    Does this "fuckbuddy" stuff work? Cause so far when I talked with some friends they said its a bad idea.... is it bad? ends horribly? ends with regret ? (Im quiting them..)
     
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    I think the main problem with fuck buddies is one or the other becoming too emotionally involved.

    Maybe it's best if it's someone you've known for a long time and feel comfortable around non-sexually.
     
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    I have always liked the idea of it, though never have had one.
     
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    I have had one. It has been over since November, it was ruined by both of us getting emotionally involved with the other. It was my experience with him that had me in find this place.
     
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    In one currently.. it works out well. Sex without strings attached.
     
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    There's no need for any strings attached. :wink: Though, as I've recently discovered, heartstrings can be very fun to play with.
     
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    Does it work? Yes, and no. I think it's good for in-between times; when you're not in a love relationship and are looking for a unique kind of fun with a friend. I've never had it end badly, but perhaps I chose my buddies more wisely than some.

    It doesn't work forever, though, at least in terms of emotional satisfaction, at least not for me. When I met the "right" man, I stopped seeing all FWB. And although my marriage ultimately didn't work out, my new relationship has restored my faith in love...I wouldn't want to live without this kind of love, if I at all had a choice.

    Fuck buddies are fun, but they're not a substitute for a real companion.
     
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    Huh? It's 5:00 AM and I may be missing a key point; but if you were both becoming emotionally attached to each other, why did you not just take it to the next level and have a real relationship? :confused: I'm confuzzled. :confused:

     
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    Too many differences. We were in different life stages (he 32, me 43). He had hoped to have kids, I am excited at still being young and just about being done with child rearing. He was blue collar and I am a professional. My work requires after hours social commitments, something he would never have been comfortable with and I very much want a partner that can escort me to these events. More times than not he struggled with salary/position equating worth, which I found very odd since he had a ton of confidence. Our financial priorities were opposite and any next steps, such as shared living arrangements, would have spot lighted those differences and drove me crazy. Don't gripe about bills, when you are out buying the latest game system, newest rifle, electronic widget, etc. We parted on the best of terms, realizing continued time/emotional investment would be harder in the end.

    Does that alleviate your confuzzleness? :eek:)

    Ahh, the perils of the established woman. The young ones are great fun, but only for a time. The older ones seem to be lacking the lovin life attitude that assures adventures. This lady desires adventures.

     
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