Fulfilled Fantasy Left Me Unfulfilled?
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Why don't you talk about it a bit with both of them and explain how you went home with blue balls, etc.? If they are that close of friends to have a threesome with, communication may open pathways that they didn't know they overlooked.
It sounds to me like you prepared her pussy by eating it FOR HIM, and perhaps when his dick needed a boost, engaged in your sucking skills until he got super hard again and then went back to her.
Have him hire a fluffer.
Fuck that.
It sounds to me like you prepared her pussy by eating it FOR HIM, and perhaps when his dick needed a boost, engaged in your sucking skills until he got super hard again and then went back to her.
Have him hire a fluffer.
Fuck that.
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Well this was a one time thing I think none of us were prepared for (Or at least I wasn't) I am sure it won't be the last time I try a MFM threesome. Only next time I will be THE star not the guest star. Then hopefully it will be great and I can tell you guys all about it:biggrin1:
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I did get a chance to talk to them yesterday and from what they tell me they both had entirely different experiences. He told me that he thought it was hot and he had never been so turned on before. She on the other hand said she was uncomfortable because she could see him "Cock Blocking" me (Her words) Both want to revisit the threesome ASAP and he even went so far as to ask me if I would be interested in messing around just the two of us whenever I am available. She agreed to this by the way. I basically just said Thanks but No Thanks. I enjoy them as friends and that will be all. :tongue:
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I hope you won't copy the aspects of your friend's attitude that bothered you so much. How about finding a situation where you and the other guy can be equal co-stars?
It still sounds like a situation full of possibilities to me! But clearly you are totally turned off by that experience with your friends. Best wishes for finding an MMF situation that you will love.
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If he's that excited, why was he doing all the cock blocking?
Was it a jealousy thing then, which became overwhelmingly hot in his memory, so much so that it is burning a hole in his brain, and he wants to have sex with just you? Did he have homopohobia, and had a breakthrough?
I'm not sure you are going to be able to be their friends after this, without telling him (at least) how you feel. You two just might be able to talk this one out.
At the very least, he can begin to understand why he was so turned on, and you were so turned off. That would be some valid communication, and might abate some of your anger. It would be very valuable for him, so that he understands how not to piss off the next guy, in his next threesome. It could very well benefit both of you.
Was it a jealousy thing then, which became overwhelmingly hot in his memory, so much so that it is burning a hole in his brain, and he wants to have sex with just you? Did he have homopohobia, and had a breakthrough?
I'm not sure you are going to be able to be their friends after this, without telling him (at least) how you feel. You two just might be able to talk this one out.
At the very least, he can begin to understand why he was so turned on, and you were so turned off. That would be some valid communication, and might abate some of your anger. It would be very valuable for him, so that he understands how not to piss off the next guy, in his next threesome. It could very well benefit both of you.
I have a feeling you wanted a threesome, but your male friend's idea of a threesome is to have you more as a voyeur when he is fucking than an active partner in the threesome.
I am not defending anybody's position; I am just stating that you two guys seem to have a different perspective/expectation of this experience.
I am not defending anybody's position; I am just stating that you two guys seem to have a different perspective/expectation of this experience.
One of the problems with spontaneous threesomes is that no boundaries/goals are discussed beforehand.
You have an opportunity to speak with them about it and I think you should. I'd suggest talking to them separately since they both have different ideas of what went down.
Be frank with the wife about what you thought would happen and didn't and if that could change the next time you try it again (and don't rule it out). Do the same with the husband...let him know about your disappointment and what you thought went wrong and ask him if he would allow you to be more of a participant instead of a voyeur. Does he have a problem with you fucking his wife (or him)? Is that why he cock-blocked you? Or was did he just have blinders on and did he think everything was going great?
If you are honest with them and ask them to be honest with you, I think your next threesome with them could be a much better experience for you.
You have an opportunity to speak with them about it and I think you should. I'd suggest talking to them separately since they both have different ideas of what went down.
Be frank with the wife about what you thought would happen and didn't and if that could change the next time you try it again (and don't rule it out). Do the same with the husband...let him know about your disappointment and what you thought went wrong and ask him if he would allow you to be more of a participant instead of a voyeur. Does he have a problem with you fucking his wife (or him)? Is that why he cock-blocked you? Or was did he just have blinders on and did he think everything was going great?
If you are honest with them and ask them to be honest with you, I think your next threesome with them could be a much better experience for you.
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He did admit a lot of things about what happened and he did know what he was doing. He was just confused having another man share his wife and also having the desire to be pleased by another man. He wanted me involved but he found it difficult to see that his wife was so receptive to me. He thought the fact that I brought her to orgasm eating her out was hot but he has never been able to do that which gave him feelings of jealousy. Hence the rush to head over and fuck her. He was feeling like he had to prove something to me as if he were marking his territory. He did also admit that he enjoyed me sucking his cock but it was bringing him too close to cumming so he had to stop me. He does want to try something just the two of us but I am not open to it at this time.
That thought had crossed my mind briefly. I did start to think I wanted it maybe more than they did but after talking to the wife, it just confirmed that I was not imagining things. She also believed he was giving mixed signals personally bringing me in to each situation only to shut me out in a way. He even said himself he didn't like me laying at the foot of the bed. He wanted me in there. I guess just not IN there :wink:
As I said above we did get a chance to discuss although it was to each person individually. It is my choice to not try another threesome with them even though they would like to. My main reason is I don't want to have to teach anyone. I know they are new to the MFM thing and that's great but I truly don't have the patience to walk them through it and have to explain what I want. I just need a couple with a little more experience next time around:tongue:
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I can't help but feel you are punishing the guy just a bit. Yeah, he was stupid, but it was his first MMF threesome. He has opened up and explained his feelings to you (which, I think, is huge) I am assuming you told him yours. He thought you were so good that he had to stop you because he was about to cum! That should be a damn well huge ego boost for you! lol Now if you take that comment, and his others, his worry that you were pleasing his wife in a way he hadn't, I just think he was a bit shaken up.
I would actually take him up on his offer for the one on one. It could just be a matter of his feeling comfortable with you in a sexual sense. He may just need that little nudge to not see you as a threat to his standing with wife as well as be able to explore his desire for you without the pressure (don't know if that is the right word) of having his wife (in his mind) gauging/grading his every reaction.
It's only my opinion of course, but he seems like an overall good guy (there is a reason you are fiends, no?) and while "teaching" can be a bit of a pain, sometimes the tutoring sessions can be rewarding all on their own! And who knows, this could be the start of something really special.:smile:
I would actually take him up on his offer for the one on one. It could just be a matter of his feeling comfortable with you in a sexual sense. He may just need that little nudge to not see you as a threat to his standing with wife as well as be able to explore his desire for you without the pressure (don't know if that is the right word) of having his wife (in his mind) gauging/grading his every reaction.
It's only my opinion of course, but he seems like an overall good guy (there is a reason you are fiends, no?) and while "teaching" can be a bit of a pain, sometimes the tutoring sessions can be rewarding all on their own! And who knows, this could be the start of something really special.:smile:
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My wife and I frequently share our bed. We swing with 3 other couples that live with us. The sex is great and rarely do we spend an evening alone. Yesterday 2 of my buddies spent the evening in bed fucking my wife and I. Tonight my other buddy and I are probably spending the evening with another friend's wife. We have been doing this for a very long time, all the men and women are bi, and our basic ground rule is that everyone should enjoy all their partners and enjoy the sex.
If you ask anyone in our group about our lifestyle, and why we do it, they will first discuss the depth of our relationships. The eight of us are all extremely close, and have been for years. Sharing sex partners with each other is just a natural extension of personal relationships with each other. If it was only about the sex, these relationships would not have lasted the test of time; we have all been together since college.
So I would disagree with the posters that say 3-somes and group sex is best with strangers. With strangers there is the whole issue on communicating your wants and desires. With closes friends it is more natural to communicate this.
You have a close relationship with this couple. Build off that close relationship and open up a dialog about your evening. If the three of you are interested in trying it again then discuss the ground rules, set expectations, have a game plan, and keep communicating with each other.
Of course there is a down side to living out a fantasy; what are you going to replace that fantasy with? Maybe for some people keeping a fantasy a fantasy is a good choice.
If you ask anyone in our group about our lifestyle, and why we do it, they will first discuss the depth of our relationships. The eight of us are all extremely close, and have been for years. Sharing sex partners with each other is just a natural extension of personal relationships with each other. If it was only about the sex, these relationships would not have lasted the test of time; we have all been together since college.
So I would disagree with the posters that say 3-somes and group sex is best with strangers. With strangers there is the whole issue on communicating your wants and desires. With closes friends it is more natural to communicate this.
You have a close relationship with this couple. Build off that close relationship and open up a dialog about your evening. If the three of you are interested in trying it again then discuss the ground rules, set expectations, have a game plan, and keep communicating with each other.
Of course there is a down side to living out a fantasy; what are you going to replace that fantasy with? Maybe for some people keeping a fantasy a fantasy is a good choice.
B_willy5904
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I think you are missing a great opportunity. One of the things I love about sex is learning from my partners what turns them on and teaching them how to turn me on. It is all part of communicating with each other.
It is hot thinking about you teaching him how to eat his wife's pussy till she cums. She can teaching him how to suck your cock, I sure there is something you can learn from him. You could introduce both of them to anal sex. For me sex is not just about me sticking my big dick into a tight dark hole, it is about me learning how to provide the maximum enjoyment to my partners. To do this I need to keep the biggest sex organ of all engaged; my brain.
It is hot thinking about you teaching him how to eat his wife's pussy till she cums. She can teaching him how to suck your cock, I sure there is something you can learn from him. You could introduce both of them to anal sex. For me sex is not just about me sticking my big dick into a tight dark hole, it is about me learning how to provide the maximum enjoyment to my partners. To do this I need to keep the biggest sex organ of all engaged; my brain.
B_Nicodemous
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Beautifully put! I would listen to him.Also, remember what others have posted, you don`t want to become what you despised him for in you first encounter ; you don`t want paople to veiw you as selfish. Instead of veiwing it as who is going to be the star of the sgow, try to think of it as how can we make this ensemble the best out there
It is something you and him would do well to learn =) Plus think of how hot it could be! lol
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Beautifully put! I would listen to him.Also, remember what others have posted, you don`t want to become what you despised him for in you first encounter ; you don`t want paople to veiw you as selfish. Instead of veiwing it as who is going to be the star of the sgow, try to think of it as how can we make this ensemble the best out there
I think both of your points are valid I just think in an effort to reply to everyone's comments I may have portrayed myself in a way I had not intended. First and foremost they are good friends of mine and that is what I would like to preserve. I know this experience stirred up many things for both of them good and bad. I love that we can talk about it without shame, yet we have always been open about our sex lives prior to this. After talking to them about everything I just see things going in a direction I did not want. I made my feelings about that night clear to both of them and I just think what they would like out of this situation I do not. The turn on is not me having sex with the husband alone and then planning a day to have sex with his wife alone. It was the chance to share them. The way they would like to continue unfortunately does not work for me. So if it means there is no sex going on between us that is fine as long as we are all still friends.
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B_Nicodemous
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Oh, ok. Wellthen that is of course your decision. Aslong as you are all on the same page. One final thought thought. Perhaps you can be with the guy one on one then the two together, seeing as how it is the guy was the stumbling block. So if he and you get comfy with one another, then perhaps the threesome would work. But I am glad that you and them talked about it. At least you can keep the door open for the future!:wink:
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