Full swinging and orgies from a woman's perspective?

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by Wyldgusechaz, Dec 15, 2006.

  1. Wyldgusechaz

    Wyldgusechaz New Member

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    In ancient
    Rome and Greece, and later Venice, orgies and multiple sex partners were common.

    Full hard swapping and orgies are now very much coming into their own amongst certain of the educated and wealthy, very attractive and beautiful people. It still is tho quite taboo most everywhere. It is very fun and exciting.

    I think more guys would love to have multiple swapped sex partners for no strings hot sex. The women here on LPSG seem to be more honest and upfront about their physical needs. Are most women ( and I am talking about you and any of your friends you can think of) intrigued or revolted by the idea of hard swinging? Do you think its a societal thing to avoid something like open sex, that females have been socialized away from more overt sexuality, , or do you think its more hard wired into the female anatomy/primality to be monogamous and not share their man.
     
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    I don't know any women who are into this.

    I could be a swinger, but I don't find the idea of orgies appealing. Maybe it's b/c all the males I've known who've been in orgies talked so disrespectfully about it. I also don't like watching other ppl have sex.
     
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  4. Principessa

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    I think women have been socialized away from more overt sexuality.
    Let's face it much of the US still thinks that women who enjoy sex are sluts. I've had a threesome with two men before. Since becoming a butt slut I have become interested in trying it with 3 men, but I don't think I would want that on a regular basis. Plus, and this is VERY IMPORTANT no ones wants an STD, especially one of the incurable ones. That would be foremost in my mind even with condom usage.

    If I knew for a fact that I could be a hard swinger and not get anything other than orgasms; I'd definetely try it but not make it my lifestyle. I like the intimacy a relationship provides, that feeling of really knowing a man warts and all.


     
  5. va_lk_yr_ie

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    There is certainly a component of social taboo surrounding this - especially for women, but also to a large extent for men. The prevailing attitude is still that sex is a monogamous activity. Either in shorter, serial monogamy (i.e. a string of shorter sexual relationships while single - they may not be very long, but they're still mostly exclusive to that person while they last); or in a longer, monogamous relationship - married or non-married.

    I don't subscribe to that, neither does my partner. We do have a strong relationship, in my opinion stronger than many other I've seen. We've been together for 12 years, going on 13 - quite a long time - and both know that we've found (one of) our partner(s) for life. For us it's natural that we will find others attractive and for us it's also natural that we want to act upon that attraction.

    We do see other partners and couples together, but also on our own. For C only other women as he's not turned on by men; for me both men and women as I like and enjoy being with both. Our one hard fast rule - totally open communication - whatever happens the other partner knows, no exceptions. And safe sex of course (even if we have moved away from that in some select cases where we've had an ongoing relationship for years).

    In some cases it's "only" good sex and a nice time together, in some cases it evolves to what you might describe a secondary relationship - either with just one of us or both of us. We do find that when "good sex" is transformed to "great sex" it's usually when feelings enter the picture. Yes, we both fall slightly in love with some of the partners that we see - those feelings enhance and add to the experience. It's also our strong conviction that feelings of love can't be exclusive to one person - and that they're strong enough to cover multiple partners. We have not yet experienced, but are fully open to the possibility of expanding our relationship to also include other partners - most likely another woman, but perhaps also another couple.

    Just to illustrate - this very weekend C is away, in another country, seeing a woman that he met a month ago while on vacation. It's not entirely unlikely this is a woman that in the future could be a third partner to us both, for now she's only a partner to C. For my own part I'll spend the weekend with one of my male lovers - he'll pick me up sometime during the afternoon and drop me off at work Monday morning after two nights together.

    It's probably not a very common way of going about a relationship, but it works for us and we are happy with it. Thus see no reason why we shouldn't do it as it's not "the common thing to do".
     
  6. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    I think alot of women are intrigued by 3somes and orgies. However we have been taught by society that 'ladies' dont do that kind of thing. Even though we can be more forthright about what we like, want, need it is very hard to ignore the sterotype you face by people. Personally i give full credit and respect to the women who have decided what they want is more important than what society thinks
     
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    Well said Lee. We have not tried it, but have discussed it-and while the thought does intrigue me, I am not sure I could watch him with another partner. He doesn't feel the same about watching me.

    It does provide some added spark in the bedroom and I suppose if the perfect situation presents itself, I likely would take full advantage.
     
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    Generally the women orgy participants in those societies would have been slaves, servants, or prostitutes. All three would also have included male prostitutes as a matter of course, the norm in societies where it hasn't been deranged by homophobia is bi. In the heyday of La Serenissima, women prostitutes found dressing like boys improved business.

    Im sure you could find all male orgies in larger cities.


    Give up your heterocentrism and you can have your wish.

    There are also people who identify as polysexual, meaning they want to be at least a threesome, it's not just sex though.
     
  9. va_lk_yr_ie

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    That would be me. :smile: Although I prefer the term 'polyamorous'. As you so rightly pointed out - it's not just about sex, but the wish to have a relationship on more than two.
     
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    If you'd seen some of the documentaries on swinging that I've seen I think you'd realise it isn't only the beautiful that are into it lol
     
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    You are very right Denise. Having in the past (years ago) participated in gang bangs, river parties that turned into a full mulitple sex fest, swinging at peoples homes, and a few threesomes with wives and their husbands, I found it was best to not only meet the people you were going to do this with, but also to know them fairly well. To be invited to a gathering and see that you are not interested in the people once you get there is not cool. You might also become a participant in something you are not interested in at all. Have had offers recently but find it hard to want to get into it anymore because of the fear of aids. Safe sex sometimes isn't safe enough.
     
  12. Gisella

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    When the ancient situation of those cultures is brought to my mind I do not beautify the orgies that went on as some people may do..I do think first of all in depravity because incest in high classes, plus the slavery and what people were force to do and become... plus deseases as siphilis, gonorreia and etc marked and kill people...there were not antibiotics and good hygiene going on...

    I dont find a sex society appealing where sex is market and is consumed in mass dictations by business that make $$$$ infiltrating people minds...like the amount of porn we see, where at least to me most is not appealing and are made in mass. The women is objectify and we see a bunch of males ejaculate in one woman as a fun thing, or the butts of a few strategicaly line up and a guy or few guys fucking them on a line...:rolleyes:

    I come from a sensual culture, machist but sensual...we do have party culture and the great party Carnaval where for 3 days if one fancy it can become an orgy. But to most is a great celebration that may include sex.

    Well, in my mind when we are young 18 to 25...:tongue: those are the days that we may experiment all the 'decadence' with gusto and freedom. We are young, free and very bold...and the responsabilty we have is with ourselves, to have safe sex and choose sex parteners wise.. But as we mature and had channels to had live almost all we fancied, we do tired..even the cock playboy gets tired of a life style of excess. Than I do think that many who wish to live with excess is because never lived it..or married young, or was to up tight or whatever. And now they want to live it. Plus the boring insatysfaction of a boring couples lives may itch to go overboard...but even if I felt the need in those situation I would not want to play with my partener the swinger life style but would opt for an open relationship: I choose mines, he choose his and we play apart. Knowing myself as I know I would leave that relationship for good. I cant fuck with another man having a husband.

    I do not fancy orgies. I dont fancy swingers life style. I dont fancy strange people beautiful or not and I dont like to share my body with strangers. None of that appeals to me. The only situation that I may live and if it the perfect opportunity arises with the right persons happens would be MFM. But I do not fancy that a male involved in it would be my partener. All other scenarios I do pass ...
     
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