Fulfilled Fantasy Left Me Unfulfilled?

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  1. curiouscam

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    So far I have avoided actually starting a thread simply because my past seems to be so much more eventful than my present. Tonight though something finally happened worth bringing up for discussion. So here is the break down. Mind you this is about 30 minutes fresh so you all will be first to hear (read) this.


    Be warned this is kind of long and not in the way you like :p


    I have married friends I have known for a little over a year or so. Since we've become friends we have always joked around and been very open about our sex lives. A few times we have gotten on to the subject of size and what each of us were working with, never anything hardcore always very playful. In joking with them I learned that the husband was hung and not shy about discussing it, which I found comforting and a fucking turn on at the same time. Up until tonight I had never seen his cock save for a quick peek of a photo shown to me by his wife. Over this last year I have found the husbands openness to be a real turn on for me quickly becoming a spank bank source I withdraw often. Even though I've imagined all kinds of scenarios I honestly never thought to pursue anything for the simple facts that 1.I doubt he has any gay or bi tendencies and 2.He is a married man. Tonight however a strange thing happened.

    After getting dinner and a movie we went back to our friends house for some wine and late night shit talking. Of course my boyfriend decides he wants to drink his weight in Jack Daniels and basically makes it through an hour before passing out. So after deciding to just spend the night our friends and I just hung out in the living room watching stuff on YouTube. While the wife goes off to the restroom her husband says "Check this out. Don't tell her I showed you." So he shows me on the laptop a video of him and his wife having sex. For anyone else I am sure this would have been a shock but at this point nothing he ever said or did seemed to shock me. He laughed and pointed out her ass and jokingly raised the volume telling me listen for the funny sounds she was making. He quickly zipped through the video stopping at a part of them close up and in action.(Up until that moment the video was really not doing anything for me btw) So suddenly I see a full shot of his cock sliding in and out of her instantly giving me a hard on and fucking hot flashes. After a few seconds of watching his demeanor changed and suddenly he was asking me things about my sex life we had never discussed in detail before. I could tell he was clearly turned on and most likely waiting to pounce on his wife once she came back in to the room.

    When he wife came back to sit on the couch he hinted at the fact he had shown me the video and she just laughed and gave him a little love tap on the arm. As I went back to looking at YouTube vids I could tell they were getting a little hot and heavy on the couch next to me. I figured I would take it as a hint and head off to bed (To jerk the life out of my cock I was sure) Now without dragging this out any longer with the semantics I will get to the meat of it. Yes MEAT. I find myself kissing his wife on the couch next to him as he watches with a smile from ear to ear. A minute later I have her tit in MY mouth and my finger in HER mouth. He grabs both of us by the hand leading us to the room. So at this point I am thinking "This is the best day of my life, we are sooo fucking!" In the room he tells me to go ahead and enjoy her he wants to watch. So I did just that working myself down between her legs and eating the meal that was prepared for me as a good house guest should:wink: Eventually he joined us in bed with his fat stiff prick standing at attention. That was where it all went south, and not in that really good something is in someones mouth kind of way.

    While eating out his wife she motioned for me to move up so she could suck my cock. As she grabs my dick he decides to put his fingers in her mouth. I thought nothing of it at first except for the fact that after a while i was pretty much just being jerked off by her while he finger fucked her molars :/ So then he asks me to put my arm under her head and get closer, grabbing my hip and pulling my next to them. Then he starts kissing and fucking her with me next to them. Again all was good until he pretty much kissed her the ENTIRE time leaving me to just watch with their faces right in front of me. From position change to position change he always found a way to have me right next to them touching but not ever doing anything. After about 40 minutes I decided to just lay across the foot of the bed and stroke my dick while they did their thing. Once I started stroking he stops and comes over to me. He leans in and says "Do you want to suck my dick?" I moved so quick there had to have been a smoke outline of my body left at the foot of that bed. While the two of them kissed I sucked his dick like there was a fucking golden ticket hidden in it. After a short time he moved me out of the way and starts fucking his wife again. I was so sure that from that point they would want me in the mix, but I was wrong. It was just another 45 minutes of me being shuffled around the bed. Eventually he blew his load and laid there pleased as punch. I however had not cum at all and had been soft for at least 20 minutes. The two of them curled up and went to bed and that my friends was it. Not a word to me, not a thank you come again, nothing.
    Pissed and blue balling it I woke up the boyfriend in the other room and told him it was time to go. Fuck the sleep over. That whackness sobered me up with a quickness. The point of this loooong post is this: This should have been an amazing experience and a year long fantasy fulfilled. Instead it was weird and a total turn off. At first I thought maybe he just wanted someone to watch but he kept asking me to get next to them. I figured maybe he wanted to be the only one to enjoy her, yet he watched and encouraged me to eat her out. I even thought maybe he was not comfortable with me touching him too much but he asked me to suck his cock. More than anything I am super confused and kind of pissed. When I don't get off I am an unhappy camper:tongue: I felt like it was a mind fuck of mixed signals and it sucks. His dick was everything I imagined it would be and then some but the experience was a waste of saliva. I would LOVE to know everyone's thoughts on this because I am clueless:mad:
     
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    Dude, that's the problem with bringing your fantasies into real life. Threesomes tend to be nowhere near as fun as people would like them to be. One person comes too fast. One person comes too slow. Two people are in to each other and the third is...well, a third wheel.

    I'm sorry it wasn't all you wanted it to be.
     
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    That does seem pretty insensitive on the part of your friends.

    Maybe the threesome thing is new to them and they felt unsure about how to handle it. It may have been the first time that he even let a guy suck his cock. He may have had mixed feelings about acknowledging his own bi inclinations. I would give them the benefit of the doubt.

    I think that it is very hot that he wanted your face right in there. Yes, not getting off during this first encounter is understandably frustrating. But I am betting that this thing could go in some interesting directions.

    Sex aside, it seems like the long-term friendship is worth preserving.
     
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    Jeez. That sucks. How uncreative and selfish of them! Even if it was their first time, it's hard for me to imagine a MMF going that badly.

    I've been told about other threesomes that have gone that badly. Three of my friends got drunk once, two female and one male, and they started off all touchy-feely and kissing each other, but their "threesome" ended up being the guy fucking one woman while the other one just held his hand next to them and watched. She's the one who told me what happened, and her account sounded a lot like yours. It started off promising, and then just started being weird and awkward and she felt forgotten about and ignored.

    Another married couple who invited a bi friend to bed with them, the wife told me about their threesome. She was pleased by it, but she did say that there was this awkward moment when her husband was getting a blowjob from a man for the first time, and she said that he kept looking at her with this strange look on his face, like he felt guilty or apologetic for enjoying it. Overall, theirs seemed to go well during and after, except for that uncomfortable MM moment.

    I think I was lucky. When I had my MFM, I had never fantasized about having one, so I had no expectations to fulfill. Now that I fantasize about them all the time, it's probably a lot easier to be disappointed.
     
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    That's disappointing to hear! My only MFM remains one of my most exciting sexual experiences I've ever had! I just wish it lasted longer and we did more things. :tongue:
     
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    That's group sex for ya. It can be really disappointing. I stopped trying a long time ago. Many people want someone there, but not really.
     
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    Yeah, I've decided that I'm happy just fantasizing about it. I realize that I have a wonderful man who is exciting and fun and skilled in bed and I don't need anything more than that.

    This thread is a good reminder that some things are better left as fantasy.
     
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    I have had threesomes and though they can be hot, a great majority was as you described. Mind you all of them were MMM combos, but I found that even with all participants being gay, there is sometimes an undertow of jealousy on one of the couples' parts. Even when this isn't the case, having all participants engaged at every damn second can be hard to do, if not down right impossible. I wouldn't throw the friendship away. It was their first threesome, and it sounds like the first MM contact he had had (correct me if I am wrong). I would enjoy it for the hot moments, and don't stress out on the others. The fact is he did let you suck his dick. Point of fact he requested it, and then there is the whole you got to eat her out. If it happens again it may be a better scene, but you might want to discuss the particulars first so you have some idea of what to expect. That way you don't end up disappointed. From what you have told us I don't se it as being outside the realm of possibility for them to bring it up.

    And the not cumming thing? Yeah that can suck, especially if hopes were up and fantasies unfulfilled. However people cumming at different times happens in 3somes, and there are times in 2somes that I don't cum. As long as I don't have any unrealistic expectations during any sexual encounter, and if it is a multi partner scene then as long as I am not totally ignored, I can get over not cumming. Granted it takes me forever, so there are many times when I don't get there, so maybe that has taught me some patience with the whole thing! Lol Enjoy the ride. As long as the rollercoaster is fun and exciting overall, I can get over it not having that one last drop or loop:wink::tongue:
     
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    After I thought about it the fantasy was more just seeing his dick in action, which I obviously got to see. Getting to share his wife was a bonus. I do believe it was their first time so I can't hold it against them I guess. I just think it could have been amazing had he not been throwing out bipolar mixed signals. Now that I've had the chance to sleep on it a bit I realized I would have been satisfied just watching and rubbing one out:wink: If the opportunity presents itself again you better believe I AM PUTTING IT IN SOMEONE!
     
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    Agreed. The fantasy of him was better than the reality. Now that I know he is a selfish lover the way I imagined him no longer works. On the plus side his cock exceeded my expectations. It's a shame I spent so little time with it :wink:
     
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    I've said it here many times before: three-ways are almost always better between three otherwise disinterested parties: for ever one couple who really knows how to facilitate a three-way, there are five or six who let their drama or some strange and previously-undiscussed limit intrude on the fun. Groups are almost always better among strangers.

    Add to the list of things that are always better in fantasy (or porn) than real life: DP and gangbangs.
     
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    Again, it feels to me like "selfish" may be a bit harsh just because he didn't make sure that you had an orgasm during his first-ever threesome.

    Many couples are not able to jump in with both feet. For example, I recently heard from a guy who recently started MMF encounters with his wife. First time out, they only felt comfortable having the guy watch them fucking with no bodily contact involving him at all.
     
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    You're good pals. Talk to him about it. It'll probably be a good discussion. What have you got to lose? Maybe you can make it better.
    I've always enjoyed the 3sums I've been in. Learned a lot about myself and the others, not that they were easy emotionally for everyone. I wish it was more common and was something that 3 people would repeat over and over until they got it right; but I never had a 3sum with the same 2 people twice.
     
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    Hosting a good threesome takes experience. It sounds like it was their first time, so I'd be thankful for the experience and not hold it against them.

    If anything, you learned the number one rule when having sex with straight guys, never let them come first.
     
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    I could have gone without cumming had I actually been participating. Also I didn't expect for him to get me off. I just see it like this: He laid out a buffet, told me to keep the food warm, taste it to see if it needed anything else then gave me a tv dinner and sent me home.
     
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    Hmm...I thought the first rule when having sex with a straight guy was you don't have sex with a straight guy? j/k

    Turns out it was their first MMF threesome but not their first threesome in general. Apparently it is usually a MFF(or whatever order you'd like to put that in) for them and he is the main attraction every time.
     
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    Apparently everyone but you was satisfied. Next time -- if there is one -- be proactive and do what you want to do. If it's disagreeable to him/her, what's the worst that can happen? MMF threesomes need some choreographing.
     
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    Well he sent me a text earlier in the day to tell me quote "That was fucking hot!" while she sent me an email apologizing for the awkwardness. So I am beginning to doubt I was the only unsatisfied party hehe. In any case my dick will not be revisiting that duo again. :tongue:
     
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    I disagree with lots of people. I think they were being totally selfish.
    I'm with you.
    In retrospect, he seemed to be the most selfish, and ironically, the most turned on.
    It's interesting that he won't be getting it again from you, and the memory will be haunting him.
    You deserved a lot better than you got.
     
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