B_subgirrl
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I knew that you would have a response for me:wink: We haven't been bantering enough lately! And I miss Petite!!!!!!
I agree!! About the bantering AND the missing Petite (but she's back now - yay!!!! :smile::smile::smile.
I posted in this thread earlier as well and said I wouldn't rule it out. I came close once, even went back to his place. I was there about fifteen minutes before I panicked and told him I had to go:redface: Epic fail (you're laughing your butt off which is cool), but it made me firm in my belief that I cannot get over the idea of letting someone touch me that isn't something more than just someone I'm attracted to.
You know me well - I DID laugh my butt off :biggrin1:! But I really love and admire how you can be sure of what you want and stick to it so well.
Haha, shuddery guys get the I'm an uber bitch don't even try it look. My best friend taught me:biggrin1: I'm more of a kitten, but some people tell me IRL they always thought I was stuck up until they got to know me. I tend to hold myself back sometimes and observe those around me. More of my weirdness:tongue: However, I also flirt and I don't even realize I'm doing it most of the time.
So you hold yourself back whilst accidentally flirting :tongue:?
Of course I would be giving and taking as well. We both view a lot of sexual feelings and needs the same way. The big difference is I'm never going to relax with someone I don't care about. So you may find satisfaction that way, but I cannot. Mentally I'm not going to let it go.
I respect your cannot-ness. I just don't get it. :smile:
I'm a hugger:smile: I'm sure I don't have to tell you that.
Somehow I knew you would be :tongue:.
I'm such a strange bird because I'm so very hippieish (is that a word) when it comes to everything except sharing myself with someone. It's the one time I feel like I let myself be completely vulnerable. It's hard to let that wall down and really let someone take control, I control everything, but I want to not be in control. Making crazy sense yet?
Totally. It sounds rather like me when I first discovered my sub side. Seriously. Until then I HADN'T let myself be totally vulnerable, even during sex.
I thought you did, but it wouldn't be a big deal if you didn't. Well maybe it would have because I see you as being very open minded like I try to be. I have my moments, but I work on those:smile:
We all have our moments :smile:.
I guess I frequently asked the wrong woman out.
Were you asking the kind who did, or didn't fuck on the first date? :tongue:
Now..i'd rather not have sex on a first date..I do tell you this..because it always makes me feel a bit nervous after about what they will think of me..
But second dates ..haha hell yeah..if the chemistry between us is obvious..Why not?
This I understand even less than I understand SG83's position. I can at least understand her position in an intellectual sense. But I don't understand your position at all. What makes the second date so different to the first?
I honestly believe now that men who think like that aren't worth keeping because of how they think, but I was young.
Totally agree. Not only do they have different beliefs to me which would make us incompatible, but on top of that, they're hypocrites!
TheBF and I also had sex on the first date, despite my promise to myself that I wouldn't because I wanted more than just a one night stand with him, and we ended up getting married and having a baby! I don't really think that TheBF counts, though. TheBF and I had known each other socially for months and we spoke on the phone for several hours every night for a month before our first date, ~120 hours of conversation, so we knew each other very well by then. Going out on the date was just our first opportunity to be in physical proximity to each other, and we just couldn't keep our hands off! It was just the best date ever!
That so doesn't count as first date sex!!!!
So for the ladies who've had sex with a person the first time they met, was there any feeling of risk or danger? Did that factor into your decision any? I feel like if I were a woman, I would wait more than one day just for safety.
Most of the time, having sex with them didn't put me into a dangerous situation. I can only think of two incidences offhand which could have been dangerous (but luckily didn't turn out to be).