Fucking tired of only getting to use first few inc

[islandfoz]

OK , all of us big guys are always faced with the fuck/suck dilemma. I don't care if you are gay or straight, this problem happens to all of us.

So instead of your usual relase, where you know how to handle your own dick, you have a favirote lube, and you pick out your favirote porno. I offer you these possible sexual problems I have observed when I attempt sex.

Problem A: :wub: Potential Sexual partner is greedy at the size of your dick, and enters the sexual situation, knowing well off they wont be able to fit you in there mouth or vagina/ass. But attempt it anyway.

Problem B: :lol: When oral sex is attempted, they barely get the head in, but rather then feel warm lips and tounge, all you get is some beaver carving on your pole. Or they are to frightned to even try, so stupidly keep banging it against there chin.

Problem C: :blink: Assuming we are all gentlemen, and take the time to loosen our partners up to accomidate our large size, ,they want us to fuck them. And although you were able to get a few fingers in before, there ass goes into shock and tightens, the second you push against the hole.

Problem D: So you got the head in, but it ain't taken no more. Your partner is whining for you to fuck 'em, but there ass just wont relax. So as you are trying, more and more lube, and trying to stay hard enough to fuck, they wont keep there ass in one place.

Problem E: Fuck, I cant feel my dick anymore. Being single, I take the side of using condoms. Between how tight the rubber is wrapped on you, and there way too tight, tense ass, you relize, you cant feel any sensations anymore.

The very rare Problem F: Ok, all of sudden, your partner nears there orgasm, the hole opens up, you go in for the deep dive, and BOOM, they have this intense orgasm all over the place. But now that your hard again and finnaly all the way in, they want you to pull out.

if problem F has happened you propably end up in Problem G: :wacko: They want to finish you off, by either bobing on your cockhead like there in an apple contest, or they get lazy and offer you the roughist handjob in your life. Now I do forgive them a little on this one, if they have never dealt with a large guy before, they may not understand how to handle a big dick with large balls. So you end up just jacking yourself off while they make wierd eyes at you till you shoot.


Alternate ending to problem G: They go to sleep, or leave, and you find yourself back with a porno, some lube and a towel again.

:wub:

 

[Franky]

Yes there is a lot to be said for only having 8"!

Franky

 

[B_RoysToy]

How big is that monster, islandfoz?

 

[D_Humper E Bogart]

Originally posted by Franky@Oct 20 2004, 04:40 PM
Yes there is a lot to be said for only having 8"!

Hey, nothing wrong with "only" 8 inches! I don't get half the grief and all the pleasure.

Sorted.

 

[hungthick]

islandfoz funny stuff...sad, but true stuff, nonetheless funny and i am sorry cos i know you are serious, but we have all been there (even those only 8 inches). I am 8x8 by the by

 

[GottaBigOne]

The problems that arise from being big are such that you can't really do anything about it, you can't change your physical nature (with surgery as an exception, but I wouldn't go there) It sounds harsh but you're just going to have to deal with it and live with the consequences of having a large penis. Try embracing the positive aspects of it a little, bit, will all bad things there comes some good things.

 

[jonb]

"Assuming we are all gentlemen"? I didn't know only gay men had anal.

 

[madame_zora]

Well, I guess it could apply to women too, although I don't know how many women are eager to take a huge guy anally. Since we don't have prostate glands, we don't get the same "payoff" for it.

 

[Mr._dB]

Originally posted by madame_zora@Oct 25 2004, 04:28 AM
Well, I guess it could apply to women too, although I don't know how many women are eager to take a huge guy anally. Since we don't have prostate glands, we don't get the same "payoff" for it.

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I know a number of women, both online and in real life, who are fully orgasmic from anal sex. The anus is close to enough of a woman's sensitive erogenous genital structures that there is still some payoff for her. The roots of the clitoris are in that area, for example.

Myself, no woman has ever offered me anal access.

 

[islandfoz]

Well I am glad I got some people to talk about this. Because it's not the kind of thing you can just bring up at the dinner table.
I wrote that email the night after , once again I was dumped because of them saying we were sexually imcompatible. what they were really saying was, "I hate the fact that your so big, you can't even use it for sex." A night prior to that, we had about our 4th attempt at failed sex. Obviously I was able to oral satisfy them, but for myself was eventually left to my own jerk off. The oral had failed, the anal had failed, and they had given up trying to jerk me because I am so thick, they could barely grip it, and when they did, it felt like they were trying to pull it off of me. In ended in a shared silence. Some staring at the wall, then they got out of bed, got dressed, and said they had to go, and ran out the door. I just sat in bed, trying to figure out what I had done. Never even said a word.

I have been checking back the past few days to see if anyone had responded yet. Find it intresting, the diffrent opinions about it so far. Still been thinking about it. I am sure all of you other guys, who have been shut down like that during sex, have had to take a little time to get back in the game again. Makes you constantly fearfull, that the bad situation will just keep repeating themselves like a Nightmere on Elm Street sequal. I will keep checking back to see what others have to say. So thank you so much.

To the guy who said "having a large penis is a consequence you have to live with". All I can say is, I hope you don't think of it as a consequence. I understand it is a gift, I guess. But just find the activity of sex a painfull expierence.

To the guy who asked how big is it. Well I always thought I was about 8x 6.5, becuase I had an ex that said he was 7x5 and I thought I was about an inch longer and and inch and half thicker. But later on, I was telling a good friend about my sexual problems, and he insisted on measuring. So the Official SIZe is: 9"x7",hard, with very large balls, 5"x5" when flacid, but my balls hang about 2 inches past my dickhead when soft.

 

[philberttrw]

Hmmm, so you speak Hebrew (thought it was only written these days, but I could be wrong) ? Nice... You can't happen to be Jewish, too? I think God toyed with humanity and put a massive percentage of big dicks on Jewish and Italian guys, in my experience.


Oh, and by the way. I'd N E V E R give up on a 9x7. it's called "fingering for a while, and using lots of lube and patience". Nothing hits a prostate right like a big ol' knob like that. Mmmmmmmm.

Will we be treated to a revealing gallery entry or an avatar?

 

[friskykitty]

islandfoz,

thank you for sharing the problems. i had to show my boyfriend that, he agreed with you on those claims and we got a good chuckle out of it. he's experienced the awkwardness of being intimate with someone only for it end up pointless and him feeling bad about himself afterwards. i'm currently experiencing his fear of that stuff right now. his fear of me rejecting him because of his size almost ruined our relationship because i didn't know that was what was keeping him from being intimate with me. we're still working on it.....not only physcially, but the trust it requires to maintain any relationship.

be well...
~frisky

 

[GottaBigOne]

The word consequence dosn't neccesarily have a negative connotation(sp?)

 

[madame_zora]

Islandofoz, I have said before and I will now say more firmly- it is important to find partners who WANT what we have to offer. Yes, I wish we lived in Utopia where we could just choose our mates based on personality alone, but for some of us it is simply not in our best interest.

While you're having all these problems with rejection, believe me, there are men (and women) who would give anything to find someone with your attributes! It certainly cuts down your available options to consider the physical and emotional aspects, but I feel sure that the healthiest relationships are ones where both things come together.

Since you've already run into problems, apparently more than once, I'd think it would be fair to mention your size before you actually get intimate and see what reaction your prospective partner has. You may be able to aviod a potentially unhappy experience, or if you're luckier, arouse some interest!

 

[GottaBigOne]

Madam, you're always about compatability. I understand your point completely, and I understand that sexual incompatability has been a huge problem for you. Since we don't live in a Utopia where we can find someone that can fit ALL our requirements don't you think there has to be some kind of compromise when hooking up with someone? If we all waited for the perfect person to coem along and never had to deal with some incompatabilities wouldn't we be searching forever?

 

[madame_zora]

Originally posted by GottaBigOne@Oct 26 2004, 03:59 PM
Madam, you're always about compatability. I understand your point completely, and I understand that sexual incompatability has been a huge problem for you. Since we don't live in a Utopia where we can find someone that can fit ALL our requirements don't you think there has to be some kind of compromise when hooking up with someone? If we all waited for the perfect person to coem along and never had to deal with some incompatabilities wouldn't we be searching forever?

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Oh, obviously! But if you've got a big dick and your partner wants no part of it, that's absurd. I'm just saying that your prospective partner should meet the top three on your list of ten, and being interested in what you have sexually would be in the top three for most of us. I don't beleive in perfect matches, but to be completely sexually incompatible is a pretty overwhelming obstacle and one I would not want to tackle by choice. If one were already desperately in love, that love would be enough impetus for most to be willing to work through it, but since our friend is just dating, it seems like a good idea, to me at least, to include that in things to look for in the hopes of having less "issues" to iron out. Just my .02

 

[13788]

cegro27: I think you have to search for that which is of most importance to you. If it's important for you to able to penetrate your partner deeply, then you need to find that person who's at least willing, at best excited to make that happen. You have to take the good with the bad. If you've got alot of size (and that's a GOOD thing in my book), then you have to be prepared for the chance that very few people will be able to handle it in the way that pleases you. It doesn't mean it won't ever happen, it just means that the right person hasn't come along yet. You may also find it a big help if you directly convey what you'd like to achieve during sex (other than orgasm) 'before' actually going at it, and see what reaction you get from that potential partner. It would eliminate any sudden disappointments afterwards. Since size is such an issue for you, being upfront with the person about what you've got is a must, because that will also give you a good idea about whether sex will be possible or not, depending on how they feel about your size.

I know that when I had my first well-hung guy, I was so enthusiastic and excited I could barely control myself. I put so much work and effort into giving him a bj that I amazed myself! I appeared to have all of this experience in handling big ones, yet I had none at all. Bottom line was that he didn't have to pull any of that excitement out of me, it came out of my own free will. That's the kind of person and attitude that will give you the sex you've been wanted to have. We didn't fuck that night, but if he had wanted to I was ready and definitely willing...I even took steps before we got together to make sure I was loose and relaxed just in case. B)

 

[benderten2001]

I think as men and as we mature (in years), our attitude about sex and the way it figures into a relationship........changes somewhat.

Yes, sexual compatibility---(as in sexual drive, sexual outlooks, and the physical abilities to accomodate each other) is very important. But, later on as we get older, many of us finally see that there are yet other (perhaps more important) aspects in a relationship, too.

I don't know islandfoz's age. Perhaps like many of us larger fellas, it IS discouraging to have all the challenges of "size" right now. Indeed so.
I just want him (and others reading) not to give up or get too overly discouraged.
There are women out there who appreciate large endowments and will NOT reject you. And there are women out there as well who will treat you (as a man) with respect and kindness and will nurture you in a relationship----IF that's what you want.

We have a lot of different types of responses here and reflective of different personalities. And----that's good! But, we can't draw definite conclusions from any of them. We have to arrive at the final decisions ourselves which is really how it's supposed to be.

As one of the older members around here....I can attest to learning first hand now that there's more to life than toting and bragging about being big. And penis size does not have to "dick-tate" ^_^ the quality of one's relationship---necessarily.
Penis size CAN BE managed and dealt with in any setting where two people really care about one another for the right reasons. Sometimes, living life day-by- day and learning down through the years are the only ways some of us men ever learn these valuable lessons. 'Guess I'm one of them.

 

[islandfoz]

:wub: Well I also believe it needs to be a compatiblity issue. But its not the kind thing one just mentions on a date. "Oh yes, by the way, I am very endowed, will you be ok with that, or am I going to hurt you? But please answer honestly, because I wouldnt want this to be dissapointing for both of us.
Usually, sex when dating, begins from some mutual passion that ignites. And once that starts, conversations usually end. Then there's the kissing, the grooping, the undressing, and then the foreplay and sex. I would say about 90% of the time, when the other person either first felt or saw my penis, there enthusiasm and excitement is incrdibly happy. It's when they try give you physichal pleasure where the nightmere begins. And although it's ok to say little things during sex, step-by-step verbal instructions can be a turn off to both partners. Things like, "just relax your jaw a little " or "be carefull with your teeth", or even "please, your still very tight, you need to relax a bit or I can't even get the head" Really, Really kill the mood. I am a very unselffish sexual partner, I take a lot of time with oral sex to relax my partner. I still have never been able to get anyone I have been with to relax enough to take even half of me. Usually I end up in the Situations I discussed in my first email in this topic.
To answer a few peoples questions. I am 28. Currently I am only working on dating. I was married from age 19 to 24. It ended badly. My spouse was having an affair, because they were tired of attempting sex with me. In the last few years, through talking to my ex, the guy they were having the affair with was half the size I was, and they found that was all the needed.
I always thought it was wierd that my ex was the one who cheated though, for years they insisted I must be screwing everying since I had a big dick. Wich was odd, because my ex knew of my day to day struggle of having a large penis. Things like, how hard it was to buy pants and underwear. Or how being a triathlete, I struggled with having to wear surfer shorts to compete in since it was too emmbarising to wear a speedo or bike shorts, let alone not having any support. I even went through a wierd thing at work, because a female co-worker thought I was coming on to her when we were talking, because she thought I was hard the whole time (I wasnt, my dick just happened to be laying across my leg due to the way I was sitting).
I understand, life with a large endowment is tough. Yes a gift, but a very time occupying gift. I guess the genreal opinion most people is, "Its just a dick, how much trouble/hassle can it be?" But those people obviosly dont read this web site, and have no idea how many varried issues we have.

Ok folks, keep it coming, I am really enjoying being able to talk to people about this. Making me feel a little better.

 

[13788]

Goon: My first girlfriend was quite experienced and (I learned later after more experience) was quite roomy downstairs. She insisted I was average. Strangely,after we broke up and she returned, her pussy used to get very swollen every time we had sex. My next girlfriend was smaller and she could not take the whole thing. We tried every position. The last year of our relationship she wouldn't have sex with me because it hurt too much. Funny thing was she called me a couple years later in tears because she'd met a guy she really liked but when they had sex, she said she couldn't feel anything. She said he was average length, a little on the slim side. She called me again months later and she was dating a thick guy and said things were better. Then I jumped the fence. I found most guys were turned on and determined. My first LTR with a guy, I injured him badly. I actually ripped him, it took a month for him to heal. We were really drunk.After that it was easier but he still had a hard time with my size. The next BF I had said it was too big and NEVER let me fuck him. He was a selfish prick. My BF now is very tight and I have to prepare with lots of fingering and lube for a LONG time before I can penetrate him. 4 years later it hasn't changed much. He said his last BF (his first) had a tiny penis. With a lot of guys I just ended up being on the bottom for this reason. Now it's not an issue, my BF loves my big dick and I love his. Yes, it's all about compatibility. And patience.