Garrett Clayton

Funny thing how rumors of someone being gay are percibed as something negative or bad, but when people do come out, being gay is something positive that everyone must congratulate and celebrate

Like... no? Or at least, you're describing two different audiences.
 
Funny thing how rumors of someone being gay are percibed as something negative or bad, but when people do come out, being gay is something positive that everyone must congratulate and celebrate
I think it’s just wrong to try to out someone or make up rumors just cause a man isn’t completely over the top masculine it’s really disturbing to see gay men try to make it seem like everyone who their attracted to is gay also but that’s just my opinion
 
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I think it’s just wrong to try to out someone or make up rumors just cause a man isn’t completely over the top masculine it’s really disturbing to see gay men try to make it seem like everyone who their attracted to is gay also but that’s just my opinion
I agree with you. What I meant is that people are so hipocrit. Why can’t we just be like “oh let’s leave that person to be whatever he/she wants to be”. I mean, many people still see the gay rumors as something to be ashamed of, and the other part start those rumors to try and force reality into their own fantasies. Either way, men and women aren’t able to have a normal life, without people making assumptions about their private lives.
 
I agree with you. What I meant is that people are so hipocrit. Why can’t we just be like “oh let’s leave that person to be whatever he/she wants to be”. I mean, many people still see the gay rumors as something to be ashamed of, and the other part start those rumors to try and force reality into their own fantasies. Either way, men and women aren’t able to have a normal life, without people making assumptions about their private lives.
I just think no one should be hiding in the closet but at the same time nobody should be pressured into coming out if they don’t want to and people definitely shouldn’t make up assumptions which gay men tend to do I just let people live. sexuality or gender shouldn’t be important anymore
 
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I just think no one should be hiding in the closet but at the same time nobody should be pressured into coming out if they don’t want to and people definitely shouldn’t make up assumptions which gay men tend to do I just let people live. sexuality or gender shouldn’t be important anymore

I think you're missing the context of the experience (and ubiquity) of being or having been closeted. Unless the guy has some physical or vocal tells, all sexual and romantic conquests start with an "is he/isn't he -> I hope so -> watching like a hawk for signs"

As a straight woman I don't think you have the same context in your sexual or romantic interactions.
 
I think you're missing the context of the experience (and ubiquity) of being or having been closeted. Unless the guy has some physical or vocal tells, all sexual and romantic conquests start with an "is he/isn't he -> I hope so -> watching like a hawk for signs"

As a straight woman I don't think you have the same context in your sexual or romantic interactions.
Ok but even if I’m a straight woman (who has been in several relationships with women and non-binary people) there’s different types of coming out and I did come out so I do know the experience and I think no one needs to hide in the closet
 
Ok but even if I’m a straight woman (who has been in several relationships with women and non-binary people) there’s different types of coming out and I did come out so I do know the experience and I think no one needs to hide in the closet

It isn't safe for many people in many places to come out. You having an easy coming out process doesn't mean everyone, or even most people do. Some people have their life or job or family on the line.