Fun with Friend

[D_Relentless Original]

C'mon guys,,, he's probably looking for a little help and reassurance with his decision, not picking apart his words

Seconded, ^

 

[Pendlum]

And what a hot night stick it is.

Thank you! :wink:

C'mon guys,,, he's probably looking for a little help and reassurance with his decision, not picking apart his words

I'll assure him that whether he chooses to go through with more sex with guys, or not, neither is the wrong answer, and both are the right answer. So just go with what you feel is right, don't get hung up on what you label yourself. If you are going to label yourself, it should reflect how you feel, not what you think is the best choice. And always remember, labels can change, just look at Pepsi, they have a million of them. But it is still the same soda, so if you decide to identify differently, know that you aren't any different than you were before.

 

[Hockeytiger]

#1) Don't let a label dictate your actions. If you want to try it, go for it. But only if you are truly curious about it. Some sexual experimentation is normal, though is usually done at an earlier age. Don't get wrapped up in what is "straight" and what is "gay". Sexual experimentation is about helping you figure out who you are. The act itself doesn't determine anything.

#2) Trying out gay sex doesn't make you gay. It makes you open minded. Let me say it again, wondering what gay sex is like does not make you gay, nor does trying it out. Bisexuality (and homosexuality for that matter) is not an infectious disease. You can't suck a cock and become gay. If it were, then homophobia wouldn't be a phobia, it would be a perfectly rational response.

#3) Sexual orientation is determined by sexual desires, not sexual actions. Thus, there is no act that you can perform that is "too far" for a straight man. Do your fantasies regularly involve other guys? If so you might not be straight. But only you can really determine that (see #4) since it is a matter that is solely in your mind. What is going on in your head is the best way of determining such things. But in my opinion I wouldn't get too wrapped up about it. You are who are.

#4) Only you get to determine your sexual orientation, so ignore the controlling fools who like to deny you the right to determine it for yourself.

 

[martizjon]

thanks for the advice so far guys,

your right about labelling people you are what you want to be and not what people label you.

i have no interest in doing anything with any other guys, its because im comfortable with him we've been friends since kids but this has only started in the last year or so and not that many times. but i dont have any real urge to go further but happy to keep messing around. Maybe its a thing that i feel ill want to do in time?

we both date girls, spend most our time talking bout girls and checking out girls, so im not sure what the deal is, and it usually involves alcohol!

 

[drac]

You are horny baby, and its just available to you both to get it done, sounds like you 2 can have fun with it, and when its done, no problem. Good situation.

 

[martizjon]

thanks for the advice so far guys,

your right about labelling people you are what you want to be and not what people label you.

i have no interest in doing anything with any other guys, its because im comfortable with him we've been friends since kids but this has only started in the last year or so and not that many times. but i dont have any real urge to go further but happy to keep messing around. Maybe its a thing that i feel ill want to do in time?

we both date girls, spend most our time talking bout girls and checking out girls, so im not sure what the deal is, and it usually involves alcohol!

 

[RubberHarley]

From your photos, I'm sure your friend would enjoy your dick. Just try it. After all, it is only sex.....

 

[Hanger2]

Just have fun. If it feels good, go for it. Just don't try to over-analyse it afterwards, you will just beat yourself up.

 

[boerkie]

it has always baffled me that there are some amomg us that cannot relate to an issue unless thet slap a label on it!!

sexuality is made to be sooo complex and we lose the basic rnjoyment of the moment by having to check first what the label du jour is!!

enjoy it, respect each other's boundaries, but do not allow the "fence you in police" to corral you!!

 

[Silvertip]

... we both date girls, spend most our time talking bout girls and checking out girls, so im not sure what the deal is, and it usually involves alcohol!

It would be reasonable to assume that the alcohol simply helps free you from the inhibitions that society has placed on you. I agree with the earlier comment that your actions thus far, and your contemplation about going further, simply speak to your open mindedness. I also agree with the many thoughts shared in this thread that the "labels" are the problem here.

I've often expressed my opinion about what those labels mean to me. And that is whether you are straight, bi or gay should be based on whether you can have an amorous, soul-partner relationship with only a member of the opposite sex, a member of either sex or only a member of the same sex. That's the thing that seems to be inherent in each individual and not something that easily changes. Just having good clean hedonistic sexual fun with someone is always a matter of choice and there's no harm done as long as everyone involved is comfortable with what's happening.

ST

 

[sab84]

Just do as you feel like... it's in human nature to be curious and experimentalist ... else we'd still be living in caves...

Don't listen to the people labeling her or anywhere.... It's gonna be between you and your buddy and might end up bringing you closer...

 

[horneyoldguy]

Enjoy yourself and don't worry about labels.

 

[123scotty]

I never get my head round this label's thing and also the % straight /gay on here,labels cause damage and guilt, why can't people just accept that they enjoy what they have, with whoever, whenever rather than labeling themselves like atin of beans.

100% beans in tomato sauce and added sugar

sorry just had to do that

 

[Countryguy63]

martizjon,

Keep us posted with any updates, no matter what you choose.