g/f shows naked pictures of me to friends.

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by theseareghosts, Nov 12, 2008.

  1. theseareghosts

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    i have been a relationship for about a year now and have recently found out my g/f has been showing her friends naked pictures of me. to preface this story when we first started dating we would email or send, via cellphone, naked pictures of each other just to tease one another which is something that i really enjoyed. so, about a month ago one of her friends comes back from europe and they are talking and she tells me that her friend shows her some pictures of them having sex and some of his cock. i was surprised to hear her say this, i didn't know that her and her friends were into showing each other that kind of thing but i dont really care. she tells me this and i ask her if she ever showed her friends pictures of me cock and she says in a sheepish/sarcastic voice "nooo, i would never do that." i realize that she just bullshitted and call her out on it. so she tells me that is just something her friends do and its no big deal. then i say to her, "remember that conversation that we had about how i shouldnt show my friends those pictures of you and that you should do the same for me?" and she just blows it off and says "well you have a really big cock, and i wanted my friends to be jealous and they really like seeing it, seriously they think it is really fucking hot. they sometimes ask to see pictures of it, so dont feel weird and at least you're a lot bigger than any of their boyfriends or whatever." now i feel mildly conflicted about this.... on one hand i dont care that her friends see naked pictures of me, but she did say that she wouldnt show them so its kind of weird. i dont know if i should feel kind of mad or just enjoy the whole exhibitionist part of me that likes it.

    anyone else have something like this happen?
     
  2. D_Eric_the_Bred

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    My wife ha shown her friends our pics/movies (with my permission thought) and it has lead to swinging and threesomes, so I wouldn't worry too much!
     
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    I'm in the same situation as Canuck_Viking.. Then again we've never had a no showing policy but of course you have to use discretion.
     
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    I love it when my girlfriend talks about my cock to her friends... even better when they talk to me about it !

    Take it as a complement !
     
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    agree w/mutley...when you dump the gf..and i suspect you will..this is a major issue for you, watch out for her friends to contact you for a date...if you were a good lover the calls will come soon...
     
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    no, i will not be dumping her. im actually in the process of getting her a ring. we have an amazing relationship and we're really great together. its not really a major issue, i was just mildly out off that she didnt tell me sooner, and was wondering if anyone else really ran into a situation similar and how they dealt with it.
     
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    its pretty hot dude, sounds like shes proud of you :)
     
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    Thereareghosts -
    That is a lot of fun to take and send naked pics. back and forth to the g/f of each other. I have done that many times. I never showed anyone hers b/c she asked me not to but found out that she had shared mine with people. I never cared that she did so it wasn't an issue, but just on the principle of the matter that you and your g/f had a spoken arangement to NOT share your private pics, would piss me off hugely. But in the end if its not a big deal for you then i wouldn't worry about it.
    But in future i would be extremely clear when making and agreement that you (together) won't do something or to do something, that she understands how important such a thing is for you.
    This time a few naked pics which you can deal with, but next time it might be something that really upsets you if she doesn't honor her word.
    Good luck finding the ring.
     
  9. Corius

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    LPSG is a grand site to "let it all hang out" and be your very most honest self. But, in the case of an on-going relationship I believe you would be well-served by keeping what happens sexually between you and your girlfriend as strictly personal and private. I have found that the rest of the world is entitled to only what they see and most folks will respect your right to privacy. One of the fringe benefits is that it add to the wonderful aura of mystery about sex. I am free to let my mind imagine all sorts of things about my new partner's sex history but I would never ask her (or him) about it. What your girlfriend has done demonstrates poor manners; you may want to forgive and forget her lapse but she ought to shape up as well.
     
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    You freekin hot Nashboy. I'd be proud to show you off.

    I keep a barrage of porno on my phone and when showing off my favorites, I have shown off my husband (Yeah, we married before the vote out here, 14 years is all it took) He gets kinda excited when I do the, He is a bt of an exhabitionist. The people don't know its him so it makes it even more hot.
     
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    It's ok dude, I had a couple friends take a picture of my cock, and not only did 1 of them show it to all her friends, but also to her sisters and mom. One time I walked in to her house and her mom said "So you're that guy with the big dick huh?" Awkward
     
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    I was dating a girl earlier this year and we started exchanging pics. I never showed anything to any of my friends(well nothing with any nudity anyways), but I asked her one day if she ever showed anyone the pics I sent her. She said she showed one friend because the friend wanted to see the huge cock that was making her so happy and putting a smile on her face. Said that her friend had a hard time believing it because she was so small (like 5'2" i think). I think she might have been blowin' smoke up my ass a bit about the friends reaction, but it was very flattering...

    Oddly enough now that I think about it, it was fun to be objectified by a girl in the situation that I was in where it wasn't serious, but I don't think I would like it if a woman I thought I was going to marry was showing pics like that. Weird...
     
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    i'd feel kinda betrayed that she didn't tell or ask me first. at the same time, i'd feel kinda honored in a really fucked up way haha
     
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    This is a very interesting situation, ghosts! Interesting indeed. If I were in your position I would feel slightly betrayed. You are just in thinking this. I'm not counseling you on anything but bear in mind this situation when telling your girlfriend a secret for next time or really anything you're going to trust her on. It could be very simple in that she's proud of what you're packing, because you are, and wants her friends to be jealous. It could be that simple, but she did brush it off so that leaves a bit of speculation. I'm going to say she's just trying to get her friends jealous, because right off the bat that's what a lot of people would do. Some would be more considerate about it, but from what I've read it sounds like she might be a horn dog and wants to let the whole world know.

    Lastly, I don't know what kind of guy you are, if you're into threesomes and that whole bit, but if so go for it and use what has seemed as a betrayal to your advantage. Obviously she doesn't seemed bothered by showing everybody she knows and as mentioned that could be a problem. Don't worry though, because it mightn't be. You decide.
     
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    HAHAHAHAHA. WOW DUDE, THAT'S RIDICULOUS. Was she a cougar at least?
     
  16. Viking_UK

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    An interesting experiment would be to tell her you'd shown her pics to some of your friends (without having done that) and see what her reaction is. I bet she wouldn't be so understanding over the breach of trust.

    The only real problem with doing that is it might destroy what trust you have left between you.
     
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    For me the reality of the situation is that once you've sent someone a personal pic you really have no control over what they do with it. I once let a mate take a phone pic to send to his girlfriend when we were hanging out together at a nude beach- it was only after he'd sent it that I thought about the fact that it was probably going to do the rounds of her her friends, then all their friends etc.
    I can understand the feeling of being betrayed, once I found out my partner had shown others some old polaroids- and after being initially slightly pissed off I decided to just let it go- I'm proud of my dick and to be honest enjoy the fact that others are impressed with it.
     
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    My gf tells all her peers and hair dreser, nail worker, co workers, etc how good I am in bed and I like it. Im glad I can please her so much. She started sending me naked pics and i said what the hell and sent a few her way. She is very happy about them.
     
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    that would be kinda funny. i second this motion!
     
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